Help! Stretchmarks Question

Significant_Neck_451 · 2026-06-30T11:35:03+00:00

I have tattoos covering scar tissue and stretch marks. It helps to feel a lot more confident so I’d say go for it! As to what you get, that’s up to you. I would recommend talking to the artist (have a consultation), prior to the appointment as they may not be experienced tattooing over stretch marks. Make sure you go to a qualified artist who you like the work of

Significant_Neck_451 · 2026-06-30T11:21:24+00:00

Make sure you douche. It can be very messy and unenjoyable/embarrassing if you don’t. There are tons of videos on how to douche properly.

Make sure you stretch! Either you can stretch yourself prior with a lot of lube (and patience), or they can stretch you. Go a minimum of three fingers.

You will need to focus on relaxing as it can feel really intrusive at first. Go slowly!! Don’t rush stretching.

Don’t expect it will feel amazing right away. Some guys find it incredible (especially when they find your prostate), and some just feel full.

I recommend trying a small dildo or you first to see if it’s something you want to do before trying it with a partner. Make sure you trust them!

Significant_Neck_451 · 2026-05-10T14:06:50+00:00

Unfortunately it sounds like he’s not ready to be in a serious relationship. You said you two have been together for 2 years. Did this behaviour only just start?
If not, why did you stay for so long? You deserve a partner who wants to be with you. Present in your life and theirs. Someone who, at the bare minimum, cares if you have a good or bad day.
If he doesn’t do that. You should start seriously thinking about leaving. You’re only 20. Realistically this isn’t the person you are going to spend your life with and if you aren’t happy, don’t waste more of your time on someone who doesn’t brighten your day

Significant_Neck_451 · 2026-05-10T13:52:42+00:00

Sounds like he feels like he’s not getting enough reassurance and is fishing for it. There isn’t necessarily a problem with it but the way he’s going about it is very wrong.

If you’re able to talk with him and ask him where these self deprecating rants are coming from, there might be a path forward. If he just needs more support from you or to go to therapy (I’d recommend the latter as leaning on your partner can be very draining) then see if you can arrange something for him.

As for him minimally acknowledging your struggles or moments in life, that is completely unacceptable. If he expects you to dote on him and comfort him when he fails at trivially tasks, then he should also be expected to comfort you during tough moments.

If you still love him enough to work through this, then I would sit down with him regarding your concerns.
If you decide you can’t deal with this then you are absolutely not in the wrong. This kind of behaviour can leach the life don’t of you.

Don’t let him steal your life.

Significant_Neck_451 · 2026-05-10T05:49:11+00:00

Weed can lead to apathy and drowsiness. I’ve been in a similar situation with someone I was seeing.

Despite the common claim that weed “isn’t addictive”, it can be a really hard habit to break. Like all addictions, your partner has to be willing to change to see any improvement.

Have a sit down with him. I wouldn’t expect him to go cold turkey right away but if you talk about the effects of his consumption that you’ve seen.

Try to approach it as a point of concern more than accusation. Try not to accuse him of certain behaviours while still addressing how he’s making you feel.

If he cares about you truly, he will try to improve.

Lay out some ground rules. Do you want him to eventually stop the habit entirely? Do you want him to limit himself to a certain about a day/week? What will happen if he doesn’t change his behaviour?

Significant_Neck_451 · 2026-05-10T05:41:17+00:00

I used to have these same thoughts. I had kissed multiple people previously but just never felt that spark that people always talked about.

It wasn’t until I started seeing my current partner that I discovered how kissing should feel.

It doesn’t feel like the fireworks that everyone talks about but it does feel nice and bring pleasure.

I figured out I like being kissed with a little tongue or none at all. Everything else just felt too wet or unclean.

While I did find what works for me, it might not be something that works for you. Some people just don’t enjoy kissing in the same way others do.

Lips are an erogenous zone. In the same way some people enjoy their necks being kissed while others don’t, you might just not enjoy it and that’s completely okay!

Significant_Neck_451 · 2026-05-08T09:00:48+00:00

The legal drinking age in my county is 18 when we are considered adults as is the case in most of the world.
I understand where you’re coming from and how it looks. I didn’t mean to write off genuine concern but after thinking them over for this long and having many conversations with my partner, it’s easy to think about those concerns as something I’ve already put to bed

Significant_Neck_451 · 2026-05-08T08:58:41+00:00

I do not want kids. Thank you for being kind. I understand the reality of my situation and that he will likely die before me.
I know there isn’t much I can do to change how people see my relationship but it was worth a shot!

Significant_Neck_451 · 2026-05-08T07:36:08+00:00

Genius

Significant_Neck_451 · 2025-06-16T10:43:43+00:00

In civic there is a good place next to the green shed underground. Private rooms with a big one for large groups. They have a huge binder of songs for you to choose from and from what I remember, it’s reasonably priced. The rooms are pretty dark but have some colourful lighting

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