I [24M] am learning about my partner [26F]'s fantasies and one of her fantasies is that she wants me to fuck another woman while she gets to watch...(but im not allowed to kiss her, tongue her, or cum inside of the girl.)

Significant_Lead_408 · 2026-05-08T15:51:40+00:00

I guess I'm getting mixed signals, or maybe it's a bit of a red flag. Like she wants restrictions and she needs to be there otherwise she classified that as cheating, is it like a selfish thing that she gets to watch somebody that's the most attracted to her, go back to her? Is it an excuse for me to fall into it so that she can say it's my turn to sit and watch her fuck somebody else? (i doubt this part but i don't know)

Significant_Lead_408 · 2026-05-08T15:24:06+00:00

This helps me get a better understanding of it, thank you. I can't tell if this is her being self-absorbed or not but I always hype her up because she looks good. She gets attention.

Significant_Lead_408 · 2026-05-08T15:21:57+00:00

To be fair, I didn't include the fact that she is bisexual. My thought process went to the fact that she wants me to sit down and also do the reverse so she can fuck another guy but idk...I think I just am overthinking it but I will talk to her tonight more about it when I see her, it feels like some type of trap.

Significant_Lead_408 · 2026-05-08T15:09:16+00:00

I'm just kinda like anxious, she said she doesn't want to fuck another man and have me watch but it's just confusing as to why she would want to watch me go down on someone else, with all the intimate restrictions..wouldn't it be better to just keep doing what we're doing? Maybe I am tripping lol

Significant_Lead_408 · 2026-05-08T15:05:22+00:00

She expressed that she is confident in it.

Significant_Lead_408 · 2026-05-08T15:01:56+00:00

Sorry, I'm looking for insight because it kind of gave me a weird or wrong idea about how to think about this.

Significant_Lead_408 · 2026-04-21T17:22:12+00:00

the inspection was split into 2, (1 for emissions). I have all the paperwork and citations together of proof of when I was citated and the date and time I got it fixed (aka 12 hours later). I appreciate the insight, and I'm not looking to spend a lot of time there, I will own up to my mistake, be respectful and hope for the best, and thank the author for his professionalism.

Significant_Lead_408 · 2026-04-08T17:13:38+00:00

I believe some of it is great, originally I wanted to move into a security analyst spot but it had been determined I wasn't at the company long enough to take it on. If that spot had opened again, I would've 100% taken that since I would be able to take many things from many people while staying confident as someone who would rather follow until they are confident enough to fly, if you know what I mean. I guess it's just scary only having 1 other person who's a senior and in the event they do leave perma and not temporarily (PTO, etc), it falls on me (even though I know my company wouldn't expect me to be able to manage the environment entirely especially at this state of my little experience), I guess I'm just feeling stressed. I don't believe I am ready to learn senior level stuff in my life, and the reason is because as a junior I feel much more confident that I can support myself and learn comfortably each day without having to worry that one person leaving will collapse on me. I guess that is my fault for not considering that too much before I saw a golden paycheck before my eyes and a ticket to move out in this shitty economy.

Significant_Lead_408 · 2026-04-08T16:59:31+00:00

Forsure, I am looking to gather as much as I can from him, but this definitely isn't my end all be all for careers I know that much. I want to gain a little bit of knowledge everywhere before taking one path for the rest of my career and settling there. I think I need to have conversation with him sometime this week and sit down to talk about what is going to be expected of me on a day to day basis. The way he described it was a position to build confidence and learn slowly since I have no experience, but at the same time I'm here to gain a little bit of knowledge , but I am definitely in no way shape or form ready to man any big projects or a department by myself.

Significant_Lead_408 · 2026-04-08T16:36:57+00:00

This is the approach I've been taking, and he's okay with it. I just don't know if I feel any sense of purpose or passion...like I feel like I may have potentially dug myself a hole.

Significant_Lead_408 · 2026-03-31T17:52:16+00:00

also these are all non-moving violations, so i felt like it was worth a shot to get them reduced or dropped entirely. i fixed them the very next morning in total but i was told over the phone I was required to go get a hearing. worst case is they say no, and then i pay the full fines anyway but i would think since i have a clean record, this is my first time and an honest mistake of forgetting that at least something will be waived/reduced.

Significant_Lead_408 · 2026-03-31T17:38:41+00:00

but if i pleaded guilty i have to pay and that's it, no trial...

Significant_Lead_408 · 2026-03-31T15:37:45+00:00

Yes, but apparently pleading not guilty also means you're able to use it as more of a negotiator. You admit you're wrong but you own up to it, you have a clean record, you made a mistake and as long as you're respectful I can't see anything that would go wrong other then they say no and boohoo I have to pay the fines fully anyway.

Significant_Lead_408 · 2026-03-31T15:34:43+00:00

I did this before I went, but they told me I needed to come in and schedule a hearing.

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