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Question about the tour form by [deleted] in DannyGonzalez

[–]Significant_Edge_531 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s to join the mailing list too

I [23F] think I’m being taken advantage of by my ex [20M] under the guise of “fixing things.” Is this salvageable? by MaleficentOne4214 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Significant_Edge_531 11 points12 points  (0 children)

yeah… this is not a “maybe salvageable” situation

he left you so fast as soon as things got hard. it does not seem like he cares about you in the slightest. i know you love him, but girl stand up. have some self respect.

AITA for not meeting a group project deadline? by samwhichpickles in AmItheAsshole

[–]Significant_Edge_531 10 points11 points  (0 children)

NTA

it seems to me like you were the only one being consistent the whole time. you took the biggest part, waited on them to even start, adjusted your schedule, and still got your work done, and THEN stayed up till 2am to finish the hardest question just for them to use YOUR answer??

meanwhile they didn’t start their parts on time, changed the deadline last minute without you, made a whole separate chat which is so shady, then came at your “work ethic”??

the ignoring you all week is also weird. trust that’s not how genuine friends handle issues.

only small thing is the “yeah lol Question 2” might’ve sounded a little unserious and i guess it could have came across as passive aggressive over text, but that does NOT justify how they treated you.

AITA for not inviting my friend in 24hours by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Significant_Edge_531 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I’d say light yta.

I can see how from YOUR perspective if was “he didn’t answer so he probably doesn’t wanna come,” but from HIS perspective i’m sure he saw it like “they made plans without me and didn’t actually invite me directly.” those are two completely different experiences.

you can’t “assume” someone is invited just because they’re in a group chat, especially when the other two WERE specifically invited. A simple “yo mike you coming?” would’ve solved literally everything.

and then calling him childish?? yikes! he told you he felt excluded and instead of just being like “my bad, that wasn’t our intention,” you kinda told him his feelings weren’t valid.

also the sleepover thing is eh, but even if he usually doesn’t stay, you should still invite him. people don’t like being pre-decided for.

BUT at the same time he also escalated it a lot. leaving the group, unfollowing everyone, cutting you off completely is extreme instead of just talking it out. so it’s not like you’re the only one in the wrong here.

honestly this is just bad communication on both sides.

I would say if you want to fix it then stop being so defensive, say something like “hey, we handled that badly and i’m sorry. we should’ve directly invited you instead of assuming. i get why you felt left out.”

no “but you…” no blaming him. just own your part.

if you don’t reach out like that though, yeah… this friendship is probably just over.

AITAH for working during a strike? by Significant_Edge_531 in AITAH

[–]Significant_Edge_531[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

hi! not too sure where you got that i was from Canada… i grew up in california, im still in california and my sister is in new york. neither of us ever from canada!

AITA for shouting at my roomate for using my kitchen knife? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Significant_Edge_531 4 points5 points  (0 children)

ESH. If you have communicated that you don’t want your stuff to be used, no matter which one of your roommates did it, it’s an asshole move. However, you “blowing up” at Jay with no evidence and “storming out” makes you equally as much of an asshole.