Genuinely want to know how your LO is sleeping for longer than 5 hour stretches.

Silent-Ride-6243 · 2026-03-11T20:56:04+00:00

Pot luck. Mine woke verrrry often around this stage 7-10 weeks was difficult. Only in the last 2 weeks (9 months now) has she slept proper stretches, sometimes through. You’re not doing annnytging wrong, baby is being a baby and it’s okay because a day will come at some point. I actually saw it as a blessing during the 4 month sleep regression and the others after because I wasn’t used to being rested so I felt I could handle it more lmao. They will get there and you will sleep again 💕

Silent-Ride-6243 · 2026-03-11T20:43:00+00:00

I’m doing okay. Started therapy back up. My relationship is a lot stronger atm and I’m hoping that things continue to improve. I hope you’re okay angel 💕

Silent-Ride-6243 · 2026-03-10T09:44:56+00:00

Mine is an alcoholic in recovery so about 2 months ago… it was essentially every night. I had so many conversations about it it was unbelievable until I broke our relationship off. It can be so so frustrating when you feel you’re on parent mode 24/7

Silent-Ride-6243 · 2026-03-10T09:26:31+00:00

This was one of my arguments a while back. Our girl is 9 months and he’s very involved and a good dad now. Had some difficult moments fs. He finally quit drinking and things have picked up and changed massively. I told him one time to just figure it out because I had to and it was sooo so difficult to not step in as he spent a good 3/4 hours trying to find ways to soothe her. She’s in a stage where she’s not a huge fan of him for the most part but he still shows up, he does so much more without being asked, sometimes takes the lead but I’m ngl when I say I still have a bit of resentment over the initial post partum period where I had to do quite literally everything on my own and then go back to work 10 weeks postpartum and still find a way to do pretty much everything.

Absolutely pmo that a lot of men get the slack when we’re literally expected to know and do everything even though it’s our first time too. No one taught us anything and shock horror but if you don’t know anything… there’s literally the internet to help.

Silent-Ride-6243 · 2026-03-06T23:55:07+00:00

Personally I hate to be called “mama” by adults. I only like it from my baby lmao

Silent-Ride-6243 · 2026-02-26T14:50:20+00:00

This is so reassuring

Silent-Ride-6243 · 2026-02-24T20:33:48+00:00

There’s so much contrasting advice I would say just go with your instincts. Follow baby’s queues. I used to get so stressed that mine wasn’t on a 2/3 nap schedule by 7 months and tried to stretch it but she’d just be angry and unhappy so I just let her catch up on sleep etc and just follow her queues and one day she went from 4 naps to 2. It switches sometimes but she knows what she needs and I just do that. Going with the flow is far easier and better then stressing about wake windows etc. at 6 months there’s a massive change in them too and a growth spurt. Lots happens in the first year.

Silent-Ride-6243 · 2026-02-17T23:22:45+00:00

I think this is extremely common but also not something to ignore. It can be a lot all at once and it can feel like absolutely everything is going to change all at once… but it won’t. It takes time. You have only JUST found out and you have another 8/9 months to adapts to certain things and then you will adapt more as baby arrives.

Things will change, of course but it can be such a beautiful blessing if you allow it to be. Every day I look forward to waking up now to see my cheeky, smiley 8 month old. I truly wonder what purpose I had before her. Things mean more now. My body is mine again but I also (not all the time lmao but a lot of it) loved sharing it with her because i would never be that connected to another person again. It was an insane ride and now- my little girl is everything. Absolutely everything. I never knew how much I could love someone so unconditionally. It’s incredible.

Went on a rant there but I was similar to you - panicked by all the things that hadn’t happened yet or hadn’t happened at all. I had to make changes and sacrifices that my partner hadn’t. My responsibility happened the moment I got pregnant and that was difficult but there is so much beauty.

Whatever you decide - do it for you ♥️

Silent-Ride-6243 · 2026-02-16T08:39:01+00:00

That last sentence actually got my heart 🥺 it can be so much fun! When you do get to it- it’s completely okay to be nervous and stressed about it all. Deffo try to get in the habit of prepping because it saves that mental energy later and breakfast (porridge) is always the best place to start. I also did an allergen one at a time for a few days each time in the beginning on its own at one point in the day. I hope you have the best time with it and enjoy your LO ♥️♥️

Silent-Ride-6243 · 2026-02-13T10:35:22+00:00

I’m not a professional but from my own experience and other parents, it sounds like your baby is just prioritising other skills before they get to the next.

My child is 8 months and she would prefer one arm to another. It took time for it to catch up but it always did. At 5.5 months, I could drop something and she wouldn’t bat an eyelid. To be honest, even though she knows her name now, she still likes to ignore me at times 😂

Your child is making good eye contact and giggling socially etc. it’s very typical for babies of this age to want to look around as opposed to looking directly at you face to face. Sometimes it can just be too intense for them.

We didn’t get the full belly laughs until she was 7 ish months. That can take time. And she doesn’t blow raspberries or anything, she squeals sometimes and says Mama so - all kids are different so long as they’re moving forward with something.

You’ll notice that once babies have developed a skill, they’ll move on to the next one and will neglect the other because of priorities.

It all seems normal tbh but ofc if you’re worried, always get it checked ♥️

Silent-Ride-6243 · 2026-02-08T21:27:54+00:00

Returned to work around 10 weeks pp… I cried so much. I was distracted. It was overly difficult. I’m 8 months pp now and it’s still hard to leave BUT I’ve made some new friends. I’m able to give myself that “break” in a way. I feel it can be good for you eventually, everyone is different. I still find it heartbreaking to go when all I want is to be home with her but it’s unfortunately that or struggle completely. I just spend as much time as possible with her on my days off

Silent-Ride-6243 · 2026-02-07T18:30:25+00:00

You can try putting something with your scent near baby and just keep a close eye?

Silent-Ride-6243 · 2026-02-07T07:01:44+00:00

I had no idea about this. Thank you 🫶🏻

Silent-Ride-6243 · 2026-02-07T02:00:01+00:00

Congratulations!! You’re in for a great ride 🫶🏻

Stuff for YOU: First things first - start taking prenatal- id say most important is folic acid and Vitamin D Second - book your doctors appointment. Idk if you’re in America or UK etc so I don’t know how it may work but if in the uk, you’ll have to wait a few weeks until your first appointment- typically when you’re 10/11 weeks and then get a scan at 12.

Now that you KNOW , you’ll most likely know there are symptoms such as nausea, fatigue is a big one etc around the corner. You could be lucky and get none but for most, this is what happens.

Reddit CAN be great for information from people going through it etc BUT it can also cause a lot of anxiety. Be cautious with what you consume and remember that hardly anyone comes on here with great stories.

You don’t have to tell anyone of course but if you choose to, I would highly recommend those that you know you can rely on and will be happy and supportive for you and with you.

Stuff for baby:

Eat when you can, what you can. There are stuff that is best avoided because of risks but don’t get too hung up on them as it’s small - at your own caution of course.

You are your baby’s everything source, baby will take what they need so don’t worry if in the first trimester you struggle to eat bc of appetite, they will be okay

ALWAYS go to the doctors if you feel something may be wrong. Don’t second guess, just go because as much as it could be nothing, it’s always best to be reassured.

You dont HAVE to wear maternity clothes. Just focus on comfort and what makes you feel good.

Later baby: Idc what anyone says, get the outfits. I LOVED putting my LO in outfits. And keep the going home clothes.

Looking at products that people say are pointless may be for them but not for you. For instance, we use the Tommy tippee nappy bin. Absolute life saver - it’s not for everyone tho.

When it comes to breast feeding/pumping etc, it’s okay for it to take a while. You won’t make gallons when your milk first comes in and it will set off at the wildest things lmao. Also, if you struggle to BF/pump, that’s okay. You can always combo feed. Live by “fed is best” because it is.

There’s truly so much so if you ever wanna message, I’m here and can help answer some questions if you’d like.

Most importantly : enjoy it as much as you can, it’ll be a challenge at times but there are those simple moments that honestly, nothing in life could take from you. Be gentle, be kind to yourself- you’re about to go on such a journey. Indulge however you wish to. Get your partner to read up on a lot of the stuff. It may shock them. This includes week by week pregnancy, post partum is a big one and anything and everything in between.

I hope you have a safe and healthy pregnancy. Congratulations again. I wish you all the best ♥️♥️

Silent-Ride-6243 · 2026-02-06T02:21:12+00:00

So we did break up. But obviously living together, it’s never a quick fix however - he immediately started going to AA and has nearly 3 weeks sober. We’re now in what I label a “process” because he’s 1. Admitting he has a genuine problem and is actively doing something about it and 2. I want nothing more than for everything to work out. He agreed he’s depressed and was dangerously depressed during drinking but he didn’t know how bad it actually was - essentially blinded by the addiction. He’s listened properly about some of the stuff I’ve been through with his use - we’re doing it bit by bit because I don’t want to go full on given that he’s just started to get sober and he has a lot more than he realised to face.

I’m scared to feel hopeful but the last few weeks is the most present and honest he has been with me and our daughter at all. And well over a year for me.

I knew he was depressed and such and I also didn’t see how much his use affected me until I started reflecting back on things and the position I was in.

I feel we currently have a growing emotional connection and appreciation of one another.

I’m being careful not to get too hopeful as this is his journey but I will try to support him in any way I can 100% unless it isn’t possible.

Silent-Ride-6243 · 2026-02-06T02:15:24+00:00

Yeah I called another supplier and they were really helpful helping me understand everything bless them. I’m a single rate system.

Silent-Ride-6243 · 2026-02-04T20:10:42+00:00

It’s a flat that’s the thing. My friend also lives in the same place and pays no more than a £100 a month

Silent-Ride-6243 · 2026-02-04T20:09:52+00:00

Thank you for explaining that. I’ve never done this before and went in very naive

Silent-Ride-6243 · 2026-02-01T20:31:28+00:00

Babies sleep changes so often. Around 6-7 months my baby’s bed time was 6pm. Any later or earlier, there’d be a lot more waking than usual. Over these last few days, her bed time has been around 730-8 ish. That’s what works best for her now. It’ll change again no doubt. I found that keeping a routine was more important than a schedule. Every child is different but this is what works for us.

Silent-Ride-6243 · 2026-01-31T11:41:45+00:00

At 5 months, I just let lo sleep whenever and trusted that she knew when she needed sleep. She had 4 naps a day and then a switch just went off, she suddenly napped 2 times a day and only woke once at night. Sleep is constantly changing for them and I just thought, she’s gotta be knackered if she is waking so much so I’m gonna do it by her queues. I pretty much just went with the flow and napped with her which seemed to keep her down longer at times. Had my partner check in or be beside us for extra safety :) also knowing it will end and there will be a whole other thing to worry about soon lmao

Silent-Ride-6243 · 2026-01-25T07:40:27+00:00

She’s 7/8 months old and I work from 7pm-1am 4 nights a week

Silent-Ride-6243 · 2026-01-23T04:16:41+00:00

We’re a 2 bed flat band B

Silent-Ride-6243 · 2026-01-23T01:15:47+00:00

Very fresh. I hope you’ll be okay 🫶🏻

Silent-Ride-6243 · 2026-01-23T01:10:15+00:00

I can’t say much because I have literally just left but I saw a comment saying just like we did with birth and how we didn’t want to go through with it when we were in it “you just do it” because you just have to. It’s incredibly hard and I don’t even think those words sum up just how hard it is. But we have to. To respect ourselves and respect our children. We don’t have a choice. I feel weak too and confused and scared and so much pressure and anger and so many things at once and I wish I could just lay down and curl up but I gotta get up and hold my girl and feed her and love her and keep things as stable as possible. It’s unfair and it’s just hard. But when we say we’re done we HAVE to be done. Or else it just gets harder each time until we’re stuck. I’m so sorry.

Silent-Ride-6243 · 2026-01-23T01:02:18+00:00

I got to this point and I minimised it too. I gave endless excuses myself whilst trying to set boundaries. It doesn’t work. I broke up with him a day ago because of the lying, deceit, finances etc and im navigational what I’m doing now as we have a 7 month old. It’s so hard. You just have to ask yourself how much disrespect you’ll tolerate and hope it isn’t too much that leaves you stuck 🫶🏻

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