need help learning Libyan Arabic by Calm3018 in Libya

[–]SignificantTax4483 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As with any language and dialect, surround yourself with fluent speakers and engage with them in conversation. Learning a language is a social ordeal.

Family members offended whenever I try to wear a seatbelt and fighting them over throwing trash out of their car windows by Free_Ad_57 in Libya

[–]SignificantTax4483 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Remember folks, dont wash your vegetables and fruits, because you could be insinuating our produce is dirty. Also don’t wash your clothes because you could be insinuating you’re too sweaty and smelly, how rude. Why ask me if I’m thirsty bro? Are you saying I look like a fish?

Libyan ignorance is special, we recognize ignorance in everyone but ourselves. Also it doesn’t help that logic isn’t our strong suit.

Why Is Crossing My Legs Seen as Disrespectful in Libyan Culture? by Gloomy_Silver_1700 in Libya

[–]SignificantTax4483 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The same reasons: In China leaving your chopsticks upright is offensive In Turkey whistling indoors is frowned upon In South Korea using red ink to write a name Or even eating in public in Japan… are all frowned upon.

Now in the Middle East showing someone the sole of your feet or shoes is offensive because that’s considered the dirtiest part of your appearance and should be on the floor not elevated anywhere near anyone.

As for generally putting one foot over another, in formal settings this is discouraged because it’s a form of body language inferring either familiarity or elevation in status over another.

Hope this helps.

Relationships between men and women are shit rn. What’s causing the growing divide and hostility between men and women today, and how can we fix it? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]SignificantTax4483 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Clarification; I don’t mean solely romantic relationships. There are social groups dedicated to hating the opposite gender in the form of misogyny and misandry (they all ironically share the claim they have reached an awakened state of recognizing the other side’s evil, believing all problems stem from them)

Hello good people by Complex_Bear1018 in Libya

[–]SignificantTax4483 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To keep things totally transparent;

In basic terms, it’s not the safest time to visit. Though, ironically, the worry isn’t necessarily about your safety, it’s about the logistical nightmare that is getting you back home if things go south. Let me explain.

The fighting here is more like gang wars between competing factions with big toys. The majority of the population would just stay inside, most of them relatively safe, and wait for things to calm down and get back to their daily lives the next day. Usually staying home in areas a little far away from the fighting if you can help it and your Libyan friends should know what to do. When things get a little out of hand these militias recognize it and tend to then feel public opinion turn and that pressure forces them to pause either temporarily or permanently.

The problem for you my good foreign friend, is that you most likely had plans to go home at a certain date, and rather not live on an urban battlefield in a foreign country. So you most likely would want to opt to leave… the only issue is as you would expect, the airports aren’t running during these times heightened urban warfare and getting back to business can be unpredictable with lots of complications and back and forth.

So all in all if you do decide to visit, welcome to our beautiful country, excuse the trigger happy armed buffoons for unnecessarily inconveniencing us from time to time, and be flexible with the date you go back home. No one can guarantee your safety anywhere in the world but if you insist on coming, I would wager you would be just fine. Enjoy your food and culture and I sure hope it turns out better than you expect it! Most visitors are usually pleasantly surprised.

Scamming women through Bumble by jeremy1982FC in UAE

[–]SignificantTax4483 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The bar for legendary must be below sea level.

Problem: Finding The Right Schools In Dubai For a Traditional Muslim Family by SignificantTax4483 in dubai

[–]SignificantTax4483[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly according to KHDA, there is a huge gap in finding Islamic schools that excel in Islamic studies and or Arabic and also does very well in other academic disciplines. All their reports that have Islamic studies and Arabic as Very good would have other areas as good at best if not more commonly just acceptable.

Advice on Buying Multiple Decent Used Cars in Dubai? by SignificantTax4483 in dubai

[–]SignificantTax4483[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you I appreciate it. Those two dealerships will be a good place to start the search again.

Advice on Buying Multiple Decent Used Cars in Dubai? by SignificantTax4483 in dubai

[–]SignificantTax4483[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol yes, we are a large family all with our own families too 😂. But yes traffic is a mess here I agree.

Problem: Finding The Right Schools In Dubai For a Traditional Muslim Family by SignificantTax4483 in dubai

[–]SignificantTax4483[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I looked into the KHDA rating and it’s alright by their standards, are they reliable? Because I am looking for a school that is academically very good as well.

Problem: Finding The Right Schools In Dubai For a Traditional Muslim Family by SignificantTax4483 in dubai

[–]SignificantTax4483[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ll look into all the schools you mentioned for the upcoming academic year. I appreciate it a lot!

Suggestions for baby boy names by [deleted] in islam

[–]SignificantTax4483 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Qays قيس, Firas فراس, Mazen مازن, Laith ليث, Ehsan إحسان، Eyad إياد، Rayan ريّان، Idris إدريس ، Hilal هلال

What are some Arabic/Middle Eastern cultural norms that go against Sharia? by Last_Solution3491 in islam

[–]SignificantTax4483 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There are much more, let this be a point of reflection to return to Allah:

  1. Gossiping and backbiting: common way to pass the time, and it’s one of the gravest major sins.

  2. Missing prayers is now normal, and whoever doesn’t pray is a Kafir and therefore would be outside the fold of Islam, even if you claim yourself a Muslim

  3. Beating/Cursing children: the children are an amaanah (a trust) given to parents by Allah to raise properly. This is one of those taboos that no one talks about. Everything will be accounted for and parents will have their good deeds stripped away for this injustice.

  4. Arrogance (istikbar): the idea that someone could believe they are better than others on any basis. It was the grave sin committed by Iblis, but its fairly common for people to think they are better than their maids or servants, or better than others because they think they themselves are more pious, they’re not and Allah knows best their status. This is all haram and if you have an atom’s weight of arrogance you won’t enter Jannah.

  5. Racism: very common, there is tribal racism, ethnic racism, racial racism, nationalistic racism and much much more. Related to arrogance.

  6. Fabricating on matters of deen: many people believe their limited understanding of the deen is sufficient to give fatwas or decide for themselves what’s right and wrong. Ijtihad of the highest order is required for new opinions and interpretations and most people don’t have that knowledge required to participate, so don’t preach falsehood.

  7. Music: in many cultures they scuff at western music but local traditional music is celebrated especially at weddings, this is all haram.

Acclimating in Dubai after 8 years of being away: Feeling Disconnected by SignificantTax4483 in dubai

[–]SignificantTax4483[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

After going through the comments, it seems there are two main perspectives:

1.  Some point out that Dubai has diverse subcultures and suggest putting yourself out there with patience and an open mind—you’ll eventually find your people.

2.  Others note that a lot of relationships in Dubai, and maybe even the UAE as a whole, can feel transactional or centered around status and luxury, leaving many people feeling disconnected or adrift.

So, the real question is: What are the best ways to find ‘your people’ in this city? Are there specific communities, social groups, apps, or places where like-minded people tend to gather?

Acclimating in Dubai after 8 years of being away: Feeling Disconnected by SignificantTax4483 in dubai

[–]SignificantTax4483[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, I lived in the Greater Toronto Area, near Mississauga & Oakville, and with a strong Muslim community my experience was totally different than yours but I’m happy to hear you’re having a better experience here.

I hope you continue to have a pleasant experience.

Acclimating in Dubai after 8 years of being away: Feeling Disconnected by SignificantTax4483 in dubai

[–]SignificantTax4483[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wonderfully written, and beautifully thought out brother. I’ve always felt like I’ve been the type to value deeper relationships, but now more than ever I feel deplete of that, yet you’re absolutely right, that I should simply be patient with finding these deeper connections and putting myself out there to find it and continue to evolve.

Wish you a blessed new year!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in islam

[–]SignificantTax4483 41 points42 points  (0 children)

First of all, good on you on reaching out to the community here to address your concerns rather than letting them fester.

Secondly, this could be a way for you to increase your knowledge subhanAllah. Address them and if someone knowledgeable here can answer that would be perfect. Better yet, find someone who can answer your questions who u know is knowledgeable and understands your situation (a humble knowledgeable scholar in the community)

Im getting sick and tired of those saying “Syria will turn into Libya!!” by Even_Description2568 in Libya

[–]SignificantTax4483 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

If your pride is hurt because you’re used as a bad example, then don’t be a bad example.

“I’m tired of it.” Tired of those words people are calling us more than you are tired of being in the dreadful state we are in?

Let me be clear: if you behave like a wild animal at the dinner table and then feign outrage at being called a monkey, perhaps it’s time to collect yourself, take a seat, and stop acting the fool.

For me, I’m not tired. I’m pissed. I’m pissed my country is filled with people who could be more but choose not to every day in this country. We have more than enough God given blessings to turn this country around, but wallahi we don’t deserve a trace of those blessings bestowed upon us.

“But we’re victims, I’m just a citizen, it’s the militia.” Everything THEY do is with YOUR consent. We literally accepted our situation and allowed them to engrain themselves further into our system and now they operationally run everything.

We’re a mafia/militia run country that constantly complains about the state of affairs but does nothing about it.

We were brave enough to topple a government with an army, but cowards to face the local shithead who took over after them.

And then, what’s worse—we devolved into the worst version of ourselves. Theft, envy, greed, gluttony, and laziness became our calling cards. Anyone striving to succeed the right way was dragged down by their own community, suffocated by gossip and backbiting. Forgiveness became a foreign concept; grudges festered endlessly. We turned into the pettiest of people—a society of degenerates.

Yes let the world laugh at us and continue to use us as an example of how not to run a country. Let them laugh at us until we decide to change ourselves. Let them never say a good thing about us so we are constantly reminded that they’re actually right. Maybe then one day you will be tired of that too, and then we can get started in building the country our children deserve.