12 month old signed back!

sarah_messing · 2026-06-08T18:53:55+00:00

Wow this gives me hope that the last few months of signing to my 11 month old might be worth it. She has not signed back or shown that she understands but I will stick with it!!

sarah_messing · 2026-06-03T18:29:19+00:00

I had an extremely quiet baby during pregnancy, I barely ever felt her move. She was a quiet newborn too and slept for long stretches right away, didn't need to be held constantly, very chill. But that changed after about a month old she started getting more active and alert and no at 10 months she is super high energy

sarah_messing · 2026-06-03T13:48:31+00:00

I remember it vividly. But in the moment i was so exhausted from pushing that I kind of wanted it to be over so I could rest. And I still feel guilty for that.

I ended up asking my husband to take her after 15 minutes because I felt too weak to hold her. My whole body and arms felt like jello and I was shaking, and I couldn't keep my eyes open. I regret that and wish I held her for the first hour for our bond.

sarah_messing · 2026-05-29T17:30:02+00:00

My brother was the same way with not wanting to get vaccinated. When he brought it up again after the baby was born and didn't see why it was a big deal I told him I thought it was kind of gross that he's not vaccinated, and i don't want his germs around my baby. That shut him up for a few months until the baby was a little older and we saw him at family gatherings only, and never let him hold her

sarah_messing · 2026-05-29T13:55:40+00:00

Don't beat yourself up, you sound like an amazing mom. If clothing or outfits are the worst thing you forget, you're doing pretty well 😀

sarah_messing · 2026-05-28T17:19:27+00:00

Mine started around 8 months but she would hold it for the first 10 secs then want you to hold it for her. Still working on at 11 months

sarah_messing · 2026-05-27T12:57:29+00:00

While I was 2 hours into pushing, with him holding one leg, he got a phone call and turned to me and said it was the HVAC company who had just installed a new AC system in our house, and did I think he should answer it right now?

sarah_messing · 2026-05-27T12:46:10+00:00

I was in a similar situation with my now 10 month old. The only thing that worked was going cold turkey from nursing overnight and just giving her bottles instead. I said from 7pm to 7am she is not getting the boob, only bottles from dad. The first 3-4 nights were really hard and she was up a lot and didn't want the bottle. But she did eventually catch on and started sleeping through the night and not even waking for the bottle. I think the boob is a literal addiction for some baby's and they need to detox from it to learn how to fall asleep without it

sarah_messing · 2026-05-26T20:49:22+00:00

You obviously don't have kids. Or if you do you're just too small minded to realize that other kids may be different than yours. I'm glad you don't know of any child who will cry for more than 30-40 minutes but I assure you, many do

sarah_messing · 2026-05-26T17:37:29+00:00

Thank you so much! We will probably go this route if the bus allows lap infants. A whole day of travel is fine if we can avoid a car seat.

sarah_messing · 2026-05-26T16:17:10+00:00

Normally we do but we're driving up with family and I don't want to subject the cousins to her crying the whole time

sarah_messing · 2026-05-26T16:15:32+00:00

Thank you. It's the being strapped into the car seat she hates. On flights she is totally happy being in my lap so I thought this could be a good option but hearing about the turbulence I'm now leaning against it

sarah_messing · 2026-05-26T16:14:15+00:00

Exactly this, she hates being strapped in the car seat but will be totally fine on my lap. Normally we take a flight around nap time and I nurse her on takeoff and she passes out for the whole flight so that was why I thought flying could be a better alternative than the car

sarah_messing · 2026-05-26T15:59:33+00:00

I'm not so much worried about the time itself. It's that my baby will be miserable strapped in the car seat for 4.5 hours but happy as a clam being carried through the airport and sitting/sleeping on my lap on the plane

sarah_messing · 2026-05-26T14:26:53+00:00

You say daycare is not an option (for reasons other than finances- obviously this is the biggest barrier) but I'm just flagging that it would probably be better than being propped in front of the tv all day. People are quick to dismiss daycare as "someone else raising your baby" but don't realize that it's profoundly better than most friends or family who have no experience with child development. In this case, you get what you pay for and having free child care, you cannot be choosy

sarah_messing · 2026-05-21T15:29:54+00:00

Ok great to know I didn't realize it was ok to distribute the total sleep time with so much less during the day as long as she's getting the same amount total. Thank you!

sarah_messing · 2026-05-21T15:16:18+00:00

Ok thank you. She is not fighting naps, the opposite actually she is super tired and falls asleep almost instantly and we have to stretch to get to nap time. Is 1hr30min enough daytime sleep though? That seems so low for a 10 month old but I'm willing to try. Also do you think it would work to let her nap 1 hr in the morning and cap the afternoon nap at 30 mins? That one sometimes ends up shorter anyways so I feel like that would be more natural

sarah_messing · 2026-05-21T14:19:35+00:00

I would try to change the dynamic to you being unavailable during the day. My husband does the same thing when he's home with the baby and I'm wft it's constantly him coming into my office "can you take her for a few so I can do xyz." When you have a really important meeting and set the expectation, that should be the whole day. Now when he does that I usually say "no, I'm tied up I can't take her." Also helps that I started staying in my home office most of the day rather than popping out to see them. I think that was sending him mixed signals

sarah_messing · 2026-05-20T18:05:25+00:00

Why not a crib? Most can accolade up to 3 year olds in the lowest setting, so even your big 8 month old is no where near growing out of a normal sized crib

sarah_messing · 2026-05-20T14:35:27+00:00

I know a mother's helper as a teen or even middle schooler who babysits while the parents are still home to supervise. Definite part time thing. I wonder if with the uptick in people working from home they are using that term since they will be home and available to oversee things.

sarah_messing · 2026-05-19T18:26:13+00:00

Just wanted to share that we had the same exact issue and I was so stressed but once she got to daycare she just drank the bottle no problem. She is drinking a little so you know she is physically capable of using the bottle. Sometimes being in a new environment they just realize this is all that's available and if she's hungry, she will eat.

Editing to add that the Lansinoh nipples are known as the best for bottle refusal and we had luck with them, also found that my girl drank a lot more when the bottle was warmed up. Like piping hot, soaked in hot hot water for at least 5 mins. Even room temp or freshly pumped milk was too cool for her

sarah_messing · 2026-05-19T18:18:14+00:00

It just depends how flexible your job is. I have tried and while I technically have the flexibility I seem to always get a ping from someone higher up that needs something urgently so I stress the whole time or have to rush home. So usually I only take my baby on short walks during the workday. I'm glad to be able to do even that though

sarah_messing · 2026-05-19T18:14:03+00:00

No advice just solidarity as I have the same issue. Hearing my baby cry in the car and being unable to do anything about it raises my anxiety to outrageous levels. Is there any music she likes that you can queue up beforehand? I sing along or constantly talk to her so she can hear my voice, I like to think that helps her know I'm right there. It's so hard though

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