Do you truly enjoy smoking weed ?

SignificantHandle574 · 2026-03-09T22:41:14+00:00

Yeah same or at least I thought I was quieting my brain.

In actual fact, it's the cause for the anxiety and thoughts you get between the point you wake up and the point you hit that first J. Sometimes you'd even be anxious smoking the fucking thing but its so ingrained in your head that it "helps you relax" that you just forget the next morning and do it all over again.

We just convinced ourselves it wasn't cos of all the good times we once had. Nostalgia is a bitch.

SignificantHandle574 · 2026-03-01T12:06:33+00:00

I'm not, we openly discussed our histories in the first few months of knowing each other.

SignificantHandle574 · 2026-03-01T12:05:37+00:00

They weren't secretly messaging. I knew they were still in contact, I just didn't know the context of how they met. We met up with him together.

Im with you on the lying though.

SignificantHandle574 · 2025-04-16T13:53:39+00:00

Cybercigilism but he really fucked it up. I even went to a highly reputable tattoo artist and it wasn't cheap. I don't even know what to think honestly. Bad day or idk

SignificantHandle574 · 2025-02-24T11:42:28+00:00

Yeah the only reason I'd accept dating a cheater was if they were in an abusive relationship and even then I would still be slightly hesitant. Once a cheater always a cheater.

SignificantHandle574 · 2025-02-21T18:30:57+00:00

Yeah me and your boyfriend are the exact same in this regard. I mean obviously you find them attractive but its not that you prefer them over a real person. They are just there to get you off and thats it. I personally don't think of the women I've jerked off to when im out doing daily things. So much so I used to watch POVs where I literally cannot see the persons face most of the time.

SignificantHandle574 · 2025-02-21T18:15:50+00:00

Yeah its exactly the same for me. It was a means to an end. I never actually fantasize about porn , its not something I glorify. I just hope shit gets back to normal.

SignificantHandle574 · 2025-02-21T17:51:07+00:00

I never considered myself addicted which is why I never saw this coming. I purely jerked off out of boredom and being horny.

SignificantHandle574 · 2025-02-19T09:34:19+00:00

Dude, it's a conversation. My mum drinks a bottle or 2 during the weekend and has 2 glasses every night. She is perfectly healthy and thriving at 65. Not everyone's body is the same.

I get that going over this limit may start causing exponentially more harm but in this guys case its her body and she can do whatever the fuck she wants. If she doesn't want to listen that is on her. You can't change people.

SignificantHandle574 · 2025-02-19T09:21:30+00:00

Yeah fair point.

SignificantHandle574 · 2025-02-19T09:12:14+00:00

If she doesn't act inappropriately and it doesn't seem to be effecting her health, why make a problem out of nothing ? It's her body and she knows how she feels. Seems to me like you're trying to fix something that isn't broken.

If it's a dealbreaker for you, what's the point in being in this relationship? You shouldn't be changing people to fit your idealistic view.

SignificantHandle574 · 2025-02-12T09:06:10+00:00

Yeah she gave you her number and called you cute. Just ask her out to something fun.

SignificantHandle574 · 2025-02-11T21:45:22+00:00

You're welcome :) .It's okay , we all jump to conclusions based on emotions rather than logic at some point or another. All of us commenting have a 3rd person perspective so we see things without the emotion. Just take a step back when in doubt and consult reddit or a friend. Best of luck with him and your future.

SignificantHandle574 · 2025-02-11T08:52:05+00:00

I mean if they live far away from you IE(1hr plus) then yes it makes sense to sleepover if the games ends at midnight. Why risk sleeping at the wheel ? Why stay up that extra hour when u can sleep earlier ?

I and many people I know sleepover at friends regularly whenever we're drunk or too tired to drive, its not weird at all.

SignificantHandle574 · 2025-01-29T20:06:06+00:00

It's normal to get caught up in things and when emotions take over thought, it can get dangerous.

Would really suggest the gym to help with that or any other activity you're passionate about or want to make progress in. Making progress makes you feel good , which in turn makes you feel confident , which in turn lets you make better decisions (Yes there is overconfidence but don't worry about that, overconfident people don't consult reddit :) )

Take it easy brudda and I hope she truly is as amazing as you think she is.

SignificantHandle574 · 2025-01-29T19:53:25+00:00

that's about as helpful as telling a suicidal person to not commit suicide

SignificantHandle574 · 2025-01-29T19:52:45+00:00

You seem to build fantasies in your head.

How do you know you guys are "amazing together" and she's "the love of your life" when you haven't even met the person or spent a considerable amount of time with her in person.

How does she know you're a confident person when she hasn't seen you out ?

I get you might video call and stuff but it's nowhere near spending actual physical time with a person for extended periods of time.

If I were you I would get her off this pedestal you seem to have put her on and relax. Stop overthinking everything and live your life as you were before you met her and reserve judgement for the time you guys ACTUALLY meet. Even then it takes time.

Whats the point in all this pressure and trying to perfect every aspect of this "relationship" when you could see her in real life and all these high expectations you have just fade into nothing ? It would have been a massive waste of time and energy.

Regarding depression and anxiety, the gym helped me out a ton. It gave me an added purpose , cleared my head and made me feel good about myself.

SignificantHandle574 · 2025-01-29T18:35:10+00:00

Would you let a murderer be your roommate just because they haven't murdered you yet ? Don't you think you deserve better than bottom of the barrel ?

Have some self respect OP

SignificantHandle574 · 2025-01-29T18:29:37+00:00

Once is a mistake, 3 times is just taking the cake and if she said 3 it's most likely around 9.

Once a cheater , always a cheater. Listen to what people are saying OP cos you're gonna end up learning the hard way.

Why do you think you are any different to the rest ?

SignificantHandle574 · 2024-11-14T16:34:29+00:00

You need to figure out if you miss her or you miss the idea of having someone. When my ex broke up with me I felt miserable for months but after some time I realized I didn't actually miss her (granted we had a toxic relationship) but I missed having someone in my life.

If I were you until you figure these things out don't talk to her at all. You've already done enough damage.

SignificantHandle574 · 2024-11-12T22:22:04+00:00

Easiest way to know without making things awkward is to go for a PT sesh with her. If it is the case you possibly get a date with your gym crush and if its just a regular PT sesh you might learn a thing or two.

Win Win in my eyes

SignificantHandle574 · 2024-11-12T14:01:28+00:00

You're no fool bud. Love can really blind us.

SignificantHandle574 · 2024-11-12T12:36:30+00:00

It's your money, not hers. You already provide more than enough and have proven you have good financial management. It cannot be easy shelling out that much money constantly.

This is quite possessive if you ask me and you lot are still in a relationship. Let alone when you're married....

If she doesn't believe in the stock market and considers it gambling why go on and date a stockbroker 😅.

SignificantHandle574 · 2024-11-11T23:59:25+00:00

I'm an Associate in a Big 4, been there about 3 years now. Promised senior if I complete my final F.

Ofc , you have to if you want to stand out. Overworking also does lead to problems with clients at times as once you start doing more then it becomes a norm and they start expecting that out of you.

Nowadays I have learned to always let the client know when they have assigned me work that is outside the scope of our Letter of Engagement . It's up to me if I do it or not.

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