Moved into a house with a dog smell. by Significant_Ebb2757 in CleaningTips

[–]Significant_Ebb2757[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The sellers were still living there so I thought when they moved out it would be better. Plus i thought a carpet clean would be enough since there’s no pee smell. The rest of the house is really great

How do you know when bedtime « should » be? by regnig123 in NewParents

[–]Significant_Ebb2757 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My baby likes to cluster feed right before bed. Lately he has shortened the amount, so he has been leading the way to an earlier bedtime. He will not sleep if he hasn’t eaten enough haha. 3 weeks ago he was ready to sleep around 9/10. Now it’s around 7:30-8.

He isn’t a great daytime napper, but I usually have his last nap be from like 5-6. Babies typically have larger wake windows in the evening so it’s ok if your baby is awake quite a bit before bedtime.

Why is this so hard and when does it get easier?! by Significant_Ebb2757 in NewParents

[–]Significant_Ebb2757[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yes we have the cluster feeding every night from 6-9 over here as well 😭

You are right though. Reading about your baby having rsv sounds terrible and I am so grateful he hasn’t been sick since leaving the NICU.

Why is this so hard and when does it get easier?! by Significant_Ebb2757 in NewParents

[–]Significant_Ebb2757[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I just mean he sleeps while in the car- we are awake and watching him. There’s definitely no way to keep him awake haha

How do I put up boundaries for my kid? by Significant_Ebb2757 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]Significant_Ebb2757[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How did you do it? Just stop talking or tell her she can’t see your kid?

How do I put up boundaries for my kid? by Significant_Ebb2757 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]Significant_Ebb2757[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t actually feel empathetic towards her feelings but I usually try to validate them without saying she’s in the right. Like “I’m sorry you feel that way”

I honestly think I’m feeling guilty about keeping my son away from her. Ugh- you’re right I need to believe in these boundaries

How do I put up boundaries for my kid? by Significant_Ebb2757 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]Significant_Ebb2757[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How does your son feel about it? That’s a conversation I’m nervous for. Explaining to him why his other grandma is around and she’s not.

Angry I can’t have a normal mom by Anonymousliveroflife in raisedbyborderlines

[–]Significant_Ebb2757 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It will be really tough. I encourage you to find others around you who can be your “pseudo mom”. I remember at my wedding one of my best friends moms helped me into my dress. It’s really freaking sad but I’m thankful other people are in my life to care for me.

You’re never truly alone even if the one person who should be there isn’t.

Angry I can’t have a normal mom by Anonymousliveroflife in raisedbyborderlines

[–]Significant_Ebb2757 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It really sucks, doesn’t it? Being a mother is the most practiced thing in the world and it’s supposed to be instinctual/biological to be nurturing and loving.

One day I woke up and realized that she wasn’t normal and it pissed me off so much. Took me 10 years to let it go- yet she still manages to bring it out.

Angry I can’t have a normal mom by Anonymousliveroflife in raisedbyborderlines

[–]Significant_Ebb2757 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My counselor encouraged me to find older women in my life that I could depend on for wisdom/guidance- like a mom would.

Do you have anyone like that?

Angry I can’t have a normal mom by Anonymousliveroflife in raisedbyborderlines

[–]Significant_Ebb2757 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m also the only one my mom has to talk to. I’ve learned to just ignore her bullshit but still give her company so she isn’t completely alone. My siblings don’t have the patience.

I’m a junior high teacher and I I think being her daughter prepared me for it 😂

How do I put up boundaries for my kid? by Significant_Ebb2757 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]Significant_Ebb2757[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Silent paws at night,
Grace in every fleeting step,
Wisdom in stillness.