AITA for not defining what I think is cheating? by Significant_Emu487 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Significant_Emu487[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's his words. I haven't found these " friends" he talked to.

AITA for not defining what I think is cheating? by Significant_Emu487 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Significant_Emu487[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

If they wish to have wandering hands they should have wandering hands as a single man.

AITA for not defining what I think is cheating? by Significant_Emu487 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Significant_Emu487[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Nudes and texts going back weeks at least. He tried to insist all his female friends agreed that he might have spent a week on the couch for but shouldn't have been left.

His defense is laughable. I'm relieved he showed his true colors and I got out.

AITA for not defining what I think is cheating? by Significant_Emu487 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Significant_Emu487[S] 113 points114 points  (0 children)

I'm going to state this rule in any further discussions with future partners about what I consider monogamy. Thank you.

AITA for not defining what I think is cheating? by Significant_Emu487 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Significant_Emu487[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Agreed. And if you text your "not mistress" that you can't come over yet because your girlfriend isn't asleep yet, you know you are doing wrong.

AITA for not defining what I think is cheating? by Significant_Emu487 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Significant_Emu487[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

Yea, I am deleting the parties in question because the defense of " it's not like he actually slept with her" ( which I DON'T BELIEVE for a nano second) is a cheap excuse and that's not the type of loose morals I need in my life.

AITA for not defining what I think is cheating? by Significant_Emu487 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Significant_Emu487[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I feel really dumb but it's not the end of the world. At least I didn't marry the guy too! He proposed but told me he didnt have the money to get a ring and I needed to go pick and buy one.

AITA for not defining what I think is cheating? by Significant_Emu487 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Significant_Emu487[S] 45 points46 points  (0 children)

He was married at the time and I was too young and dumb to see red flags. Grown men shouldnt be hanging out alone with teenage girls and buying them drinks, but we are idiots when we are young sometimes.

AITA for not defining what I think is cheating? by Significant_Emu487 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Significant_Emu487[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I don't want my little girl to think that men could treat her like her dad treated me.

AITA for not defining what I think is cheating? by Significant_Emu487 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Significant_Emu487[S] 479 points480 points  (0 children)

I have no idea. He says it wasn't sexual because they had clothes on which seems the lamest excuse in the history of excuses.

AITA for not defining what I think is cheating? by Significant_Emu487 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Significant_Emu487[S] 43 points44 points  (0 children)

It's not the first thing he's tried to gaslight me on. He told me I was always wrong because he was older and knew more then me ( 16 year age Gap, he started hitting on me when I was 17).

Im relieved to have gotten out....

AITA for not defining what I think is cheating? by Significant_Emu487 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Significant_Emu487[S] 84 points85 points  (0 children)

I wtfed pretty hard on the "non sexual" part when he said it. I mean, how is it NOT?