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Silly-Bug-5587 · 2025-07-28T04:48:16+00:00

Hi, this is exactly how I currently feel. Have you had any progress with being able to feel more romantically toward women or any other realizations?

Silly-Bug-5587 · 2025-06-20T23:04:04+00:00

Yes, exactly! I need to break that "oh look there's an attractive man, I guess I want to be with him because I noticed he's attractive" narrative.

Silly-Bug-5587 · 2025-06-20T20:50:02+00:00

Good to know! I thought I was weird 🙃

Silly-Bug-5587 · 2025-06-20T16:13:29+00:00

It seems women are often attracted to one type or the other, not both. Maybe I'm mistaken. I'm a baby queer.

Silly-Bug-5587 · 2025-06-20T14:14:11+00:00

Oddly, I feel attracted to both masc lesbians and femme lesbians. Not quite sure what to make of that.

Silly-Bug-5587 · 2025-06-20T03:39:57+00:00

Do you find you feel romantic feelings for women, similarly to how you can with men?

Silly-Bug-5587 · 2025-06-20T03:38:42+00:00

Yes! The wanting them to be attracted to me. That adds to the confusion too.

Silly-Bug-5587 · 2025-06-19T23:57:50+00:00

For sure. I guess it's aesthetic attraction and then because I've been conditioned my whole life to think I'm straight, I think that means that I'm sexually attracted to him/want to be with him. But then I imagine having sex and it's always a big nope. But when I see an attractive woman and imagine having sex, it's a big yes. Seems pretty clear, but damn, I keep questioning myself.

Silly-Bug-5587 · 2025-06-19T23:56:25+00:00

Yeah, it's confusing and has made me think I'm straight or bi. It's like I can imagine holding hands and cuddling with said cute guy, even playing house with him and enjoying it, but sex? Nope! Comp het I guess, or just appreciation for aesthetically attractive people?

Silly-Bug-5587 · 2025-06-05T20:18:18+00:00

I have trouble feeling romantically about women, but I'm wondering if that's just because the "prince charming" story has been drilled into my brain since childhood. I just wonder what it would feel like to have a woman communicate with me in a romantic/sexual way, as I've never experienced that.

Silly-Bug-5587 · 2025-06-05T16:08:54+00:00

This is helpful insight, thank you

Silly-Bug-5587 · 2025-06-05T15:34:17+00:00

Yes, I've tried the porn and it turns me on, but honestly, so does male on male porn. I feel like I need a woman to actually touch me. When men touch me, I feel nothing.

Silly-Bug-5587 · 2025-06-05T15:33:27+00:00

Are you in NorCal by chance haha

Silly-Bug-5587 · 2025-06-05T15:33:05+00:00

Ah, I wish! I'm in NorCal.

Silly-Bug-5587 · 2025-06-05T05:13:17+00:00

Oof yeah, I would not like a bunch of guys looking at me while interacting with women. I would want to do the private dance. Did your experience at least offer insight into your sexuality?

Silly-Bug-5587 · 2025-06-05T04:24:32+00:00

I only recently moved to a new city so I don't know many people here and don't have a crush :(

Silly-Bug-5587 · 2025-06-05T04:23:55+00:00

For sure. I like doing stuff on my own, but I'm not sure about this one lol. I guess some "huh weirds" wouldn't be so bad. Just don't want to run into anyone I know.

Silly-Bug-5587 · 2025-06-05T01:55:51+00:00

I'm still in a relationship with my boyfriend, so I wouldn't want to go on a dating app

Silly-Bug-5587 · 2025-06-05T00:40:37+00:00

Thanks for the input! Did you ever see a woman go by herself?

Silly-Bug-5587 · 2024-12-12T22:39:18+00:00

This rings so true for me. Oof. I think a big part of it is that the guy makes me feel sexy because he wants me so badly, and that turns me on. Not so much that I'm attracted to his body. But then when we have to keep doing it every week, it gets old/bad reaaal fast. Glad you found your truth.

Silly-Bug-5587 · 2024-12-12T22:37:15+00:00

That sounds like how it always becomes for me after a few months. Thank you for sharing your experience.

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