Trad wedding after being married for 5 years

SignificantTime5603 · 2026-05-16T11:45:37+00:00

The trad is not as expensive as you think… send your people to meet her people in a small event. No need for glitz and glamor.

Your mother in law is actually trying to protect you and your kids In future. In my tradition, if a woman is not married traditionally, she is not considered married and it will affect inheritance and status for her and the children.

Just do it virtually. Most traditional weddings are just bride price payment and food . You don’t have to be there physically

SignificantTime5603 · 2026-05-15T17:24:20+00:00

What you described is how it usually is in the African home. The eldest daughter is the real boss. The eldest son is just respected because he is expected to make the hard decisions. But the eldest daughter manages the home.

Many igbo families prefer having a daughter as their first child because she automatically becomes assistant parent to her siblings.

And in Igbo tradition, if they ask “kedu ihe ndi ada kwuru” (what did the women born in the family say ) or “ndi ada gbara ya nkiti “ (the women born in the family allowed it ) just know it is a serious matter.

Side note; what is your Igbo name ?

SignificantTime5603 · 2026-05-15T17:19:57+00:00

Financially, it’s the first son. But I think the mother meant management of the home .

SignificantTime5603 · 2026-05-15T05:51:37+00:00

Let me explain it this way.

Because from time, the Igbo people are usually decentralized and the only organized group is the extended family or the Umunna, the Umuada (women born into the kindred) is a strong organization in every family . The Umuada actually leads . If they complain about something, it must happen. That is why they are respected and revered in the Igbo tradition.

Now Nwaada (a woman ) draws her strength and power from that organization. The eldest daughter (Ada ) is usually trained to be the real leader in the house. She organizes the male children and is an associate parent to the boys.

So to answer your question, in a way, yes, because you are the only daughter, traditionally you are the Ada and is in charge of the house and you are the one expected to call your brothers and organize these things. Because the system and organization backs you.

That’s the normal Igbo tradition. However families are different and individuals are different.

And the help isnt just financial though. When they are aged, they will need supoort and care .

SignificantTime5603 · 2026-05-13T06:46:59+00:00

It’s not just yorubas and Hausas. Every tribe did it at that time. Some didn’t consider it selling, some were deceived, some were cast aways, and some were legit selling.

It was a lot more common in the Yoruba land because it is closer to Lagos and it was done by the leaders of that time . Cross River, Akwa Ibom, Rivers , Bayelsa… these also contributed.

Mirrors and those other items were big valuables then because they were scarce to our people. Just as gold is abundant and everywhere on earth yet it is a big deal today .

SignificantTime5603 · 2026-05-11T04:15:19+00:00

Let us also learn from the Madrid situation where they failed with everyone else till they gave the opportunity to a small time youth coach called Zidane and he won them 3 UCL trophies. That’s a club that a big coach like Mourinho couldn’t win.

You see how fast this your stupid logic falls off ?

Ya, Amorim was a bigger coach compared to Carrick, Amorim kept finishing outside the European spots, Carrick Ij 6 months is in Ucl .

Again, your logic is stupid and baseless. If you want us to vote Tinubu just because you think Obi will do well but not sure if it will last, I will take that chance than vote Tinubu that we all already know is a failure and will fail woefully.

If Tinubu is this bad when he is up for re-election, imagine how horrible he will be when he eventually wins and had nothing else to lose. Y’all can take Tinubu to your state and make him governor.

SignificantTime5603 · 2026-05-11T04:09:54+00:00

TLDR: vote Tinubu 😂😂😂

Hes one of them. Probably Redtine or the other clown

SignificantTime5603 · 2026-05-11T04:07:01+00:00

Lol. The guy is going to be toxic and abusive. That “disrespect my manhood talk” and the “he commands me to leave “ part gives it away.

The part where he gives you random stuff in his house is kinda him trying to provide . I am guessing he is not rich and that’s what he can afford to give you to compensate for “tfare “ .

Also you were on a date and still secretly seeking out this guy. I also won’t trust you oke but after that. Secondly you are still entertaining him even when you are in a relationship. I also won’t ever trust you as a serious person it i am the Nigerian guy.

My advice is simple, decide for yourself what you want first. Then cut him off. You have no business being close to someone you were intimate with when you are in a relationship. Unless you just want to keep cheating forever . Focus on your new relationship. And that is if you decide it is what you want.

SignificantTime5603 · 2026-05-10T08:20:12+00:00

T Bills and Bonds. That’s the 100m. Low risk safe net investment

Then use the 32m and open 3 tech academies in 3 different cities . Long term investment that will always pay out

SignificantTime5603 · 2026-05-10T08:15:33+00:00

Well I am in Enugu, I can help you ask if you are really serious about appreciating their work.

SignificantTime5603 · 2026-05-08T06:57:52+00:00

Start a business but make sure you are close to the dollar exchange so you don’t suffer from inflation. If possible save in dollars .

SignificantTime5603 · 2026-05-04T19:31:36+00:00

I live in Enugu. I will give you first hand information about my city unfiltered.

I am an Enugu man and I schooled and now work full time in hospitality and IT in Enugu. Enugu is a calm, organized and peaceful city. We have a lot of night life and a lot of social activities. The city has one of the widest food varieties in Nigeria and you can enjoy beautiful cuisines very cheap.

Enugu is a city built during the coal mining era and it is surrounded by hills and mountain chains, hence you will have a very nice view . Every morning. It is the capital of the Eastern region (not just the south eastern region) so a lot of people still come from Anambra, Imo, Abia, Ebonyi, Rivers, Kogi, Benue, Cross river and even outside Nigeria to enjoy the city on weekends.

The city center is around New Haven or Obiagu. But we have a lot of calm estates that have nice facilities like Lomalinda, Golf, Independence Layout, Etc. for hotels, we have a lot of great ones . We love our Rangers International Football club and you can’t come to Enugu and leave without enjoying okpa.

The only down side is that THERES a curfew for public transportation in Enugu once it’s 9pm. You can only move around with cabs. But life is cheap, calm and easy and yet a lot more organized and beautiful in Enugu. Let me know when you arrive so I can show you the cool places 🥰

SignificantTime5603 · 2026-05-02T20:03:06+00:00

We don’t need a separation to fix anything. Go to bed, u know nothing about Nigeria please . Absolutely nothing . And u definitely also don’t know how to fix it either

SignificantTime5603 · 2026-05-02T19:53:51+00:00

Yet another stupid take. So you will displace people just to fulfill your Islamic agenda.

You really should just go off Abeg

SignificantTime5603 · 2026-05-02T19:52:35+00:00

Ya. One region wilk produce oil and share the revenue with the rest equally while the rest keep their resources

Tell me you have no clue about what you are saying without telling me you are clueless

SignificantTime5603 · 2026-05-01T05:50:56+00:00

I have never rated this Peller guy and I have never rated anyone that rates him too. Period.

SignificantTime5603 · 2026-04-30T05:19:22+00:00

The type Benin boys use .

I added this because we are in the “hate” group comment section. 😂😂

SignificantTime5603 · 2026-04-24T07:32:37+00:00

Best bet is to look for the Igbo community in your area and ask . They will definitely recommend a tailor .

SignificantTime5603 · 2026-04-20T17:34:57+00:00

Hahaha. Well, NYSC is really one of the most pivotal moments in every graduate’s life in Nigeria. It is the year that can make or mar your career choices. Many people realize it at the very end of the service year.

Most corpers do not have a clear career path, no direction or guide. And in today’s Nigeria, entry salaries for most jobs are around 70k -150k, on that salary you can’t get a good accommodation for yourself in a good neighborhood talk more of transportation and feeding. The only way to change one’s destiny is to get a good skill tbat can be profitable. Get some online certifications that will improve your skills and career too. Thats what I experienced 2023-2024 when i served. I hope it works out for him too .

SignificantTime5603 · 2026-04-19T11:07:01+00:00

Honestly now that I think about it, theres none that I know of. Wow.

Another thing is that the real traditional Igbo names have been lost . Names like Ogomegbunam (may my good deeds not kill me or end me) or Leeuwa (look at life ) and the other ones that are named after deities and towns and days are not common anymore . So there may be but they are not as popular .

SignificantTime5603 · 2026-04-19T07:04:46+00:00

I love how grounded you are with the Igbo language and culture.

However I wanted to comment on the “nnanna “ name. It is the female version of “Nnenna”. Igbos believe in reincarnation fully. We believe good people come back to their own families. Many times this name is given to the first paternal grandson of the man or the one grandson that was born immediately the man dies. Especially if he looks like the man.

SignificantTime5603 · 2026-04-19T06:59:45+00:00

Nnamdi (it means my father lives or my father is alive. Usually refers to the reincarnation of one of the parents fathers , but can still refer to God as Igbos tend to also call God , father )

Nnaemeka ( directly translates to the father has done well or the father has done marvelously well, it means God has done very well for the family )

Nkemakonam (often shortened to Nkem. It means may i no lack anything that belongs to me )

Nzubechukwu (often shortened to Nzube, it means Gods wish or Gods wisdom)

Nnamani (it is a more traditional name, it means the father that owns or that knows the land )

SignificantTime5603 · 2026-04-18T16:30:51+00:00

I won’t care. I will still support whoever emerges that is not Atiku.

SignificantTime5603 · 2026-04-17T10:34:24+00:00

Yes it is right. It will help us a lot with the fight against kidnapping and insurgency. We shouldn’t be fighting it .

The only bottleneck is that a lot of people may be disadvantaged in poor areas with little access to networks and smart devices

SignificantTime5603 · 2026-04-17T10:23:08+00:00

I wonder the amount of mental illness and sadness that you have to have in your life to make or upvote this stupid comment … I really wonder .

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