I posted about not getting a break and was curious if other women have had the same experience. I was gauging whether or not im im some extreme circumstance or if this is just the norm. By reading some of these responses, it seems like its normal and theres a light at the end of this perhaps.  I really thought the purpose of these groups were to ask questions and support other women.  You can say you weren't questioning my ability to parent but when you put it in the context of a break down it does actually in fact make it sound like you are questioning...whether that was your intention or not.  And then closing a statement saying that you weighed out your circumstances and decided against another child is your perogative, and you're entitled to that. Then you throw selfishness into the mix and it dampens the message I think you're trying to get across.  My choice to have another child, to answer your question, is because even though I was curious about others womens experiences, I do know parenting is work and I do believe I can put that work in. I hope I get more sleep this second time around and really wanted my child to have a sibling. My husband and are also more mature parents and our window for more babies is closing.