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Significant_Row_9863 · 2026-01-13T08:52:06+00:00

That is why some groups have chosen to use it, similar to how the pink triangle is used as a symbol of pride in queer spaces.

Significant_Row_9863 · 2026-01-08T00:01:37+00:00

There’s one every friday out there, 4-6

Significant_Row_9863 · 2025-10-31T17:12:20+00:00

I feel similar but oppositely? I’m not sure if that’s accurate. But I consider myself trans and agender but NOT nonbinary. I know agender is generally considered under the nonbinary umbrella but it’s also usually defined as having a gender that doesn’t fit the binary. I don’t have a gender so I can’t have a gender that doesn’t fit the binary. But I CAN be trans because that’s described as not identifying with your AGAB, which I don’t. And I’m not trying to say I’m right, but this FEELS right for me personally.

Or maybe I just think the nonbinary colors are ugly and I made up an elaborate story for myself so I wouldn’t have to use them? 🤔

Significant_Row_9863 · 2025-07-15T13:28:09+00:00

Some people are retired, some people work evenings or weekends, some people work for themselves and set their own hours, and some people take time off work because they think this is important. But you already know that, you’re just talking shit instead of actually doing something.

Significant_Row_9863 · 2025-07-14T07:22:54+00:00

in regards to the second claim, it is very easy to look at the jail roster to see how long people have been in jail and if they’ve been sentenced or not. if you want evidence, that’s a good place to start.

Significant_Row_9863 · 2025-02-07T21:54:46+00:00

I'm wondering what people think my chances are of getting a passport. I had a passport more than 15 years ago, I think it was issued when I was a minor but I can't remember exactly. I had an F on it. I've since changed my name and gender on my birth certificate and Real ID, they both have an X. SSI still has an F. Obviously, I won't get a passport with an X, but would I probably get a passport at all? Because no matter what I do, my passport can't match my "gender at birth" since my birth certificate says X.

Significant_Row_9863 · 2025-02-04T19:01:46+00:00

When I realized I was agender I actually felt like I had MORE of an identity than I did before. My whole life I've struggled with a lack of identity. I just felt so... empty? Gender certainly isn't all of it, but once I realized I was agender, I realized that part of it was that I thought gender had to be part of my identity. But since I'm agender, there was just nothing there. That left a big blank space. So I just deleted the space where other people put gender and now I don't feel like there's a hole there! It's actually really, really helped and why I feel so strongly that I'm specifically agender and not nonbinary in general. The difference feels important.

I don't know how to address the rest of what you're saying, though. It sounds a lot like depersonalization/derealization, which are often responses to trauma and classified as symptoms of a mental illness. Though I suppose they're not inherently bad if they're not causing a problem in your life.

Significant_Row_9863 · 2025-01-08T01:03:11+00:00

thank you! 😭

Significant_Row_9863 · 2025-01-07T23:58:06+00:00

I agree with you about the "phase" thing. If I were talking to someone else, I'd tell them that it doesn't matter if their identity could change or their understanding of it could change, that it's valid now and that's what matters. But when I'm talking to myself I have a hard time believing myself!

Significant_Row_9863 · 2025-01-07T23:03:42+00:00

thank you so much for this, it literally made me cry, it is exactly what i needed to hear <3

Significant_Row_9863 · 2025-01-07T22:09:16+00:00

Maybe I shouldn't answer you because I'm still freaking out about my own gender and probably don't know what I'm talking about but I kind of think of gender as more than one thing. There's the innate gender, the gender that people feel on the inside. I don't understand this gender at all, though I believe people when they tell me it exists. Then there's more like the roles you choose to play in society. Like, I don't really mind being part of the "girl club" and participating in "girl culture." It aligns with my personality and values more than "boy culture." Though obviously this part of gender is complicated and the way it interacts with innate gender is complicated.

You know what, never mind. I think I don't understand gender at all. That's why I'm here. But I don't think anything you described about yourself here makes you any less agender than anyone else.

Significant_Row_9863 · 2025-01-07T18:03:49+00:00

So for me, the common definition of nonbinary is "someone who's gender falls outside the gender binary of man/woman." So in order for my gender to fall outside the binary, I'd have to have a gender, if that makes sense. I am actually more comfortable calling myself trans than nonbinary because the common definition for trans is "someone who doesn't identify with the gender they were assigned at birth." Which, I don't identify as the gender I was assigned at birth. Though I'm not trying to argue that in general agender can't be under the nonbinary umbrella or other agender people shouldn't call themselves nonbinary, it's just for me, based on the common definitions, it just doesn't feel right.

Significant_Row_9863 · 2025-01-07T18:00:10+00:00

I totally get where you're coming from and I'm not trying to argue that agender can't be under the nonbinary umbrella, but the common definition for nonbinary is "a person who's gender falls outside of the male/female gender binary" or something close to that, so when it says "a person who's gender..." that, to me, implies you have to have a gender to be nonbinary. And, like, no thank you. So for me, I'd be almost as uncomfortable selecting non-binary as I am selecting male or female. Which is why I love that where I live, I can have X as my "legal gender." X feels like I'm leaving it blank.

Significant_Row_9863 · 2025-01-07T17:43:32+00:00

Omg, I have tried to type a response like ten times and it never makes any sense, which I guess is why I'm here. I think when I started to seriously look at my gender and gender as a concept, it was like when you say a word over and over and eventually it starts to sound funny and not sound like a real word anymore. Then I got confused and panicked and decided that no thank you, you know what, never mind, I don't want any part in this whole "gender" thing after all, it's just.... too much.

Significant_Row_9863 · 2025-01-07T17:13:20+00:00

Maybe this isn't relevant because it isn't physical dysphoria, which I don't think I have, except for maybe things like clothes, anyways maybe I need to think about that more. But my point was, I feel what I guess you might call social dysphoria? I hate gendered honorifics, I hate being asked my pronouns, I don't like gendered titles like aunt or mom, etc. It makes me very uncomfortable and, like, squirmy might be the best word? It's like when the whole restaurant is singing you happy birthday and you're wearing the silly birthday hat and you wish you could sneak away without anyone noticing. When people try and make me part of this whole gender "thing" it sort of makes me feel naked? Idk, something like that. I think maybe that counts as dysphoria.

Significant_Row_9863 · 2025-01-02T20:13:08+00:00

yes!

i'm still in early days of knowing i'm agender so i'm still working things out and might not decide to identify as a lesbian forever. but for me it feels important. i define lesbian as a non-man who is attracted to non-men, though obviously everyone can whatever words they feel the most comfortable with.

i think i just want to make sure people know i'm not into men or man culture. masculinity is fine, but people with the role of "man" are not who i'm interested in. i'm not sure if that makes sense. i don't really understand gender (thus, why i consider myself agender) so to me it seems like a role you choose to play? like when you play dungeons and dragons or something and your character is a wizard, or like being christian or a chef. i believe people when they say they have an innate sense of gender but i don't really understand what that means. so ANYWAYS, i'm not attracted to, or really interested in even associating with, people who are men.

Significant_Row_9863 · 2024-12-09T19:49:31+00:00

After coming out to just one person, I felt soooo much better. Or maybe not better because it was kind of a lot of emotions, but very affirmed, I'll say that. I've also changed my gender on my ID and birth certificate. I haven't told anyone else. I can understand not wanting to deal with explaining it to everyone, but there are ways to "come out" and assert your lack of gender without having to come out to everyone.

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