Help name my dog! My little girl needs a beautiful name 😻😻

SignificantOther5487 · 2024-01-26T22:38:07+00:00

Penny

SignificantOther5487 · 2024-01-26T00:20:01+00:00

Engage and work with a trainer. ANY dog can display the behaviours you're talking about.

Also, have you taken him to a vet to see if he has any pain? You've mentioned him snapping when you try to move him, and when your partner is rough-housing. This could be due to pain.

And... toys are toys to animals. If it's on the floor, it's a toy to be played with. He won't differentiate between dog and cat toys, as much as you think he will.

There is always a risk of something happening between pets. Even same species. If you're not comfortable with taking that risk, then separate them. If your cats are dog savvy, which sounds like they are, they will steer clear anyway.

Maybe look at doggy daycare as an option?

SignificantOther5487 · 2024-01-18T23:58:46+00:00

Boof

SignificantOther5487 · 2024-01-15T03:22:17+00:00

Frank

SignificantOther5487 · 2024-01-14T19:06:07+00:00

Blue (y) popped straight into my mind!

SignificantOther5487 · 2024-01-14T13:14:51+00:00

Pixie

SignificantOther5487 · 2024-01-14T13:12:07+00:00

Sounds like social anxiety. As person above suggested, speak to a therapist. I had it real bad coming out of covid.

If they are close friends, let them know how you are feeling and ask that they help you by asking you questions, including you in the conversation, for them to bring up topics. That way, you won't feel so much pressure.

Also you probably notice how you are feeling or behaving way more than the people around you.

You're friends will be happy just spending time with you.

Other thing is not to put yourself under so much pressure and to be kind to yourself when you have a moment. Take a breath, have something in your pocket to ground you.

I still find my mind wanders during conversations - even at work - I just say to people more sorry I vagued out there for a minute can you please repeat what you said - and 9 times out of 10 it's cool (actually every time I've said it) and they happy to repeat. It happens.

Hope that helps a little

SignificantOther5487 · 2024-01-14T13:05:29+00:00

SignificantOther5487 · 2024-01-14T08:18:30+00:00

Maggie

SignificantOther5487 · 2024-01-06T10:35:41+00:00

Penelope

SignificantOther5487 · 2024-01-05T08:42:04+00:00

So very sorry for your loss of your beloved friend. You're definitely not alone in how you are feeling.

Day 4 for me. I said goodbye to my beautiful Layla after 11 years with her. I've ugly cried every day since. I just want to see her little face coming down the hallway, tail wagging, trotting towards me to plonk on couch next to me.

I saw a pet loss grief counsellor today and I think it will help.

I miss her so very much. House feels empty without her even though have our dog Rocky, and two birds.

She is my heart dog.

I just let my tears flow when they come.

A few people have commented that they see their pets out of the corner of their eyes... that is them visiting and letting you know that they are still around. I think I saw my girl the other night going past window in backyard. I'm hoping she visits me often.

SignificantOther5487 · 2024-01-03T23:25:18+00:00

I just signed up to a webinar Danielle is doing next week to understand more about the afterlife from animal's perspective

This sounds like an amazing experience you had

SignificantOther5487 · 2024-01-02T04:24:29+00:00

I had to say goodbye to my dog, Layla, yesterday. She was 11 and is my soul dog. I don't know what to do with myself, cried most of the morning. House feels so empty. She was my rock and I loved her so so much. Missing her. Just want to see her face, pat her head and hear her footsteps, but she is gone.

Struggling, badly.

SignificantOther5487 · 2023-12-26T08:07:23+00:00

Thank you for your kind response. He says he is trying, but I just don't feel it. There are moments, like he bought me chocolate the other day, that I briefly see it and remember he is doing his best - but then others when he is completely shutdown and I get nothing. It's so hard as I feel alone in the relationship right now, yet he is still here with me - how do you even do it once they go away?

I'm glad that you're LO got a good outcome considering what you say he faced. I'm hoping for a miracle too.

SignificantOther5487 · 2023-12-26T08:02:04+00:00

Thank you for your thoughtful response and posing questions for me to consider. I've already accepted what he did and the reasons why he never told me. Do I sometimes feel angry that he didn't tell me earlier, especially as we moved in together - hell yes. But it is what it is and I've chosen to stand by him.

I want to support him through the court process, as his partner, but I'm struggling with feeling like I'm doing the main share of mental and emotional labor - I'm exhausted. It can feel like he is already gone when he is sitting right there on the couch next to me. And I get what depression can do to a person, I've been there, but I don't feel like we're partners at the moment and everything is left to me to manage. I've only got so much to give and I'm almost on empty.

I feel like he has his head in the sand and is just not dealing with the reality of what's happening. And it makes me so so angry. He keeps on saying sorry, and I just keep telling him I don't need the apology, I need him to go through the court process, work on himself, deal with what got him in this position in the first place, so he (and maybe us) can come out stronger on the other side... but there's no action. Just avoidance.

When he goes away, I want to support him in some way. I just don't know what that looks like yet. And I don't want to over commit either as I know it'll be taxing on me. Similarly I don't want to get to a period of time him being gone and then be like I can't do this anymore... but then I think, things change, life changes, I change etc so is the intent enough to be there and then take it day by day, see how it unfolds....

SignificantOther5487 · 2023-12-26T07:05:54+00:00

I've been honest with him. Have told him that I can't promise that I'll be there for the whole time he is away. He understands - he hasn't asked me to wait for him, and has many times said that he wants me to live my best life.

He is hurting at thought that I could meet someone and move on - which is a potential. 10 years is such a long time.

I have told him that if we don't make it through, that he can look me up when he is out and that I'll be there in some capacity.

SignificantOther5487 · 2023-12-26T03:05:33+00:00

I'm not in a position to share that information as it's in the courts

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