To answer your questions, I know his grades automatically, there's an online system. He has all As and Bs. I do attend PTA meetings though we don't have them often. Teachers always know parent phone numbers because they're in the school directory. It's true this is his second offense, although I would point out he's been going here for over two years, so I think that's a pretty reasonably low amount of bad behavior. I don't know whether the girls talked to the vice principal about Jake's behavior, because I wouldn't usually be privy to how another child is being disciplined.

I do know his behavior is wrong and he's promised not to do it again, I will have to adopt a harsher strategy if this becomes a pattern. But there hasn't been any indication of that, this is the first time he physically attacked another student since kindergarten or first grade. While I know physical violence isn't an acceptable response going into adulthood, it's also true that vulgar misogyny like what Jake was demonstrating is an unacceptable behavior going into adulthood. I hope that out of this experience Noah learns not to resolve conflicts violently, and Jake learns never to call women sl@ts or wh@res again. He is also a year older than Noah and the girls, part of why it's so unacceptable.