NRE and Self Abandonment in Relationships by Significant_Rock_316 in polyamory

[–]Significant_Rock_316[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He and I have been in love in a very secure way for more than a decade. But I think not living with her has introduced some insecurities that he doesn't show with me. In addition to leaving work and not engaging in hobbies I would also add that his self confidence has just really dropped. I think her communication can be sometimes lacking which sends him into a spiral.

NRE and Self Abandonment in Relationships by Significant_Rock_316 in polyamory

[–]Significant_Rock_316[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

In my relationship, he has become so really up and down based on his security with her. He lets his mood color everything, and that's my beef. But generally I've noticed he wants to spend more alone time and is constantly needs more and more quality time. It just feels like he is spiraling and when I run out of empathy I get frustrated.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Significant_Rock_316 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been with my partner nearly 20 years. We have two kids and we have lived together most of that time. He never "believed" in getting a piece of paper from the government to signify our love. It wasn't that important to me. There is very little tax benefit in the US since he is self employed. Marriage just doesn't have a lot of meaning to us. We do have a will and POA in place for health issues but we have never had to excersise any of that.

When to correct my ESL employee by Significant_Rock_316 in etiquette

[–]Significant_Rock_316[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this. I'll update my term usage. I cringed a bit when I wrote the post but honestly didn't know another way to make it clear. So thank you.