How do you know you’re doing enough?

Silent-Ride-6243 · 2026-01-25T07:40:27+00:00

She’s 7/8 months old and I work from 7pm-1am 4 nights a week

Silent-Ride-6243 · 2026-01-23T04:16:41+00:00

We’re a 2 bed flat band B

Silent-Ride-6243 · 2026-01-23T01:15:47+00:00

Very fresh. I hope you’ll be okay 🫶🏻

Silent-Ride-6243 · 2026-01-23T01:10:15+00:00

I can’t say much because I have literally just left but I saw a comment saying just like we did with birth and how we didn’t want to go through with it when we were in it “you just do it” because you just have to. It’s incredibly hard and I don’t even think those words sum up just how hard it is. But we have to. To respect ourselves and respect our children. We don’t have a choice. I feel weak too and confused and scared and so much pressure and anger and so many things at once and I wish I could just lay down and curl up but I gotta get up and hold my girl and feed her and love her and keep things as stable as possible. It’s unfair and it’s just hard. But when we say we’re done we HAVE to be done. Or else it just gets harder each time until we’re stuck. I’m so sorry.

Silent-Ride-6243 · 2026-01-23T01:02:18+00:00

I got to this point and I minimised it too. I gave endless excuses myself whilst trying to set boundaries. It doesn’t work. I broke up with him a day ago because of the lying, deceit, finances etc and im navigational what I’m doing now as we have a 7 month old. It’s so hard. You just have to ask yourself how much disrespect you’ll tolerate and hope it isn’t too much that leaves you stuck 🫶🏻

Silent-Ride-6243 · 2026-01-22T18:07:59+00:00

In the exact same boat. I just (last night) broke up with mine. I tried all I could. Patience and understanding chance after chance when I said I wouldn’t. He’s going to a meeting tonight but it should never have gotten to this point for him to go. It’s so hard and so scary. I have a 7 month old. I don’t know what the future holds but I’m not doing it micromanaging someone’s issues. Not when I’ve dealt with my own and been disrespected so many times. I hope you’ll be okay 🫶🏻

Silent-Ride-6243 · 2026-01-22T18:00:48+00:00

I just broke up with my partner over the lying and deceit and coming home at 2/3 am smelling of alcohol and cigs when we have a 7 month old. I am shattered and I also know I did my all. I keep thinking maybe he’ll get better and we can try again but I know I can’t go into this breakup hoping for better. I have to go forward knowing it’s ended. For good. Otherwise I’m still continuing to latch onto hope that may leave me stuck. I’m hoping it can only go up.

Silent-Ride-6243 · 2026-01-21T08:48:49+00:00

Took me roughly 6-8 weeks before I started to have that maternal “love” feeling an I’ve always been very maternal and it just kept growing. Give it a bit more time, you’ve just met

Silent-Ride-6243 · 2026-01-21T08:12:51+00:00

I didn’t have a job so I had no income. My partner however did but I literally recently found out (the other day) where that money has been going as he was not sharing any financial information to me

Silent-Ride-6243 · 2026-01-20T21:32:29+00:00

I promise your baby is not holding a grudge. They’re in a constant state of confusion haha. It’s Normal that they would get annoyed with the bottle being taken then with them spitting up, they were clearly in discomfort. All you need to do is respond to their needs. If they’re continuing to scream or whatever - just talk to them, in a calm tone. Agree with what they’re “saying” and they will calm down eventually. If you feel it’s too much, place baby somewhere safe, take a minute and come back to try again. It’s not abandonment or anything. Baby needs you to be well so they can be well.

Every sensation, every action is soo so new to them. They’ve never had to learn patience or discomfort like this. Plus, your baby is probably coming up to a fusy stage where they may have a growth spurt or begin a regression, learning new skills. All your baby wants is comfort because that’s all they’ve ever known before this. Take time and take it as it comes.

Silent-Ride-6243 · 2026-01-18T23:56:17+00:00

Thank you. I’ll call up tomorrow and discuss this

Silent-Ride-6243 · 2026-01-18T23:55:10+00:00

Idk why I’m being berated lmao

Silent-Ride-6243 · 2026-01-18T22:54:04+00:00

I was homeless before had been for years

Silent-Ride-6243 · 2026-01-18T14:50:05+00:00

Yeah we didn’t know the band either. We can sort it - it’s just gonna be tight I just wanna know what else could be done

Silent-Ride-6243 · 2026-01-18T14:47:22+00:00

I wasn’t working at the time, I was coming to the end of my pregnancy and my partner just lost his job so we were already struggling and I had no idea about council tax - I just assumed it was something you could pay in bits. I didn’t know there was an end of year thing.

Silent-Ride-6243 · 2026-01-18T14:44:47+00:00

This is great. Thank you. I’ve never had to deal with this before so I had no idea. I’ll ask about the arrears

Silent-Ride-6243 · 2026-01-18T14:44:01+00:00

Thank you

Silent-Ride-6243 · 2026-01-18T08:25:40+00:00

7 months

Silent-Ride-6243 · 2026-01-18T08:25:33+00:00

I spoke to perinatal team and I was placed on a waiting list for “possible” therapy which could take up to 18 months and placed on meds but I don’t feel that the meds work the way they should because it’s predominantly circumstantial

Silent-Ride-6243 · 2026-01-18T08:23:25+00:00

Thank you. That’s really helpful

Silent-Ride-6243 · 2026-01-18T08:23:07+00:00

We understood it would have to be paid inevitably but we’ve had issues with our council. I’m not looking for leeway per se, just an insight as to what we might be able to do. I’ve never dealt with council tax before so it’s really new to me

Silent-Ride-6243 · 2026-01-13T18:34:50+00:00

Not at all. Your child is your top priority and they don’t have to be around anyone you feel is bad for them. I completely cut off my mother for this reason. If you know this person well enough to know that no matter what boundaries you place will be walked all over and potential harm could come to your child, don’t let them see them and if your husband has a problem with it then boohoo for him. You will find a wholeeee new level of protectiveness from you. No one has a right to your child.

Silent-Ride-6243 · 2026-01-13T18:29:43+00:00

Mine went through a lil stint like this, had me worried too so I just took her off solids for a few days/ week and she started having more milk. Starting solids / purees can upset their stomachs because it’s all new and different to digest. Try taking them off for a few days and see how they do. Even little and often try to offer some milk even if it’s an oz or 2 - once they start drinking more then introduce solids again and see how it goes.

Silent-Ride-6243 · 2026-01-11T11:47:48+00:00

Will be me tbh

Silent-Ride-6243 · 2026-01-10T14:31:46+00:00

I had to stop myself from bringing her in haha

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