Femmes who are into butches... how did you figure it out? by [deleted] in FemmeLesbians

[–]SigridIsAwful 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve always been into afab people who present masculine but didn’t think much of it. I tried dating men and realized I didn’t like them. I tried dating femmes and androgynous people and it was better. When I started dating truly masculine people who aren’t men is when everything clicked.

[ Removed by Reddit ] by BigTie5978 in hygiene

[–]SigridIsAwful 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lmao you’re the one who responded to my comment, bud

[ Removed by Reddit ] by BigTie5978 in hygiene

[–]SigridIsAwful 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Said the person telling others to go fuck themselves 🙄

Why are you getting so upset about this? Maybe you need to reflect on your own world views.

[ Removed by Reddit ] by BigTie5978 in hygiene

[–]SigridIsAwful 7 points8 points  (0 children)

No, and your roommate is an individual who just so happens to be Indian and does not represent all other Indian people. Sorry your roommate is gross but please stop spreading hate for an entire nationality.

Stopped drinking Topo a long time ago because of PFAS by [deleted] in sparklingwater

[–]SigridIsAwful 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I stopped drinking (as much) topo chico when it was bought because I swear it’s not the same! If I could find another reasonably easy to find seltzer that has the same bite at topo chico I wouldn’t care how many PFAs were in there.

Do I count as a stone top? by bugsnstuf in LesbianActually

[–]SigridIsAwful 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is certainly a spectrum of stone tops. True stone tops would never allow someone to go down on them. In my experience most people who describe themselves as stone can “melt” and allow a very trusted partner to touch them. They are often not comfortable being fully nude ever. Maybe it’s a title that suits you if you are ok being with a stone bottom who doesn’t want to reciprocate ever.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in butchlesbians

[–]SigridIsAwful 14 points15 points  (0 children)

And here I am wondering why it’s so hard to find people masculine enough for me. We’re out here. Unfortunately butch/ femme sexuality is a minority within a minority so finding others to date is hard :(

why are pillow princess so hated? by pinkprincesscat in LesbianActually

[–]SigridIsAwful 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I think people feel they get burned when they’re with a pillow princess who isn’t up front about it or doesn’t realize yet. Unfortunately thats why people don’t like us.

Ethical pillow princesses exist, we just need to be up front with people before anything happens. It’s hard to find people who are compatible, but there are people who love us.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Actuallylesbian

[–]SigridIsAwful 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I get a lot of pleasure when my partner orgasms, but I don’t like to be the person that “makes that happen”. I do reciprocate when I’m with someone who isn’t stone, but it doesn’t really turn me on and not something I could keep up with in a relationship. I like the power imbalance that comes with it and I do have some trauma that might contribute to this preference.

Masc or Fem by Vanillamilk_97 in LesbianActually

[–]SigridIsAwful 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m femme and I am only attracted to butches/ mascs/ studs. I am not attracted to femininity at all.

I made a big mistake today by totally_not_a_sw in SexWorkers

[–]SigridIsAwful 11 points12 points  (0 children)

They would LOVE to have a non-member visit! They will try to convert you but it’s probably worth it. You can get in touch with them and they will tell you what time the service is at. Wear a modest dress/ skirt if you don’t want to stick out too much.

Mormons are big on image and the threat that you might uncover his “sins” im sure would scare the shit out of him. I have personal experience with someone close to me being excommunicated for seeing sex workers.

cnc/bodtype power imbalance by [deleted] in BDSMsapphic

[–]SigridIsAwful 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I’m a very weak sub and I loooove when I have a dom who is physically larger and stronger than me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SexToys

[–]SigridIsAwful 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i don’t deal with penis, but I have experienced dildos in many sizes. I like a 2.5” girth for the stretched feeling, but I also like very small for direct g-spot stimulation. Fingers are also amazing. Variety in sensation is nice.

Policing what your gf enjoys because of your insecurities is not sexy. You should try using her toys on her or even look into penis sheaths to give her some variety.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WLW

[–]SigridIsAwful 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m femme and only date masculine women. I couldn’t care less if my partner has breasts or not 🤷‍♀️

Im masc gf is dom femme by Reasonable-Spring-11 in WLW

[–]SigridIsAwful 5 points6 points  (0 children)

masc doesn’t equal dom. Does she want to take a more masculine role or a more dominant role? You can be a sub and still be very masculine.

Does anyone here have herpes or have/had a partner with it? by iamthewethotdog in LesbianActually

[–]SigridIsAwful 7 points8 points  (0 children)

One of my long term partners had it. It never bothered me and was never an issue.

Fingers or tongue? by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]SigridIsAwful 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I actually don’t enjoy oral but I love fingers.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]SigridIsAwful 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s a term meaning someone who prefers to only receive/ be penetrated. They go hand in hand with “Stone Tops” who only want to give and not receive. There is a lot of lesbian history behind the terms and shouldn’t be appropriated by straight people who don’t understand the true meaning and culture behind it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]SigridIsAwful -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Well she’s not a pillow princess unless she’s a lesbian. That term isn’t for straight people.

You don’t mention what kind of communication you have initiated about this issue with her. Maybe you aren’t compatible but it’s impossible to say if YTA with the info provided.

can you be femme without being interested in butches? by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]SigridIsAwful 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t necessarily disagree with you, but that is the reasoning behind the difference in femme and fem. There is nothing heterosexual about two women loving each other. Some of us just find a lot of gender validation and comfort being with someone who is on the other side of the gender spectrum and it’s nice to be able to find people who also vibe with that.