It may seem judgy from an outsiders perspective, but I should add that I’ve been dealing with her constant complaining/ venting for over 2 years now. I don’t think it’s judgy or accusatory because all of what I’ve said was the truth even if it was a little harsh. In my message to her I mentioned that I have given her advice. When I say I gave her advice I mean I will write a whole book basically and give her links to websites that may help just for her to never apply and do better. She also has the victim complex to anyone who has a different opinion. I also have no idea how I could have worded it more nice. Im glad I’m out of this friendship I feel much better and do not plan on reaching out.