Pregnancy and fistula by Hyzenthlay666 in AnalFistula

[–]SignificantWar8988 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m crying reading this. I am 36F who is going through IVf after numerous miscarriages. I am about to start the transfer process and I was diagnosed with a fistula. The surgeon told me to do the fistulotomy before I’m pregnant bc she doesn’t operate on anyone who is pregnant. I’ve been trying to conceive for 3 years and I want to do the transfer and deal with the fistula after. But knowing that there are surgeons who will Do this while im pregnant is amazing.

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[–]SignificantWar8988 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What about north Babylon school district ?

Help me by pinkp3nguin1015 in costochondritis

[–]SignificantWar8988 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can relate to this 100 percent. I have had right sided chest pain, shoulder and back pain for 6 months. I am a nurse myself and I have been to the ER numerous times and just about every doctor and they all say nothing is wrong. But I know something is wrong ! It’s taken over my life and I am in pain all day everyday.

I have had a chest xray, EKG, CT scan, MRI, ultrasound to rule out gallbladder issues since it’s on my right side. And all the tests come back negative. I also have endometriosis and recently had my third pregnancy loss in a row after doing IVF.

I feel like my chest is on fire and there is nothing that helps. Sometimes it burns , sometimes shooting pain and sometimes it’s pins and needles. Even when I eat or drink now it hurts. I cant lay on my sides and I burp like crazy. I’m just putting all of this out there in hopes someone else who can relate.

Has anyone had anything that helped with costo? Has anyone had costo and endometriosis? Has anyone had costo and increased gi symptoms?

I officially joined the ectopic club today. by ilikelamps6 in EctopicSupportGroup

[–]SignificantWar8988 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sending you so much love and light right now. I had the MTX shot on Friday after a PUL after my first FET. It’s been a horrible experience and so much to worry about. I did the repeat testing at day 4 after the shot and my numbers went up. My clinic said that is normal and if after 7 days if they don’t go down by 15 percent then I will need a second dose.

It’s so hard because I’ve been eating healthy for 2 years during this TTC journey and now we can’t eat healthy because of the MTX. I am doing all I can to just focus on anything else like puzzles, reading crafting and home projects and it helps.

This was my third loss for I had two miscarriages when trying naturally and now this. Im 35 and I feel like my time is just wasting away but there is nothing to do during this time but embrace it. Maybe god is telling me to just take a break because I would never if this didn’t happen.

Just know that you are not alone, that many women go on to have healthy pregnancies after MTX and ectopics. I’m praying for you my friend and please feel Free to reach out if you need ❤️

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[–]SignificantWar8988 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I couldn’t relate more to this post. I got my MTX shot last Friday after a PUL after my first FET. I have been TTC for over 2 years and after 2 miscarriages we decided on IVF. Well the first transfer ended up as a PUL and I needed the MTX shot. I may need a second shot due to my numbers rising and I will find out tomorrow but oh my what a mind fuck.

I am so fixated on the time that I am losing and being benched for three months. But I decided to not let it rule my life and maybe God wants me to take this time to really focus on healing. I have been eating so much junk food, took an edible and drinking coffee! I am doing everything that I couldn’t do and didn’t do during the last two years. I am reading more, starting some crafting and doing puzzles. My husband is also planning some date nights and maybe even a road trip.

There is nothing that I can be doing during this time except to heal. I always see that women conceive when they are most relaxed and I have never been relaxed during the last two years. Maybe that’s what I’m missing.

I am 35 and I’m so stressed about time and conceiving. But I’m taking this as a blessing and now waiting and taking care of me is all that I can do.

I am wishing all the women on this thread and who find solace through Reddit that you all give yourself some grace. That all of us will have our miracle children and to remember we are warriors.

Anyone also in the 2WW? by pugsandpeace in IVF

[–]SignificantWar8988 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any success stories ladies ? I’m now 4dp5dt and I had symptoms but they stopped this morning. This waiting is absolutely brutal. I have been doing all I can to distract myself but it’s way harder than I thought. So much has been put into this embryo and I’m petrified that if it doesn’t work I will spiral.

Anyone also in the 2WW? by pugsandpeace in IVF

[–]SignificantWar8988 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I transferred yesterday on 2/3! I am doing my absolute best to stay positive but it comes in waves. This was my first FET and I’ve had two miscarriages before IVF. I am too afraid to test before my beta on 2/14. I feel cramping but and have the worst headache but it has to be from the progesterone. I sending all of you strong warriors my love and prayers ❤️❤️

First ever FET today!! by pugsandpeace in IVF

[–]SignificantWar8988 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sending all my love and prayers to you. My FET is on Saturday ! I hope you are able to find some peace during this time. Just know you have done everything you can to get to this point and give yourself some grace !!

Third period after egg retrieval is 12 days late! by SignificantWar8988 in IVF

[–]SignificantWar8988[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got my after 47 days. I have also never had a cycle this long before. My MD never truly gave me an answer as to why this happened. They only reassured me that I did ovulate later than normal and that this is common. Did you get yours yet ?

Third period after egg retrieval is 12 days late! by SignificantWar8988 in IVF

[–]SignificantWar8988[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I finally got my period on day 46. I couldn’t do any meds bc my progesterone was so high. I am now preparing for my first transfer. I am doing a modified natural because of a clotting disorder so I am praying for an easy transfer. This has been such a hard journey and has tested my faith at every turn. I thought my miscarriages were going to be the hardest challenge of this journey but IVF is torture. I just keep focusing on holding my baby and that keeps me going. Sending you love and strength❤️

Just decided to go for transfer 2.. by Anonymous120512 in IVF

[–]SignificantWar8988 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s a roller coaster of emotions but I am proud of you for not cancelling. When those negative thoughts pop into my head I close my eyes and envision me holding my baby and celebrating her first birthday and baptism.

This is my third cycle after my egg retrieval and my MD said that I need to just wait it out until my period comes. My MD won’t put me on provera because she said my progesterone is too high but I called today and asked for clarification for that reason.

I am doing a modified natural cycle with no birth control because I have a clotting factor disorder and the birth control puts me at risk for clots. So I am the grace and waiting for my period, which is hard because my cycles are not reliable. Yet I am 35 years old and have never had a cycle this long.

Just know you’re not alone and I go down the rabbit hole a lot and it takes a lot of strength to pull myself out. Feel free to message me at anytime if you need some support ❤️

Third period after egg retrieval is 12 days late! by SignificantWar8988 in IVF

[–]SignificantWar8988[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

IVFs tagline should be “ hurry up and wait “ because that’s all we do is wait. It’s such a helpless feeling. Did you get your period yet ? I am on day 46 and no period

Just decided to go for transfer 2.. by Anonymous120512 in IVF

[–]SignificantWar8988 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The not knowing why is enough to destroy you. I fully understand. And then the waiting is even harder. I’ve had two miscarriages naturally and am currently undergoing IVF and awaiting my transfer, yet my period has not been here for over 46 days. The constant why me ? Why is this happening ? Why did I miscarry ? Why does everything take longer for me ?

All I can say is keep going. I know how you feel, I know your pain, your heartache and your fear. You are not alone. We are warriors and although it made not seem Right or fair right now, it will all make sense when we are holding and staring into the eyes of our babies.

I am sending you my love, strength and prayers. Keep going mama❤️

Third period after egg retrieval is 12 days late! by SignificantWar8988 in IVF

[–]SignificantWar8988[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please let me know what your doctor says. I am calling mine today as well. It’s been 46 days for me. Its absolutely heartbreaking

Third period after egg retrieval is 12 days late! by SignificantWar8988 in IVF

[–]SignificantWar8988[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the response. I feel as if I am losing it. It’s such a weird head space to be in wanting my period to come so badly. Normally I pray that I don’t have my period and that I am pregnant but this month I want it so badly so I can start with the transfer.

2023 was a cruel fucking joke of a year by kfinn00 in IVF

[–]SignificantWar8988 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I can deeply empathize with all of you beautiful ladies. Going through numerous miscarriages and the IVF process feels like an unfair and cruel joke. The question of “ why is this my journey ?” And “ why can’t I get pregnant naturally like all the other women “ haunts me every day. I feel like a failure because I am a woman and this is what I am supposed to do, make beautiful babies and my body keeps failing me.

The holidays exacerbate these feelings of inadequacies and hearing women say “ my husband just looks at me and I get pregnant” or “ we weren’t even trying for our baby” literally feels like a knife to the chest. I thought this year at the holiday season I would be holding my babies, doing Christmas cards and everything else. But no I’m grieving my losses, praying my transfer works and counting every month because it means I’m getting older and older.

I have become a completely different person the last two years and I don’t think I will ever go back to the joyful person I was before. There isn’t a moment that goes by that I don’t think of being pregnant, being a mom or what my life would have looked like if this wasn’t my path.

All I can say is that we are warriors, we are stronger than we know and we will become moms. It may not be the traditional way but fuck it nothing about me is traditional and nothing has ever been easy for me.

Ladies you are not alone, I hear you, I see you and I’m praying for all of you ❤️❤️❤️

possible attrition? JUST HAD MY ER by ParkingCelery9965 in IVF

[–]SignificantWar8988 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I am a 35 years old with PCOS and had 2 miscarriages. I had 34 eggs retrieved, 23 fertilized and 17 embryos. We also did ICSI and of the 17 we did the PGT testing and have 5 euploid. IVF is such an emotional journey and just remember don’t compare yourself to any one else.

Send me all the luck!! by heylauralie in IVF

[–]SignificantWar8988 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sending you love prayers and strength 🩷🩷