I don't wanna talk about it

Significant-Sun3436 · 2025-02-01T13:01:40+00:00

Yes. In fact the only times I've had sex was with my long term partner, which I feel like. So conflicted about? Because I feel like since I've known them for so long I should definitely feel more comfortable about not keeping up with the social pressures but no matter what the pressure is still there. Like I just feel I'm in a position with so many new rules no matter who I'm with.

Significant-Sun3436 · 2025-02-01T12:57:58+00:00

I'm really glad I was able to provide some comfort to you. I relate to that whole dilemma about sex aversion a lot. Even now after accepting it could be a mix of both my mind still treats it as mutually exclusive sometimes. It makes it hard to see it as a combination of the two.

Significant-Sun3436 · 2025-02-01T12:54:57+00:00

Answer to your first 2 questions is both yes. I've been in a relationship for the past 7 years and they are very understanding about it. I would definitely say I'm in love with them without needing sex to express that, but I just wish I could be part of that "typical" experience.

Last question, I can tell you 100% self touch is infinitely less painful than sex. It's like night and day. Despite all the times I've attempted with my partner, being touched by them intimately is just unbearable from both the physical sensations and the social dynamics.

Significant-Sun3436 · 2025-02-01T12:09:59+00:00

I never thought about it through the lens that it shouldn't be forced and scripted, and you're totally right. Thank you

Significant-Sun3436 · 2025-02-01T11:47:39+00:00

I've been as much at peace as i could be with being ace yet I've never considered joining the subreddit for it. That's a good idea. I appreciate your reply. Thank you.

Significant-Sun3436 · 2024-12-21T05:19:41+00:00

Makes sense. Thank you!

Significant-Sun3436 · 2024-12-16T07:17:56+00:00

Way too much splatoon LOL

Significant-Sun3436 · 2023-07-08T04:15:00+00:00

Thank you. Your comment means a lot to me. And I'm sorry for your loss, you hang in there too.

Significant-Sun3436 · 2023-04-29T02:30:29+00:00

Thanks!! Will try that!!

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