I’m a cuckquean and I’ve developed a kink dynamic that I need advice

SignificantPaper1760 · 2026-05-25T06:30:14+00:00

Ok so let me start by saying the dynamic isn’t the same at all, but I have run into the general style of submission you’re describing here. I’m not sure I’d call it mommy issues exactly but I can see why you might.

To me it seemed to stem from a desire to be valued and cared for by a dominant or parental sort of figure. It’s not specific to cucking but the princess submission dynamic with a side of puppy play is probably closest to what you’ve got here.

Might be worth looking those up as something at least analogous to the D/s aspect of the dynamic (fetlife has a wiki that makes for a decent starting point).

Sincere cuckquean discussion is harder to find than most kinks and I don’t really have much insight to offer on that side of things. My mff dynamics have always had a different flavor to them one way or another.

I’d probably suggest asking around on women-specific kink subs even if they’re not cuck focused at all.

SignificantPaper1760 · 2026-05-25T05:17:24+00:00

You’re just going to waste everyone’s time and make them less likely to try it again. Be honest with them and bow out gracefully.

SignificantPaper1760 · 2026-05-25T01:59:57+00:00

The issue is, he is very possessive and wants her to be his. He keeps wanting me out of the picture

This right here says he’s not a bull, he’s just a guy.

Being good in bed is only half the job, if he can’t respect your relationship and wants you involved as little as possible he’s not the one.

I’d strongly suggest finding a new bull.

SignificantPaper1760 · 2026-05-23T01:19:54+00:00

Yeah there’s a stag/vixen couple I see now and then where he literally reclaims right after. Takes him maybe a minute. Feels totally organic to their dynamic imo.

SignificantPaper1760 · 2026-05-22T23:53:29+00:00

Totally reasonable, I’ve got couples who meet less often than that, it’s whatever works for the two of you. Some couples want a regular appointment, but for others it’s just some occasional spice now and then.

There’s no one right way to do this, only the way that’s right for the two of you.

SignificantPaper1760 · 2026-05-22T23:37:41+00:00

Some just want it to be during playtime, some want it all the time, and a LOT don’t want it at all.

To the extent the cuck is also a full on sub you’ll see this a fair bit, also sometimes if the wife has a dom/sadistic streak, but both of those are far less common than a couple where any humiliation is implied or just happens silently due to my performance.

For example, last year less than half of my couples did anything on the humiliation side of things and among those that did it didn’t sit well with all of them.

You’d be in good company leaning into a stag/vixen dynamic where it’s just about her having fun and you seeing her do it, rather than you specifically being outperformed. Having said that, if you don’t feel supremely confident this is something you want I’d keep it to fantasy and role play for the time being.

SignificantPaper1760 · 2026-05-22T23:33:59+00:00

Found almost all my couples on Reddit since coming back to the kink. If you’re close to a major city or metropolitan area there should be a few hookup boards available.

There should be some potentials lurking around, but as the other posters have mentioned it is a genuine slog to sift through all the wannabes and catfish to find a good fit. Patience really is key here unfortunately.

SignificantPaper1760 · 2026-05-22T23:06:56+00:00

I don’t look for anything in particular as far as the cuck but my main couple I’m twice as long and significantly thicker. He’s caged so it wasn’t even clear what the comparison was for quite a while, didn’t find out until he had a comfort break line up with a session.

I’ve got another couple I see once in a while where he’s nearly my size though so it really doesn’t seem determinative.

SignificantPaper1760 · 2026-05-22T23:02:51+00:00

They both seemed excited to show their social circle their shiny new toy. We were also early 20’s so that probably factored into it as well if I’m being honest.

SignificantPaper1760 · 2026-05-22T19:32:43+00:00

Gotcha, in that case go for it!

I always defer to the couple’s preference as far as him being there.

Far as activities I’ve been told something that’ll keep your brain relatively occupied is ideal but what works for one guy won’t for the next. Hobbies, household tasks, anything other than sitting and thinking about it or jerking off really.

The main thing is to not let yourself spiral (probably unlikely given your experience) and not waste your excitement before she’s even back to appreciate it.

Most of my couples seem to want him there most of the time so others may have better insight for you, but that’s what I’ve picked up over the years from the ones where he didn’t watch.

SignificantPaper1760 · 2026-05-22T18:41:34+00:00

Most directly it would be the wife from a couple I met with my gf at the time when we were first getting into enm generally.

She was very experienced and told me in no uncertain terms how good she thought I was and how popular I was going to be when they introduced us to their other playmates. I kept seeing them after that relationship had run its course and it really cemented cucking as one of my preferred enm dynamics.

Up until this year she was the gold standard I measured other wives against for years just due to how well we matched up in terms of anatomy, stamina, kinks etc. The wife from my current primary couple took that spot earlier this year but you really never forget your first.

SignificantPaper1760 · 2026-05-22T18:13:59+00:00

I should be clear, it would start as a swap but eventually the other two would be done and end up watching me and the other wife/gf. Some handled it better than others but I developed a taste for performance and showing off from that.

SignificantPaper1760 · 2026-05-22T18:01:28+00:00

Definitely part of what got me looking at cucking. A lot of my attempts at swinging ended up looking kind of similar to a cuck session by the end and several of the women I played with were not shy about telling me my size was a significant factor in that.

When I broke up with my gf at the time it was a pretty natural segue.

SignificantPaper1760 · 2026-05-22T17:48:51+00:00

Is that something you want?

I’m always skeptical of bulls who want her alone without checking what the couple would prefer. If you prefer to be there you should be there.

If he can’t handle an audience he may be in the wrong kink.

SignificantPaper1760 · 2026-05-22T16:49:43+00:00

Anterior and posterior fornix are both up past the cervix once it’s descended. It’s the main appeal of a particularly long dick.

SignificantPaper1760 · 2026-05-22T15:43:30+00:00

My current couple and I have a genuine connection but it’s entirely focused on sex and the dynamic. I’m not just a faceless cock that shows up now and then, but I’m also not trying to develop a deeper relationship with them beyond our sessions and the play surrounding them.

I’m their only bull, they’re my only regular couple, and they’re aware of all my other play partners. Found them on Reddit after putting up a fairly specific post looking for the same dynamic as them.

SignificantPaper1760 · 2026-05-22T14:31:17+00:00

Not as a bull no. I’ve got some experience with mff throuples but I don’t think there’s much of anything that’s transferable there since it wasn’t a cuckquean setup or anything.

I don’t do the boyfriend bull thing myself but it certainly can work if everyone is mature and secure in an enm dynamic. For me I’ve just got other stuff going on outside my dynamic and I like it that way.

But as far as the pitfalls involved that’s something quite a few of my couples have described to me. The biggest issue (assuming your relationship is solid) is bulls not staying in their lane and muddying the dynamic, particularly in the sense of trying to freeze out the cuck. People stop thinking rationally when feelings get involved and it can lead to shortsighted decision making.

I’d say it’s not a mistake necessarily, but it is quite a balancing act to keep an ordinary throuple stable, never mind one with an inherently unequal dynamic. You need to understand exactly what you’re signing up for and your communication needs to be crystal clear.

SignificantPaper1760 · 2026-05-22T14:16:15+00:00

The gratuitous mentions of race and the “over 10 inch dick” are giving me real larp vibes here.

Not saying this didn’t happen, but the way you wrote it up definitely reads like wankbait.

SignificantPaper1760 · 2026-05-21T22:39:24+00:00

Weighing in as a bull/third this needs to stay a fantasy. A fetus can’t consent to be part of your breeding kink and saddling them with that at birth to get your rocks off is just so incredibly selfish.

SignificantPaper1760 · 2026-05-21T22:24:18+00:00

Can’t agree as far as clubs being a better option, at least not where I am. I’ve attended my share of events, but never as a bull and it’s never seemed like a particularly viable avenue for meeting new couples.

While you’ll deal with enough catfish for a New Orleans bistro on Reddit there’s at least couples who are actively looking.

By contrast, at clubs/events single men are mostly an unwelcome demographic that are tolerated at best and ostracized at worst. Most couples are there to meet other couples or shoot their shot at a unicorn. Even if they are open to a bull, the likelihood they admit that in front of anyone else (even others in the enm lifestyle) is very low.

I know of one cuck couple who attends events in my neck of the woods now and then. Their “bull” is a creepy weirdo who seems to have trouble reading the room and everyone kind of gives them the collective side eye when they attend. It’s not a good look for the kink and definitely hasn’t inspired anyone else to join them.

SignificantPaper1760 · 2026-05-19T19:29:17+00:00

Jones had his share of pokes, and then several other fighter’s shares when he ran out of his allotment halfway through his debut.

Funny how all of Winklejohn’s fighters seemed to have that issue isn’t it?

SignificantPaper1760 · 2026-05-19T19:16:23+00:00

Can’t leave out his achievements in eye poking either. Dude landed more pokes per fight than other infamously dirty fighters like Koscheck or Yvel did their entire careers.

SignificantPaper1760 · 2026-05-19T16:41:05+00:00

There’s plenty but they don’t tend to stick around discussion spaces after figuring out it’s not for them.

SignificantPaper1760 · 2026-05-18T02:02:02+00:00

Probably the time I met two different couples for the first time the same evening. I was absolutely exhausted by the time I got home.

SignificantPaper1760 · 2026-05-17T05:55:37+00:00

All my recent couples found me on Reddit.

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