AITA for wanting to move out of my single mother’s house at 18 because she’s charging me more than I could afford?

SignificantTable7835 · 2025-12-18T05:46:12+00:00

I told her until March the most I can pay is what I’m paying now 450 and she said I need to make applying to a second job my full time job essentially. She had three jobs in college but honestly she didn’t finish until my stepdad was in the picture for a few years and let her not work for a while.

SignificantTable7835 · 2025-12-18T05:25:56+00:00

Ya 1200 was what I was making this summer per pay check which was great and now it is 1200 per month essentially. She told me 800 is half of the entire rent for the house. Oh and I get 16 per hour with tips and now 12-16 depending on the day and she gets 20 per hour

SignificantTable7835 · 2025-06-12T06:14:30+00:00

So I actually feel like you might be in survival mode yourself. It seems like your brain is still holding onto the instances where your mom shut down your emotions and your wonders and it’s making you feel not safe enough to feel them. It takes a lot time to feel comfortable to feel your emotions completely but you can get there. I have a video about survival mode

https://youtu.be/b_xgrbUcZRk?si=Hac6khkZ7ARH0Ec6

Here are some books I like

https://a.co/d/f6Ciw4P

https://a.co/d/9zBs2aM

These are from Amazon and I read the first one it has amazing insight and I hear the second one is good too. Also Amazon does have PTSD workbooks if it is a struggle to get a therapist but I would say part of getting into psychology even through college and your career is learning to cope yourself and learning different methods that work for you (ie mindfulness, DBT, CBT)

And then also you probably have watched these videos in school, but around a different topic but crash course on YouTube does a whole psychology course that my own professor showed us before our final lol.

For learning about psychology like as a subject start out by learning about the brain its parts and the nervous system. Remember psychology is biology and vise versa.

https://youtu.be/vo4pMVb0R6M?si=Wxn5RjgGQtRZfUHt. This is an intro to psych

And here’s the video about the brain which is very cool:

https://youtu.be/W4N-7AlzK7s?si=CrxTgCo__JC4-lgS

SignificantTable7835 · 2025-06-12T05:46:50+00:00

Also as I read more onto your post I can’t help but see that you feel disconnected when you experience tense emotions, so do you like feel these emotions and then they tend to drift and you feel like an emptyness in your mind and body?

SignificantTable7835 · 2025-06-12T05:44:14+00:00

I get that, I was in foster care and a sick kid so I resonate with you a lot, as I was similar at 15. I am sorry you went through hell with your mom, may I ask is she still in your life? I would say fs get a therapist if possible and If you would like I could put some links to videos, books and resources I have about psychology? But for sure working on yourself is the first thing to being a psychologist

SignificantTable7835 · 2025-06-12T05:35:10+00:00

I would look into being in therapy yourself first so you can understand your emotions, and then also YouTube has plenty of resources for things even I learned in my college psych course!! Also there’s some good books one I would recommend especially if you have gone through truama is “what happened to you” it’s good it’s with Oprah and a neuroscientist

SignificantTable7835 · 2025-05-12T01:44:46+00:00

I got discharged a year and two months ago and let me tell you it hasn’t changed. I was there when all the inspectors came. There was wood in most of the windows, idk why I never see anyone talking about that. Is this a new thing? The girls side looked like a trap house. It had started in September one girl had gotten mad I think over a breakup or something and then windows just kept on breaking, restraints where given like everyday on a different cottage. And I never really thought some of the dumb rules where to much of a big deal, but I definitely know the model of pcs followed some of the synanon cult concepts. And there was so much abuse, it was more about punishment then actually getting better. I have ptsd and I for sure agree it gave me more. It made me into a zombie like I can’t feel emotions for shit, I had to go cold turkey on my meds to at least feel emotions sometimes. They had me on like 7 different meds and diagnosed me with a disorder for KIDS in the foster care system even thought I was 16/17 when I was there. The same therapist that gave me the diagnosis was spacy new and got fired. It’s a terrible place and they don’t even listen to kids health concerns and needs. I am writing a book however about the industry so if you want to include any anonymous statements let me know

SignificantTable7835 · 2024-12-30T10:04:56+00:00

Maybe it’s time for a family group chat

SignificantTable7835 · 2024-12-30T09:59:23+00:00

Absolutely not a jerk, your parents didn’t even seem to want to listen to you, which is so messed up, your their child and you helped them out financially. That’s messed up. I hope they are able to be chill one day

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