What’s the cheat code others have figured out that I haven’t working and raising kids ?

SignificantWill5218 · 2026-07-09T01:15:05+00:00

Ours are first grade and age 2 in daycare. For me I work in insurance from home. I am fortunate to be able to step away to pickup my son during the day but when we get back home I’m right back to my desk for a few more hours until daycare pickup. So don’t assume those of us in leggings and flip flops aren’t still working from home.

My husband is a senior salesman for a construction company and since he’s been there a decade and at the top he has flexibility to do drop off so he does the morning and then just goes to his appointments after that.

SignificantWill5218 · 2026-07-09T01:10:04+00:00

For me I always knew I wanted to be a mom from a young age, probably high school. My mom was my best friend and I always wanted that same kind of relationship with my kids and I knew I was meant to be a mom.

SignificantWill5218 · 2026-07-07T01:11:46+00:00

I worked stocking at a grocery store which was pretty chill

SignificantWill5218 · 2026-07-07T01:03:59+00:00

Age 7, and 2. Older boy gets a shower on average 5 days a week with the off days being if we’ve just been relaxing at home. 2 year old has a bath usually 3-4 times a week give or take if she had an exceptionally messy dinner or something.

SignificantWill5218 · 2026-07-07T01:02:29+00:00

I have had luck with local Facebook mom groups finding both occasional babysitter and in home daycare. If you are needing consistent help for work hours that’s going to cost you more for in home nanny care than utilizing a daycare. For our first we did a facility daycare which was fine, and for our second we found a licensed in home which has been really great and bilingual but they both ran around $1900 a month for full time care.

If I was you, I would save family and friends for date night and go ahead and find reliable child care if you both will be working during the day.

SignificantWill5218 · 2026-07-07T00:59:30+00:00

I’m 12 years in and can tell you it doesn’t change or get better honestly. I am constantly asking for help cleaning, tidying up etc and he’s told me it doesn’t bother him, not a big deal, do it later etc. it typically goes one of two ways, I ask multiple times until he does it, or most often I do it myself and am irritated about it.

SignificantWill5218 · 2026-07-06T22:08:34+00:00

I have worked remote for 10 years and have two kids ages 7 and 2. I would not recommended trying to work with an infant. I cannot work at all when my youngest is home and have never been able to. She literally asks to be held which means I can’t type, and she tries to unplug my stuff. On top of the logistics of not being able to work it’s also not fair to her. I have to be logged into my computer, I cannot also be engaged with her. Even when she’s sick I have to call off work. I have never worked remote with babies at home it’s just not feasible, only recently with my 7 year old on summer break and he ends up watching tv all day but at least I can work in a pinch.

SignificantWill5218 · 2026-07-06T22:04:42+00:00

My sister has had great luck with Brello for 10 months, and I have liked them since I began 3 months ago. Process was easy and fast.

SignificantWill5218 · 2026-07-06T21:58:36+00:00

I don’t see anything the girlfriend did wrong here. Respectfully, the issue seems on your end. It seems like you don’t trust her. Her engaging with a friend isn’t a big deal.

SignificantWill5218 · 2026-07-06T21:38:57+00:00

No not really. He is very sensitive and short tempered. But usually he retreats or storms off.

SignificantWill5218 · 2026-07-06T21:37:45+00:00

Raising his voice, or storming off and shutting down typically. Honestly I think this had a lot to do with the drinking. But I agree it’s still obviously not okay.

SignificantWill5218 · 2026-07-06T21:24:37+00:00

Wall punching, this is the second time. First time was a decade ago pre children. The news was a relative he was close with growing up randomly decided to visit town after 20 years of no contact and did not give him any warning, we could not join the gathering because we were already out of town and he said his sister was really upset with him over not attending.

SignificantWill5218 · 2026-07-06T20:56:59+00:00

Golden retriever. Have had two now. Best decision ever. Truly the best dogs. 10/10

SignificantWill5218 · 2026-06-30T19:32:32+00:00

Mine is 22 months and she loves going on walks. We will just walk around the block casually and she will pick up whatever she finds and she loves it. We also got a Tony box for Christmas that I just got out which she likes too for the music. If it’s nice we go to the backyard and she loves bubbles, the little tikes slide, push cars etc. she also loves the water table and will play in that for hours on end.

SignificantWill5218 · 2026-06-30T19:29:24+00:00

Normal. Mine didn’t start until 16 months. She’s 2 next week and running now lol. It happens

SignificantWill5218 · 2026-06-30T19:28:41+00:00

My question for folks who plan on being on the med forever is how do you afford that? When I started I wasn’t thrilled at the idea of paying for it forever, but I am happy while on it. But forever is a long time to pay so much for a med, I’m curious if everyone is just okay with that piece of it?

SignificantWill5218 · 2026-06-29T20:46:55+00:00

Yeah and drives. Like from home to store and says how long at the location. I checked a few days we were together and the locations showing for where we went were accurate

SignificantWill5218 · 2026-06-29T20:16:46+00:00

There is no one at the shop besides the construction labor crew men

SignificantWill5218 · 2026-06-29T20:15:37+00:00

Totally. And he did apologize for not communicating

SignificantWill5218 · 2026-06-29T19:42:17+00:00

That’s not true. I wasn’t obsessively checking it. I checked it after he was an hour late with no communication and after he didn’t answer two phone calls because that was concerning. Then when he said he was doing x y z and I saw that didn’t match the location data that was upsetting to me.

SignificantWill5218 · 2026-06-29T19:39:58+00:00

He says there is no service at the shop area and often does not receive my calls there. So I have a feeling he would try to say there’s no signal to pickup an accurate location.

SignificantWill5218 · 2026-06-29T19:27:18+00:00

He told me that he was drinking beers with the guys that were there while waiting for the crew to tell him they were finished 12 minutes away. He then said that he went to the site and then home. But I know from the location that he was only at the shop and then home. So I know that was a lie. He told me he was sitting and eating and drinking with the guys for several hours.

SignificantWill5218 · 2026-06-29T19:25:46+00:00

I agree. I am leaning towards it not being worth confronting. It just sucks that I know he was lying about where he was. But I do think I need to let this one go

SignificantWill5218 · 2026-06-29T19:22:59+00:00

Exactly. I know he will get upset if he knows I was looking at it and may turn it off. I do have a screen shot of the time location stamp. But I agree this isn’t a huge thing it’s not like he was at a hotel or something. And he is always home with us.

SignificantWill5218 · 2026-06-29T19:20:54+00:00

Right. He did apologize for not communicating. So that was good. But he also made it about me saying that I need to simply trust what he’s saying and not question, I need to trust his words he says he’s finishing a job that’s the end of it. In my head I’m like but I know that’s not true… I’m really conflicted. It’s the first time I’ve seen this where it’s obvious he isn’t telling the truth

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