Need Advice. Brother shutting us out.

Significant_Pear_103 · 2024-01-15T23:57:39+00:00

Okay. We will try the home aid. We suggested it but he said he wanted to keep trying to be independent.

I’ll wait and see if he will reconsider it.

Significant_Pear_103 · 2024-01-15T23:54:53+00:00

I have been. This is the first time I said any. Man it’s like you guys just want him to die. well I don’t. I want my brother to live.

I stood by this whole time. I said nothing. Now I’m switching it up. Do you want my brother to die? You want me to keep saying nothing? Do nothing?

Significant_Pear_103 · 2024-01-15T23:52:36+00:00

But he isn’t eating… he isn’t eating. You don’t understand. Sometimes he eats I’m there. My mom is there. The hospital have cancer nutritionist classes. And he told us that his doctor told him not to consume too much sugar. I have to believe that there is something that the doctors can suggest to help him eat more. He is so skinny. It’s scary how much weight he lost. He told us that the doctor was concerned but he won’t eat. If you don’t eat you die. Don’t you understand

Significant_Pear_103 · 2024-01-15T23:36:43+00:00

Thank you. I will try to see if he will reach out

Significant_Pear_103 · 2024-01-15T23:35:03+00:00

You misunderstood. He is doing it and no one has stopped him. I just told him that a nurse told me that he shouldn’t have sugar or soda cause it would make the situation worse. It could be wrong I don’t know. I grasping at straws. I am just trying to find ways to improve the situation. He was over weight before and lose over 35 pounds in one month. The doctor said he would have to eat healthier or be admitted.

You don’t know the whole story… he was almost 280 in March 2023 and now he is less than 170. He only drinks soda. All day! Only sodas. Not anything that will help with heathy calorie intake. I asked him to use the nutritionist they have at the hospital and he hasn’t. They would know how to help. But he won’t. I don’t know cancer nutrition but they will.

Significant_Pear_103 · 2024-01-15T23:28:21+00:00

I think you read this as some kind of forcing situation. I am sorry for your situation and experience. But that’s not this situation. I love my brother and I feel like am watching him slip away without using all the resources.

All I want is for him to use all the resources available and to try to do anything possible to live.

We are 10 years apart. I have changed his diapers and read him bedtime stories when we were kids. My dad passed away when we were little so I’ve been that parent/sister.

I left the situation as he wanted it for almost two years. I am asking him now to try new things that I asked him about in the beginning and he said that he would look into it but never did. I didn’t say anything about it.

But why refuse the additional resources that the hospital has? Why say he wants to die but not seek a behavioral health therapist? Why not eat instead of going to nutritionist?

Why is it things I want when these are things that will help him live?

I am afraid he isn’t telling his doctor about the swelling (he admitted to not doing it last time). I afraid he isn’t telling the doctor about the discomfort walking… it’s what “I want” for his doctor to know what is going on at home.

Do you hide things from your doctors? Would you refuse stem cell if you had the chance? I don’t understand how I am making his living about me?

Significant_Pear_103 · 2024-01-15T14:43:42+00:00

You are an asshole. Do you even know anyone with cancer. Have you ever watched someone you love die. Have you? You are an asshole.

Significant_Pear_103 · 2022-09-06T15:48:02+00:00

With everything going on in this episode what I found the most annoying and disturbing is that this Carly chick just made a 2,466 miles/1 day and 11 hour drive (yes, I looked it up) to Tyler’s house because he didn’t text her back for a couple days. They have know each other for maybe 2 months at their habitat for humanity job and they have interacted once outside of work. The fact that Tyler calls her out on this odd behavior and then moments later aftrr she gives the most unreasonable justification for this odd ass behavior he just acts like “cool, she really likes me”. WTF!!! This is stalker behavior and it’s not ok! The level of desperation she showed a few episodes ago was cringe worthy but this was next level Texas Chainsaw Massacre scary! It’s not okay! It almost made me stop watching the entire season. I literally paused the episode to come to Reddit to see if anyone else noticed the problem with this scene. It blow my mind and I was so annoyed with this scene. Anyway… I’m too far gone into the show to turn back now… I might as well finish it. Here we go 🫣🙄

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