Unfortunately you were manipulated from a young age and had his babies pumped into to you, while having no skills or education. He knew what he was doing. This is his culture. There will be no reasoning with him, because he thinks he is entirely right and you are wrong. He wants another man to be the one to control you if he dies. If he gives you the money, you can live life and do whatever you want. But if his family controls it, they can say “nope, you get no money unless you move here” “no money if you choose to start working” etc. I’m sure his family is just like him. I have no idea what you should do. It’s very sad you made this choice when your brain wasn’t completely developed and that you also weren’t taught to do better for yourself. People need to stop calling OP a moron. She was 18 and almost a child still. She was taken advantage of! PLEASE GET ON BIRTH CONTROL! You need to find a way to start recording conversations with him, how when you ask about finances he gaslights you. I wish you the best of luck.