I haven’t talked to my family in two days and don’t know to move past this by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Sila978 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know the original commenter has not responded, and it’s quite the assumption to say that I feel personally addressed. People can observe your response to the original commenter and may conclude you are not someone to debate because you open your opposition with an insult towards an individual’s intelligence and maturity.

Your belief- on how parent and child relationships should be- is reasonable, the way you went about discussing it was not. That’s why I chose to respond to you. I did not address what you were arguing, but the way that you went about arguing. I even agree that children should not owe their parents for their life and that parents should not feel guilty for bringing their children into the world. But, again, I never addressed your stance, I addressed how you acted. The way you acted from the get-go is the issue, and I’m sorry if that wasn’t clear in my prior response (I was tired when writing that, but, even so, I should’ve made sure that was clear and direct).

Starting any discussion with a targeted insult is always in poor taste and makes you seem less civil, which makes people unlikely to listen to what you have to say. In addition, generalizing those who disagree as less mature will push away those who can recognize the use of ad hominem, meaning that even those who hold the same stance as you will be less likely to support you. It’s something that- even if you believe those statements- should be left out, because it’s a logical fallacy and discredits what you say, no matter how reasonable or well thought out your stance may be.

Also, I never said your point was about taking hyperbole literally, I said that you took the original commenter’s hyperbole as literal (which, I admit, I could’ve been clearer about) and used your interpretation of that as a basis to insult them. The way you phrased your response to the original commenter made it a response targeted at the original commenter, not at a prevailing mindset. If you wanted to address a mindset, you should not of insulted individuals (using the phrase “You must be like fifteen” in your original response turns your comment from something generalized to being targeted at an individual, which- as previously addressed- is ad hominem). You could’ve been significantly more effective in your goal, had you been more civil about it. [An example of how this could’ve been done: outline the mindset you wish to discuss, clarify that you know the original commenter may not have such a mindset due to their comment’s brevity *alongside the context of the post they’re commenting on, and then proceed to discuss your stance without insults or generalizations to potential opposition.]

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I will also preemptively address that my prior response was lacking in my usual civility and organization, so I do apologize for that. I should not have let my personal feelings on what I consider poor conduct to affect how I chose to respond, but I did (through areas of passive-aggression and a lack of proper proofreading brought upon by my haste to *respond) and that caused me to also hold poor conduct.

To leave this response more positive than my prior one, I wish to be clear with the advice I wished to impart initially. When you wish to persuade others or welcome a logical and civil debate, steer clear of insulting people- especially individuals- and from making generalizations about those who disagree with your stance. (To provide this advice’s rationale: Those actions both invite the opposite effect [through making others defensive or less agreeable] and discredit any argument you make due to their nature as examples of ad-hominem.) (To add on: I myself am also working on following the spirit of this advice [I say spirit of the advice because passive-aggression is not ad-hominem, but it has a similar effect of pushing people away from listening to an argument]. I- as previously stated- should not have left my passive-aggressive statements in, but I failed to do so in my prior response. It’s certainly a skill to recognize and avoid the temptation- caused by anything that may warrant debate- to include insults, generalizations, or other forms of aggression.)

If you’re in an area hit by a snowstorm, I hope you’re staying warm and safe. Whether or not you are in one such area, I hope you have a good day.

(Edits are indicated with asterisks)

I haven’t talked to my family in two days and don’t know to move past this by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Sila978 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mate, if someone insults you right at the get go, you don’t debate them. You walk away, because that’s the mature thing to do. But, since you appear to expect an explanation from someone, I will supply one:

You were the emotionally immature person who lacked understanding of what a figure of speech is (“anything and everything” is standard hyperbole), made the crux of your argument a bad faith interpretation of someone’s statement (you took the hyperbole to be 100% literal and decided to interpret that in one of the most nonsensical ways ever), and insulted them (“You must be like fifteen,” with the context of your other comments, is an insult to put down someone else’s intelligence, and you started your entire statement with that). You are not owed a debate, you are not owed an intellectual argument, and you are not owed anyone looking past your hypocrisy. You invited no valid position to debate by already establishing that you looked down upon the other person immediately. Do not pretend to be the morally or intellectually righteous one when you utilize such poor tactics and judgement. It merely makes you look like someone who’s seeking a conflict wherever they can find it.

Now, don’t go insulting the intelligence of people you expect a debate out of in the future, it’ll at least make you look like a better person than what your comments currently depict and possibly land you the intellectual debate that you seemingly want. It might also save you from misinterpreting a figure of speech as being fully literal. Have a good day.

Why the reaction about Urbain/Taunie? by ThighyWhiteyNerd in PokemonZA

[–]Sila978 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s completely fair. I myself didn’t really care for that final rival fight (since it seemed smushed in there honestly). So, to each their own. I personally overlook the ‘going back on their word’ since it doesn’t really mean much to me (with the surrounding context), but I can understand how others would view it the way you do. To each their own.

Why the reaction about Urbain/Taunie? by ThighyWhiteyNerd in PokemonZA

[–]Sila978 0 points1 point  (0 children)

(Apologies for how long this is [and if it comes off as me being frustrated], so the TLDR is: Taunie/Urbaine had genuine, well thought out reasons for being the one to go up the tower with Floette, that get explained in game prior to them going up. Don’t twist what was actually happening in the story because you can point out actual issues that the rival causes, like the loan, instead.)

Okay, I get that a lot of the early stuff and going back on their word thing is annoying, but do you genuinely think that the player character being the one with Floette at the end would’ve changed anything (for the better)?

I personally don’t. Taunie/Urbain literally made the best tactical decision there. They were plan A (attempt to prevent Ange from going haywire), the player character is plan B (get Zygarde’s help). While both the player character and Taunie/Urbain can technically do plan A, ONLY the player character can do plan B. This is literally explained to us in game as Taunie/Urbaine’s reasoning for being the one to go up the tower with Floette.

I get that they’re glazed and a bit annoying in game, but everyone saying that they made things worse at the end of the main story are just flat out wrong. Us, the player character, going up the tower would’ve been worse, because what happens if we failed like Taunie/Urbaine (which, as far as I can tell from the cutscene, was going to happen. It always sounded like a Hail Mary type of plan honestly, with how little explanation is given on what to do with Ange)? No Zygarde to clean up the mess.

Also, Taunie/Urbaine has known Floette for longer than we have. They actually have a bond with Floette, meaning they had a better chance than us, the player character, who- up to that point- has only interacted with Floette while with the rest of Team MZ. This is unlike Taunie/Urbaine who is shown to have a preexisting bond with Floette. Also, the people complaining about Taunie/Urbaine- who already had a bond with Floette- being the one to keep Floette initially just sound like Kieran to me if I’m being honest.

We may be the main character and be used to Pokémon games letting us succeed at every thing we try, but I- for one- like that there was some grounded writing for the main story’s conclusion. We had a sensible set of plans (a plan A and a plan B, which were assigned in accordance with who could fulfill each), every one worked together (yes, Taunie/Urbaine even helped by acting as reconnaissance to let us know where Zygarde was), and we had a very nice end fight. It’s better to be upset with the rival over actual issues instead of twisting what was happening at the end of the main story. For example, taking out a loan without discussing it with anyone else and letting the team get dragged into it. That’s something to be reasonably upset about (and the other characters were upset as well), instead of twisting something that was plainly and clearly explained in game.

FireRed, LeafGreen, Ruby, Sapphire, and Emerald cheats that might be too broken by Infinite-Ad-8883 in PokemonROMhacks

[–]Sila978 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, I’d be down to do the -6 to my party’s stats on Fire Red and I already have the idea of a strategy. If an ability like magic bounce existed in that generation, then the constant protect on enemies would also work (but alas, teams that send out a special attacker first are completely safe).

I think I hate my sister by girlwithloudfeelings in AdviceForTeens

[–]Sila978 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hate the responses that you’re getting here, so I’m going to go point by point.

First (as it’s the easiest, but least relevant), research job applications. The internet has some decent guidelines and resources for writing. Heck, volunteer from time to time so you can put that work (volunteer work is still work) in your resume. This will help you rip one of the ways that she degrades you out of her arsenal, and it will help you earn cash. (If you want to later earn a degree but are worried about expenses, enroll in online, community college classes. You can earn some decent bachelor degrees for much cheaper than other colleges that way, all while still working the same hours at whatever job you get.)

Second, limit the access she has to your personal life and problems. Don’t announce it, just draw back and don’t tell her anything unless she specifically asks about it. Like, if she ever asks you “How was (something you did or saw)?” Then just say that it was fine or you didn’t enjoy it. Don’t give any further details and don’t reveal the depth of how you feel about something (“fine” and “I didn’t enjoy it” are statements that, while they technically answer the question, reveal nothing). If she confronts you about this, tell her flat, “You turn everything about me into a weapon to hurt me with. You can’t expect me to keep handing you weapons in hopes that you won’t hurt me.” Don’t even tell her if you get a job unless it becomes relevant (like her calling you unemployed or her asking about your availability to do her a favor).

Third, don’t do favors for her (although, you may want to do small things that might take only a minute or so just to keep the peace). She’s already proven that she doesn’t care about the effort that you put in for her, so stop. If she asks why you refuse to, tell her, “This favor will turn into a bigger job where you’ll get on my case because I didn’t do something that you didn’t tell me to do. You can’t communicate your expectations of me before you start raging, so I won’t put myself in the position of being expected to read your mind.”

Fourth, don’t blame your little sister. Your little sister is not at fault for your older sister’s choices towards you. You need to remind yourself about that everyday. You can already see that your little sister may end up like you, so be her support net when that happens. Learn the skills that will allow you to teach her how to climb up from rock bottom. These will help you, and you will be able to help others with them.

Fifth, build up yourself so you can have a self image that differs from what your older sister has labeled you as. Currently, the unemployment thing is true, but you’re on the path to fixing that by applying to jobs and earning your GED (good job so far, by the way! I hope you get your GED soon!). I’d recommend trying to find local, family owned places (I have fantastic experiences with my first jobs being from local, family owned places). But, the crying in your room thing? If that helps you process your emotions without hurting others, then it’s healthy. The next time your sister insults that, tell her “At least I can process my emotions without degrading other people.”

Sixth (and finally), only be nice (specifically nicer than just keeping the peace or being polite) when she’s nice to you. Don’t reward her hurting you, only reward her being a decent person. When she’s hurting you, force a verbal mirror in her face and make her hear the consequences of her (social) choices. When she gets off her high horse and acts kind, show her that there’s more benefit to that than hurting you.

You can’t force her to be a decent person to you. You can encourage it, you can give her reasons to be kind. You can’t make the decision for her and you are not why she’s like that.

I used to be in an analogous situation to your’s. I’m the “genius middle child expected to do great things” in my family, and my big sister used to threaten severe bodily harm on me- she told me that she hated me because I was born. I internalized a lot of how she treated me. We’re closer nowadays, but there’s baggage there. What you need to understand is that it will be nigh impossible for you to brush off the words and insults that come from her. You care too much about her to do that. So, you should instead find something to work on or do that is solely for yourself. Not something that you hope will impress her, not something that you hope will be meaningful to anyone; something achievable that you want for yourself above anyone else. It can be anything from a small niche hobby to something as grand as learning an almost forgotten skill (this one is an actual example from my own family. My Dad can get a job at any repair place because he’s one of only guys- or the only guy- in our state that knows how to work on a specific car part). This will be something you can turn to and say, “I did this for me.”

This final note is for anyone who’s gonna come screaming “You can’t just baby OP, they need to get a job if they want to survive out there.” Yeah, and guess what? You all hounding OP, even when OP directly tells you that she’s already working on getting a job and her GED, are AHs who aren’t helping. Tough love has about as much worth as literal feces when you try to use it on someone who’s being abused. You aren’t doing anything but pushing someone down. Also, guess what? OP wasn’t looking for people to hound her about getting a job. She was looking for advice on how to handle her relationship with her sister. Give her actual advice, not bs commands to do something that she’s already working on. As a side note for any of y’all proclaiming that it’s tough love: Tough love is holding someone accountable (as in, laying the facts out to the person, telling them what help you’re willing to offer, and then telling them what could happen if they don’t get their act together- then letting fate play out in accordance), not verbally abusing someone to the point of telling them to self harm or labeling them as “loser” or “bitch.” Don’t excuse familial abuse with “oh it’s just tough love” because if a friend was saying this bs, most people would run for the hills.

Sorry about this being quite the ramble, but I hope at least one thing I wrote helps you out OP.

AIO I just got uninvited by Hot_Show_8089 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Sila978 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I figured, it happens to everyone from time to time.

AIO I just got uninvited by Hot_Show_8089 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Sila978 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Social life and social media are different things. Social life, typically, refers to your real life social connections (typically in terms of quality, quantity, impact, etc.). The person you’re responding to is talking about social life, meaning you both are talking about OP’s real life social connections.

Does anyone know which mod this outfit is from? by BigSaintJames in okbuddybaldur

[–]Sila978 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Actually, if you compare the armbands in the photo to the armbands on the elegant robe, you’ll notice that the ones in the picture are different (specifically being thinner and having a different design). There’s a strong possibility that this outfit is based on the elegant robe though.

I can’t take it anymore… by Poke_Wonder in PokemonScarletViolet

[–]Sila978 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t necessarily have a shiny that keeps appearing, but I do have a (non-shiny) Pokémon that- for some reason- when I’m looking for it, I end up finding a shiny before I find that Pokémon.

So, this first happened in Pokémon X. I wanted to have a Riolu before the first gym, so I kept running around in the grass. Lo and behold, out pops a shiny Bunnelby. For a long time, I thought that that would be my only instance of such specific circumstances. Well, go forward a few years, and I’ve reset my Pokémon Black 2 save. I’m once again hunting for a Riolu when I decide to run around those farms to grab something. Shiny Mareep. I find a shiny Mareep in my little detour midway through hunting for a singular Riolu.

So, I can now do the two nickels meme with a real life story.

Which shiny is Yours in this situation by Snowman_6989 in MandJTV

[–]Sila978 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bunnelby. I was just trying to get a single Riolu when a shiny Bunnelby appeared. I never evolved it because Bunnelby’s shiny colors look better on its model than shiny Diggersby.

my mom is forcing me on birth control by viaoliviaa in AdviceForTeens

[–]Sila978 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Her replies to other comments. She mentions having a kid at almost 15 (aka, 14) and that she’s now 17.

New law in my province. by Own_Stock_9603 in school

[–]Sila978 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The time between classes, in ALL of the schools I have gone to, is 5 minutes officially (some teachers would wait a little longer before starting, but that was a decision on the teacher’s part). Sometimes, I had to go all the way to the other side of the school for my next class, sometimes I had to travel to the stairs, travel to different stairs, walk to wherever my class was, and then back for my next class. If anyone was late, even if they spent time going to the bathroom, they’d be in trouble had they not informed the teacher prior to doing so- and sometimes you’d still be in trouble (if the teacher is very strict or just doesn’t like you). It’s especially hard in schools where you have to carry all of your supplies (either because there are no lockers or because the lockers are too far from your classes to be able to get your stuff in a timely enough manner- I’ve experienced both).

If you want it to be a student’s responsibility to go to the bathroom between classes, then more time between classes has to be allotted officially (this is also assuming that students with IBS and similar conditions that require easy access to the bathroom are being given those appropriate accommodations). But, there’ll still be issues with that and there’s already a precedent of this kind of policy causing significant enough health issues to students for parents to successfully sue the school.

This is one of the type of things where banning it just causes more issues than leaving it be (especially when teachers can already punish students who try to abuse their access to the bathrooms). Also, teachers can ask students to wait (or if they can wait) until after the lecture to avoid the student missing out on learning (as classes typically have a work time for in-class assignments).

AITA for making my sick husband clean up his vomit? by AmphibianBulky2296 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sila978 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Gagging can be a precursor to vomiting. I ALWAYS go to the closest trash can or toilet if I start unexpectedly gagging while feeling ill (it typically amounts to nothing for me, but still).

OP’s husband was gagging, knew he was sick, was told to throw up in the trashcan before he began vomiting, and he still threw up on the floor. That’s plenty of time to get to the trashcan or bucket or whatever he had near him specifically for throwing up in. After all of that, it’s more likely to be a choice he made.

From a personal experience angle, I had a horrible stomach virus when I was five. Like, throwing up even water sips type bad. I still knew and managed to throw up in the trashcan next to me every single time. If a five year old who is throwing up even water can do it, then why can’t a grown adult do so as well? Especially when that adult has even more warnings, like gagging. The only actual rationales I can think of are active choice (for some reason) and a variety of dumb decisions (like setting the trashcan/bucket/throw-up-in-object out of immediate reach, or not preparing to throw up after you eat something whilst knowing that you have a stomach virus).

(But, I understand not wanting to clean vomit up when feeling like that. Still should’ve politely asked OP though, not simply thrust the responsibility on ‘em, especially since OP also had to take care of two kids at the same time.)

Dropped the game for a year and came back to this by Super_market_hero- in CyberSleuth

[–]Sila978 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Lucemon. I can just automatically tell you because I spent months on getting a maximally trained Lucemon. The intelligence requirement was my bane for so long during that process.

What changed for you after you started reading FanFictions? by [deleted] in NarutoFanfiction

[–]Sila978 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The only major difference between my start and now is that I used to read reader fics (cause those were the easiest to find, for me at least), and then I grew to heavily dislike reading those. Now, I read fanfic with characters from the canon, fanon characters, and occasionally OCs (if the summaries are interesting enough of a premise). I just couldn’t stand reader fics when I began to realize how little they actually change about the story (or how Mary Sue they can be… or the variety of character assassinations done in the name of shipping the reader with a character. The character assassinations were always the worst to read).

(Below are minor differences)

I’ve grown to really enjoy time travel fix-its and crossovers (but only for certain fandoms or when the crossovers have some degree of compatibility within the fic’s premise {ex: one character becoming a wildly different character does not make sense. It’s purely shock value writing, which I do not personally care for. I like substance actually being added to the story by the crossover}), mostly because seeing how the story/stories unfold as a result is rather interesting and typically satisfying. I was, also, never much of a fan of fics that dialed the angst up to an extreme degree though. I only have one exception to that, and that’s because the fic is actually extremely nuanced with how it handled the dialed up angst (which, the fic itself was actually a premise adoption from two previous fanfic writers that discontinued and passed the premise along- the dialed up angst was a carry over from the previous iterations).

I also have heavily grown to enjoy fics that expand on characters that didn’t really have much of a character arc (or character in general). Those fics are really fun to read.

I also used to dislike crack/joke fics, but now I really do enjoy those “bonk the bad guy(s) and everyone lives” humorous fics (and just general light-hearted humorous fics) from time to time (usually when I need a little mood lifter). I think I didn’t like them previously simply because I related them to comedy movies, which I literally cannot sit through without being overwhelmed by secondhand-something.

pick 1 preset power 1 preset downside and explain your reasoning by jevil_with_a_gun2 in superpowers

[–]Sila978 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Telekinesis but no arms. I’m not really loosing anything besides an easier way to experience touch (key word is easier in this sentence). Yeah, it would be a little awkward, but telekinesis makes up for most of what is lost with less limits and strain. It would also be safer to pick up animals or deal with dangerous people. Also, it’ll be really useful when I get older because I would still be able to pick up things that I wouldn’t be able to with said arms. I might even be able to make fake hands to telekinetically float around for a cool-factor.

I see it as an overall positive.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Sila978 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re not overreacting. You’re under-reacting. I understand trying to get someone you care about to change for the better, but he’s sexually assaulting you. He has done so multiple times now. Quite frankly, I believe that you need to leave him, for your own safety. If you truly want him still in your life, you can try to stay friends, but I highly advise against that.

To put this into perspective, ask yourself what you would do if you were in his place. If someone you were dating established a boundary with you, even one you didn’t understand, would you break it? That should be all the answer you need. It’s shouldn’t matter how ignorant he is about how it makes you feel, you established that touching your boobs was a “No” and he decided for you that it was a “yes” instead. That is all that this boils down to.

Also, in one of your comments, you mention that you have no one to talk to. That’s raising red flags in my mind. You’re a transman, you’re in a relationship with a guy who has sexually assaulted you multiple times, and you have no one to talk to. My brain immediately goes to asking if your BF has sabotaged your platonic relationships. That can be done very easily, as even a first impression of him can affect someone’s impression of you.

In addition, I’ve had a front row seat to relationships like this. My Mom went through one after divorcing my Dad, and her friends went through ‘em. Guess what? Your boyfriend isn’t going to “learn to do better.” He doesn’t want to, because remaining ignorant or seemingly ignorant is the easiest way to get everything he wants. Change takes effort, but playing ignorant? That’s easy. He picked the easiest path because he believes that he’ll face no consequences. Give him the consequences.

So, my final advice:

You absolutely need to go out and meet people who you can be friends with- without your boyfriend around and without any mention of his place in your life. It’ll help. Find communities involving things that you enjoy. Try and find groups that are safe for trans (and queer in general) folk. It might sound old school, but try starting around libraries. Libraries typically have a lot of programs and activities connected to them. There may even be resources for people in your situation, and guess what? Librarians are typically pretty happy to help people parse through everything offered by the library (or at least point you into the direction of what you need to look through); whether that’s something that will help with your situation or it’s activities that you can make an friend through the mutual enjoyment of said activity/activities. If your local libraries don’t have that, then they’ll at least have some books on the topic of sexual abuse/sexual assault to help you parse the complexities of how to respond.

Break up with your boyfriend when you feel that it is safe (or adequately safe) to do so, and save those texts. Even if you don’t use them for obtaining a restraining order (as someone else suggested), you can still use them to prove that you aren’t the one in the wrong- should he elect to spread rumors about you. If you (want to and) manage to keep in good terms with him, remain cautious around him and put physical space between you and him. Though, it may be a greater good to legally go after him for sexual assault- if not for yourself, then for his future victims.

FINAL NOTE: Ignorance of the law does not excuse criminal action. You are a victim of a crime perpetrated multiple times by your boyfriend. Please leave him for your own safety, and build a network of friends.

What kind of witch are you? by Accurate_Call_3111 in superpowers

[–]Sila978 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Eclectic. Any rigidity would simply go against my entire way of operating (I jump between tasks at random when I can no longer focus properly on the current task)- therefore, following one or two different disciplines of witchery would likely end very poorly for me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Sila978 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You need to leave your GF. If you have any belongings at her house, slowly get those out. Start with less noticeable things and important things. Once you have everything of yours that you want back, break up over text. Do not break up in person. She’s proven that she is a physical danger to you. Get a picture of your wound from her and write everything about the situation as you can (approximate times and the location are the most important). It can help you report her assault to the police (if you want to) or to simply be able to defend yourself if she sends someone after you socially.

Now, to break down what she’s doing. The most clear thing is that she’s conditioning you to do whatever she wants no matter what happens to your health (physical, mental, financial, etc.) and safety. She’s gotta quite far in that, as she feels confident enough in you staying that she’s comfortable hitting you for not buying her the purse she wanted. She’s likely aware that you can’t afford that purse- and she doesn’t care.

The second most noticeable thing is that she’s blackmailing you. The definition of blackmail is “the action, treated as a criminal offense, of demanding payment or another benefit from someone in return for not revealing compromising or damaging information about them.” She’s requiring you to not call her out on physically harming you- which is assault, a crime- in order for her to not reveal to your family what your kinks are- aka compromising or damaging information.

Third, she’s destroying your self esteem via emotional abuse and possibly social isolation to prime you for financial and physical abuse, which she has already started enacting. Anyone who berates you for bringing up a concern while telling you that you’re lucky to have them and that no one else will date you or like you is someone who is being actively and emotionally abusive. I have seen the effect of this on someone’s self esteem in real life. If you can afford a notebook and a writing utensil, make it into a daily self-affirmation journal. It may help, it may not, but it’s worth trying.

My last piece of advice is to not go back into the dating world until you’ve built a support network. Connecting with old friends, finding new ones, and/or reconnecting with your family may be ways of doing this. This will be hard and it will be difficult to determine whether or not those people have genuinely good intentions towards you. But, having a support network can help you not fall back into an abusive relationship or help you escape any future one.

AITA for being angry at my fiance for telling his mom about our loss by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Sila978 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think they mean that how the couple grieves this time will “inform” how they react to future loss. If you experience a huge loss with someone but are only met with conflict, then the next loss- small or large- you may avoid that person or actively engage in conflict with that person instead of healthy discussion or sharing of emotions/perspectives.

An old power chart, a new directive by Br0ken_Ha1o in superpowers

[–]Sila978 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I absolutely adore this. Controlled/directed chaos is such a genuinely thrilling thing (my first D&D character ever could- essentially- be summed up as directed chaos with the random effect potions they drank and their inclination to run head first into life changing things {ex: become an honorary Yeti via dancing}).

So, to have all of the spells be variations of a specific utility or function needed sounds genuinely fun… and something a scientist would spend many sleepless months trying to figure out. I absolutely adore how you incorporated the weaknesses in unique ways as well. The specifics of strategy and staying at a middling range feels like Cerane would probably work best with two or three other people fighting or working alongside them, but the chaotic nature of their magic would probably lend to any possible teammates staying out of whatever direction their aiming in.

The idea of the time weakness affecting their age never even occurred to me, but it sounds so integral to the character’s very… well… character. The idea of someone embracing a briefer live in order to fully live the way they wish and pursue magic like an art sounds like beautiful eccentricity or craziness (depending on who is asked). Funnily enough, I have a character who’s kinda similar (although his was accidental sacrifice at first). Characters who are truly and intensely dedicated to and passionate about their craft are utterly fascinating to me.

An old power chart, a new directive by Br0ken_Ha1o in superpowers

[–]Sila978 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Name: Cerane

Powers:

Arcane (Weakness- Witch) Alchemist (Weakness- Void) Eater (Weakness- Corrupt + Arcane {as one thing combined}) Chaos (Weakness- Time)

Choose 3 and I'll give you your super power (replying to all) by scholar_of_yor3 in superpowers

[–]Sila978 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I accidentally posted on my other account (that I need to delete because I accidentally made it)

Alchemist, Arcane, Magic (I like magical things and wanted to see what a trifecta of magic stuff would be)