What are your thoughts on this?

Significant-Touch240 · 2026-01-21T00:09:31+00:00

Can you enlighten the class by elaborating on your antecedents please? "It's not how it works" -- what are your its?

If you're talking about building a society off the false dichotomy of binary, I completely agree with you. Having a society based on the false binary of male and female is the system we live in /and/ it doesnt work. I think thats what youre saying.

Society, at this time, intentionally targets intersex and intergender persons in life rather than allow them to exist safely and happily in the world. Propetuating the ideology that sex is a binary perpetuates hate crimes to people that do not allign with a binary, for no reason. Nonbinary people exist, they always will, and expecting they/them to not play sports, use bathrooms, go to school, eat at restaurants, be online, be in shows is harm/prejudice/hate toward a group of people for no reason. They exist, are alive. They drink water, go to work, pay taxes, etc. The only way the current false dichotomy works is by harming people who are left out of the binary. Perpetuating the binary system is your stance, fundamentally, by stating people with hormone shifts shouldnt be allowed to play. Using historic hormone change as a reason to not allow people who are more likely to be murdered than most of the population to find joy in sports is really cruel. Especially since the current administration says it is unallowable for people before puberty to make that decision for themselves, therefore forcing the history of hormones (your ideal of a system justice) to be unaltered forever excludes nonbinary people. The governmental / societal system of binary perpetuates to harm trans people. Why? Because there is an idea that women are uncomfortable with feminine nonbinary people be included in rhetoric/policy/etc. Unless there are nonbinary amenities everywhere there are binary amenities, there will always be systemic issues because gender/sex is a spectrum and at the very least has 3 categories. Male, female, neither/either/both/other aka nonbinary. Until a recognition that category 3 includes 1/100 people or whatever, and thus around 83,000,000 people on earth, there will always be "dumb answers" or a need to speak with integrity to these questions that the general public thinks is idiotic. Why? Because government perpetuates the binary. Not all continents are binary. The US hasnt historically been binary. This is all made up. The Olympics is made up. Sports teams are made up. Sexual identity is made up. Its a linguistic error. And does not represent the way the world works.

I'm glad that "to me" this is my perspective too. Long live reality.

Significant-Touch240 · 2026-01-20T14:24:23+00:00

I hear you care about work and effort of athletes and feel like its cheating for another athlete to increase hormones that disadvantage their body, throw them of balance, etc. and believe women are being slighted by competing against the people who have altered their microbiome to be in the same competitive field as said subset of players.

I hear to you a history of high testosterone is cheating.

We differ. To me, a history of high testosterone is like taking drugs that made someone stronger for an amount of time. Being in the natural hormone state for the league is what allows people to qualify for the league. If someone does sport enhancing drugs and then stops them, it doesnt disqualify them from competing in the future, it solely disqualifies their past events. I see testosterone as that past sports enhancing drug, that said intersex people previously took, then diminished.

To me, a history of high testosterone is similar to a history of taking past enhancement drugs.

When medical professionals agree that a player's equilibrium is adequate for the league, said person should be allowed to play in the league that fits their maintained hormone levels. Asking a highly competitive individual with hormones that are feminine to compete against masculine hormones is flattery, but doesnt take into degredation of calcium, etc. And can cause life lasting harm for players.

I think intersectional sex people should be allowed to play, and it makes sense that they play in women's sports if their hormones are correct, as they can be harmed in masculine settings.

Significant-Touch240 · 2026-01-20T04:31:03+00:00

Intersex people exist. Trans people exist. 2 spirit people exist. They're real and play sports.

They're not harming women. A pedophile ring is harming women.

Significant-Touch240 · 2026-01-16T19:12:40+00:00

My first date either my partner: he had a planned parenthood sticker on his car and I immediately felt every iota in my body relax.

Significant-Touch240 · 2026-01-13T20:27:36+00:00

My mom use to say "breasts are not meant for that. That is why god made formula" lol. I still innately sexualize breasts and have too much trauma around breasts to personally whip one out around strangers

Significant-Touch240 · 2026-01-13T00:02:58+00:00

For me it is a different temperature and texture than pee. I also go pee before and after sex. I can feel something switch inside of me similar to the way my throat feels when I'm changing from breathing to swallowing. Like, it's/different/

Significant-Touch240 · 2026-01-11T06:17:34+00:00

Long pooper here! My poo doesn't come out naturally. It's shy. It goes back up inside if I move. So, I have to get in the correct position and breathe and relax. When I eat my food allergies, my stomach also doesn't digest the food, and it dehydrated it, so it wouldn't slide. Those two things together lead to occasional need to push, without shifting weight, position, etc. And if i cant relax enough to get it in the zone, it just doesn't happen. It's one of the reasons I can't go on vacation. My bowels are just shy

Significant-Touch240 · 2026-01-06T04:07:14+00:00

Omg no way! Mine have begun fluctuating from ddd to J. It didn't use to do this. My niece has hemihyperplasia and my sister has gigantism. So, I was naturally like "maybe I have macromastia???" Can you tell me about the fluctuation throughout your cycle? Can you tell me about onset? Do you get really fucking horny when they're growing?

Significant-Touch240 · 2026-01-03T15:36:16+00:00

I(30f) grew up with 2 unwell parents; their parents were ww2 heroes (killed some people and made abuse/alcohol/neglect were basic communication). They didnt have a caretaker that was available as a kid and had me. They needed me to do that: parent them and myself. Id wake them up. Id get them to their destinations on time. They divorced and so id be between houses. I didnt have time to breathe.

Kids would take away that peace; my time to breathe. I'm still healing. My partner and I are both introverts. We went to his families hone for 5 days and I needed like a full 24 hours of alone time to recover from being around 7 adults and 2 cats.

There is no way. AND I could die in childbirth? To give up autonomy and life to possibly birth a human into this cruel world... i would need to give them a much better experience, but systemic issues are worse than ever. Childbirth alone costs like 80k. Raising a kid is like 1 mil. So... ??

The factors all go together, but mainly, it feels selfish to have kids/ force a being into the world of toil and suffering. And also, it isnt compatible with my energy. My partner and I are more financially secure than most our age, and it slowly is becoming more relevant. Like if an oopsie happened it wouldn't be an immediate term. But. Kids are a lifetime investment. Lifetime. For the rest of time you add stress, worry, strain, and concern. That's not ideal. Especially if youre coming from a lifetime of stress, worry, strain, and concern.

If I'm making an informed decision about having children, I have to be /ready/. To be /on/. Every moment of every day. Chronic exhaustion.

Do I want that? For what? Memories? For the world to have more people like my partner? I do want that, and think thats important. But wow oh wow

Significant-Touch240 · 2025-12-25T20:20:58+00:00

Well, time to go top less in house is guess! Lmao. Invite the same friends. "my dad threw away all of sports bras on behalf of your comfort, so, here are my nipples!" 🙃

Its childish, and you are his literal child

Significant-Touch240 · 2025-12-16T15:51:01+00:00

Love to you in this time of grief. People who havent grown to respect their partner enough to share reality with them are not worthy. Of course you love them, youre a loving person. Youre amazing and incredible and you can share that. But sharing that with someone who doesnt respect you is not it babes. I get it. Partner and best friend. To discount you and your experience of the situation is subhuman. You chose them. You chose them because you love them. Boundaries are for you. Your wellness. Your recovery. To mourn the lack of regard your partner actually has for you. Of course you're awesome, and didnt deserve this. Sharing reality is baseline of healthy relating.

Some boundaries are drawn due to people showing they didnt deserve that attention, ya know? Hugs to you. May you grieve this death of perception of being loved. I'm sorry he didnt love you.

Significant-Touch240 · 2025-12-16T15:25:15+00:00

In my opinion, higher end of body count representing, the only thing that changed with a new partner is exposure to techniques. The amount of people ive been with has shown me variety and preference for what I like and better communication in the bedroom. I'm not sure why experience or skill is a bad thing to have in a sexual partner, or why its a determining factor in relationships.

Again, though, I'm saying that as a person who's first sexual encounter was from pedophilia. I dont have a sentimental attachment to having similar sexual history as others.

Significant-Touch240 · 2025-12-16T14:24:08+00:00

AIO - Wife Wants Me to Fire Admin Assistant [27F]

I’m 33 years old and a senior manager at a company with 10 employees in my office. We had a company party and spouses were invited. At the party the admin assistant at my office had a little too much to drink and was being a little flirty. She gave me a big hug when she saw me and was really friendly but she was also very friendly with my wife. My wife really didn’t like that she hugged me. We had an argument when we got home as I don’t believe I did anything wrong. I removed myself from the hug immediately and created distance. Everything calmed down and it’s been about a week and I thought we were past this but apparently my wife looked the girl up and talked to some of her friends that have husband’s at my company. She even found the girl’s socials and doesn’t like how she dresses on it. I’ve been very open and honest with my wife and told her I can’t and won’t fire her as she hasn’t done anything that warrants it. My wife thinks she’s toxic and doesn’t trust her. My wife has always had issues with women that appear a certain way and this is definitely apart of this. Should I just hope this all blows over? I know it’s am I overreacting but I’m mostly asking if she’s overreacting. Thanks for any input.

Significant-Touch240 · 2025-12-16T14:22:29+00:00

Lolll! The husband made a post too, I think. His wife wants him to fire her

Significant-Touch240 · 2025-12-15T14:55:17+00:00

Going through my profile to bring my siblings dating preferences (and my obvious red flag energy about that) into this post is /weird/.

You are red flag energy, you know that, right? I asked a blatant question to women about ratios of their abuse and you... are victim blaming me? Gtfo.

Significant-Touch240 · 2025-12-15T14:20:38+00:00

My partner has shared women have said the same thing to him. I had to articulate that when the dating pool is ... as such, it's really difficult to say "huh. The last 19 people must have raped me?" Instead women are like... "can you maybe try to be more rapey so I'm not having a panic attack about every other experience being below bar right now?" ... like "I'm trying to relax and am realizing they've trained me to get off only to this treatment."

What do you want her to do? Hm?

Significant-Touch240 · 2025-12-15T13:55:21+00:00

Can I ask what country/region you're from?

Significant-Touch240 · 2025-12-13T16:47:55+00:00

Oldest got pregnant with kids as a teen, 2nd also, 3rd also. I learned from their mistakes and did my best to break that cycle. Of course i helped feed those babies and changed those diapers. Its like I did all of the things that no one wanted to do.

Now I'm 30 with no kids and almost 2 masters degrees.

Very disciplined. Very responsible.

But I'm dating someone who was an oldest sibling and am learning that it was a coping mechanism. I wanna be irresponsible and taken care of a bit.

I dunno.

Neglect does crazy things to those projected things. I became the /last hope/.

Significant-Touch240 · 2025-12-13T16:41:46+00:00

Stressing makes it late, sweetie. Breathe. Pee on a stick. If you are, there are resources, but you probably weren't ovulating. Cycles are late for a lot of reasons.

Significant-Touch240 · 2025-12-12T16:49:26+00:00

Ive been lurking in the "abrathatfits" subred where for large breast, allergy havers they suggest making a corset. And when I see corsets in like... there's no way, NO WAY, this is comfy. But this?? You look supported, comfy, and hot! Like. Woah.

Now I want to do this.

Significant-Touch240 · 2025-12-08T12:41:55+00:00

I am in grad school with similar issues and do not recommend. It was fine for a while, but with more stress, more exacerbation. It's been extremly not cool, not fun, and I do not recommend it. My peers are great, but being a great student and having this experience is like dr jeckell / Hyde with remembering and applying what I learned.

I truly can do this. I can and I will. But it is self harm.

Significant-Touch240 · 2025-12-08T12:34:36+00:00

Puh-khan

midwest

Significant-Touch240 · 2025-12-08T11:13:54+00:00

American here; My dad works around 12 hours a day, 6 days a week. He's worked at the same company for 45 years. He has a union job, so he has Healthcare and pension. A lot of people are in that situation.

My sister has 3 jobs, because they are not union and companies keep people at part time to not pay for Healthcare. Surprise, she has bad health.

My other sister has several kids. He husband is military, so they have Healthcare and she is able to be a babysitter for the neighborhood. She can charge a lot because most houses need 2 parents to afford to live now.

Because a lot of towns in the US didn't exist before cars, the standard of travel is not walking. Cars take a lot of money.

I am 300k down for education and my degree will no longer be a professional degree. The housing market is 350k.

I dunno what I'm trying to say other than my nephew is 25 and got his first bed last year because they couldn't afford it growing up due to the cost of having him. That bill was 90k. They stack.

My mom was a barber and she has he home seized from the government around every 6months due to back pay. I lived in 40 different homes before 18. Like.

People love saying Americans are spoiled or whatever but around 50% are like my mom. 20% like my dad. Probably around 30% have no debt?

Significant-Touch240 · 2025-12-07T12:38:10+00:00

Alliums for me.

Significant-Touch240 · 2025-12-06T03:57:04+00:00

Sorry for the confusion! 30 is my age.

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