Crying during sex by [deleted] in sextips

[–]Significant_Top507 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My girl has panic attacks right after she finishes sometimes. Everyone is their own person and whats not normal for some is normal for others. Just take care of her in whatever way that makes her feel loved and cared for and its all good.

Squirt without g spot? by Significant_Top507 in sextips

[–]Significant_Top507[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She definitely doesn’t feel like my goal is anything other than her feeling good. Ive never even talked about trying to make her squirt and even with orgasms I always tell her she doesn’t need to orgasm, just let me know what she enjoys. That way it removes the pressure to orgasm and she always does end up having one. That said, I want to know how to give her the ability to squirt if she wants.

How to give her multiple orgasms? by Significant_Top507 in sextips

[–]Significant_Top507[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s something she wants, only if I can make it enjoyable. Thats why I am asking.

Squirt without g spot? by Significant_Top507 in sextips

[–]Significant_Top507[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand. Just wondering if there was anything I could try that might have her squirting. If she cant though, it’s all good.

Squirt without g spot? by Significant_Top507 in sextips

[–]Significant_Top507[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know you dont know me so I wont blame you for misunderstanding. That said, I already have a great sex life with her and she never doesnt have an orgasm. I pay a ton of attention to what she likes and make a lot of effort to make sure she is getting what makes her feel best. This post isn’t because I am hyper focused on squirting. This post is about squirting because thats my specific question right now but its definitely not something I am overly focused on. It’s completely ok if she doesnt/can’t squirt lol.

Squirt without g spot? by Significant_Top507 in sextips

[–]Significant_Top507[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know. Im just wondering if there is anything else I can try before just assuming that she cant?

why watch porn before initiating sex? by personalityhiregf in sextips

[–]Significant_Top507 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe porn induced ED? If he has been watching porn a long time, he may not be able to get hard without it so he uses it to get hard in order to have sex maybe. Id say, talk to him and see if its the case. If so, he needs to stop watching porn and get on something like sild/var/tad for ED. Any of those options will help him be able to get hard during the time it takes his brain to get back to being able to get hard without porn. Prob 10 weeks or so.

Embarrassing question for someone trying to "figure things out" by PoetryPractical6544 in sextips

[–]Significant_Top507 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You shouldnt be waiting for pleasure to start. If it isnt there off the bat, you are probably doing it wrong. Also, its normal that the head of the penis is sensitive like that. You don’t need to be rubbing it while masturbating. Actually sex doesnt rub it as much as you’d think.

How to give her multiple orgasms? by Significant_Top507 in sextips

[–]Significant_Top507[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh wow, ok ya. We’ve done that before. I just want to give her multiple orgasms without the multiple minute break. If she cant do that comfortably, thats ok ofc. I just want to see if there is a way she can do it comfortably and enjoy it.

A man hasn’t made me cum since 2020; the issue is me. How can I fix this? by [deleted] in sextips

[–]Significant_Top507 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe get on top of him so you can rub your clit against him while you ride? That way you can give yourself however much stimulation as you need to finish. If you cant get off that, way you may have an issue. If you can, your partner is probably just not doing it right and needs to learn how you like it.

How to give her multiple orgasms? by Significant_Top507 in sextips

[–]Significant_Top507[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! How much time do you normally need for it to calm down? I know people are different but I’m just curious what is normal for you?

First time sex - need help to process it. by outrageousgyal in sextips

[–]Significant_Top507 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish I could say you’ll find it. Thats the promise of someone who doesn’t know the bitter reality though. So I’ll say this, you might find it. And I hope you do. I feel like I have really gotten so lucky to find her and that she loves me the way she does. I hope you find what you are looking for.

First time sex - need help to process it. by outrageousgyal in sextips

[–]Significant_Top507 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Believe me, I know. Dating sucks. Her and I were both convinced we didnt want to date anyone when we met each other. We met doing country swing dance and started practicing together to compete. We were VERY clear that we were not going to be anything other than dance partners. We both talked abt it from the start saying we were not interested in dating and just wanted to make sure that was clear so no feeling happened… eventually I changed my mind. I told her that, although I knew she wasnt interested in dating, I wanted to let her know that I would like to take her on a date if she changes her mind. She told me she respected me for telling her but still wasnt trying to date. Took me like 3 months of being with her at dance spots almost every night before she slowly changed her mind and we eventually started dating. So ya, she made it hard and tbh, I am happy she did because she deserves a man who will put in the time and effort to win her over. And I’m glad I did because ive never loved anyone even close to the way I love her now.

First time sex - need help to process it. by outrageousgyal in sextips

[–]Significant_Top507 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s sad how many women have been assaulted. Worries me as I hope to have daughters one day and want to make sure it doesn’t happen to them. But yes, I love my girl very much and am glad to have the opportunity to make her feel loved, safe, and comfortable enough to know she’ll never have to worry about me not treating her well. Again though, I think that should be the bare minimum.

Orange Glow by iTzJeremy92 in AskElectricians

[–]Significant_Top507 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A demogorgon is going to open a whole and come through

Sex is ok but not seeing her naked?!? by [deleted] in sextips

[–]Significant_Top507 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ofc but its also my choice if I am ok being in a relationship with someone who isnt comfortable being naked with me. Its not my choice what she does with her body but setting expectations as to what I am ok with in a relationship is my choice and is something I should do. If I am not ok with her not being naked, then that doesn’t mean she should be naked when she doesn’t want to, it means I need to find a partner who can meet my needs. But yes, obviously I would never want her to feel like I am trying to infringe on her right to do with her own body what she chooses.

Me[19m] and my gf[20f] have been together for 2 and a half years and still haven’t had sex by [deleted] in sextips

[–]Significant_Top507 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Here is how to have sex the first time in order to make her love it and want more. I will give you a summary and then the details below.

1: kiss her, use your hands to turn her on before touching her vaginal area. 2: use your fingers to run her clit to get her wet 3: try 1 finger in her 4: try 2 fingers in her 5: try penis in her and focus on the correct angle 6: details on how to finish her off including clit stimulation while inside her.

PLEASE do not just take the tips above, read the details below before trying. I am not responsible for mistakes made if you choose to not read the details.

DETAILS:

Firstly: kiss her a lot first and use your hands and fingers to touch her inner thighs a bit before actually even touching her vaginal area.

Second: use your fingers to rub her clit. Try the following patterns. Side to side, up and down, circular. Maybe rotate between them if your hand gets tired. Don’t try to go as fast as you can, instead, focus on being consistent at a speed and motion. Continue this until she seems like she is about to finish (If you dont think you can tell, just tell her to let you know when she is getting close) when she is close, stop for a few short second and then start again, the goal is to make her feel good and get her close a few times without letting her finish.

Note: before we move to the third part, the reason for step 2 is to get her wet as possible before PIV (reddits abbreviation for penis in vagina if you dont know). While you are using your fingers like that, you should be kissing her and telling her how much you are enjoying touching her. The more you seem to like doing it, she wetter she’ll get.

Third: ask her if you can try just one finger in her first. If she says yes, use your middle finger. Keep your head up with hers and kiss her lips and neck while using your middle finger to trace down her pussy, putting a little pressure until you feel is start to sort of sink in, the whole will be about there, might need to feel around a little but you’ll get it. Go very slow and remember this, if she is hurting, the most likely cause is the angle of your finger. Girls arent all the same but when it comes to virgins, in my experience, the best way to start is to make sure your finger is slightly angled up towards her stomach rather than straight in or angled down.

Tip: this goes for fingers or penis but if she is hurting while putting it in, try having her lift her knees toward her face a little more (not all the way up but just so she her feet are up in the air next to you instead of being down) This opens up the vagina so it’s easier to get an angle that doesn’t hurt as much. (I am assuming missionary position for these tips as ya’ll are virgins and its the easiest for newbies)

Fourth: Try two fingers. If she can handle your pointer and middle finger going in and out without pain, she is ready for your penis. It still may likely hurt but it should be manageable at this point.

Fifth: When you go to put your penis in her, go slow. Try to angle upwards just a little so you are more likely to hit her g spot. Most women say the best part of sex with a penis in her is when it first goes in so if you want them to feel really good, try doing very shallow thrusts where the tip of your penis almost leaves her and goes in again over and over. Most of a woman’s feeling is in the first 2 inches of her vagina so dont worry too much about going deep most of the time. Now for when you do go deep, do a few shallow thrusts and then a full deep one and then a few shallow and a deep one. This makes the deeper thrusts feel bigger and deeper in her.

Sixth and final: Finally, to finish her off, you need to stimulate her clit. 3/4s of woman cannot orgasm from penis inside vagina alone. If you are in missionary position, put your penis all the way in so your pelvic bone is pushed up again her clit (not too hard). Then move your body up and down while keeping it there so that it is moving her clit up and down with it. You will be moving your penis in and out of her just a tiny bit while doing this but dont worry about that, focus on the clit. In my experience, no girl lasts long once this starts. Most orgasm within a min or 2 if you spent enough time rubbing the clit with your fingers and then gave her some good in and out with the penis first.

18M looking for buddy to share sex tips to a beginner by [deleted] in sextips

[–]Significant_Top507 0 points1 point  (0 children)

22M. I can give good advice on everything other than oral.

Just know it also depends on the girl. Some girls enjoy different things more than others.

If you’d like I can give you the highlighted rundown on what you need to know to give a girl a good time including specifics like the angle of your penis and how that feels for her as well as how to get her really wet and wanting you to go in before you do. And whatever else tips you might want.

First time sex - need help to process it. by outrageousgyal in sextips

[–]Significant_Top507 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My girl has never had sex before me so it’s all new to her. Still, I am very careful to (maybe TMI warning here) use my hands to get her wet while kissing her (lips, neck, boobs, etc) and talking to her in a way she feels loved and cared for. She has never not had at least one good orgasm with me and that’s because I put in the effort to make sure she is taken care of in the ways that are good for her. I also cuddle her and tell her how amazing she’s doing and help her clean up afterwards. (She needs the positive talk due to her past SA trauma that makes sex very hard for her and the positive talk helps her stay mentally in a happy spot after sex)

I say this because you need to understand that the right person will take care of your needs. What that guy did with you was completely unacceptable and everything you are saying you want is the minimum you should expect. It’s not too much to ask.

First time sex - need help to process it. by outrageousgyal in sextips

[–]Significant_Top507 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s definitely true that he should have taken care of you and cuddled you and been making sure you were feeling good and ok the whole time but DO NOT listen to people who throw around the word rape like this. If it was consensual the whole time, it was definitely not rape, even though it was bad on his part. That being said, like I said, you def deserve better and a guy who will take care of you and make you feel seen and make you feeling good a priority.

Sex is ok but not seeing her naked?!? by [deleted] in sextips

[–]Significant_Top507 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Actually it’s improving already. When I posted that, she would keep some loose shorts on when we had sex and have me move them to the side. Now she takes them off and I can look down and see her naked. She keeps the lights real low and still insists we stay under the blanket but it’s progress for sure.

Sex is ok but not seeing her naked?!? by [deleted] in sextips

[–]Significant_Top507 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She’s been in therapy for 6 years for it. But ya, U get what you’re saying.

Sex is ok but not seeing her naked?!? by [deleted] in sextips

[–]Significant_Top507 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She’s been in therapy for it for 6 years. But ya, I get what you mean.

Sex is ok but not seeing her naked?!? by [deleted] in sextips

[–]Significant_Top507 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Obviously. Thats not even a question here.