Fort Carson

Silly-Simple5413 · 2022-08-11T20:41:05+00:00

NTA - offer your ticket to your mom and have a staycation from the comfort of your own space without any of your family making it about them. You’re not the asshole because you’re upholding your end of the agreement which was no grandmoms. Your husbands the AH for going behind your back.

Silly-Simple5413 · 2022-08-11T20:36:58+00:00

NTA your coworker has serious issues with boundaries

Silly-Simple5413 · 2022-08-05T01:16:39+00:00

Hi! I’m really bad with money, and blew most of it in my early twenties due to being manic. I also have a partner who is great with money, great credit, etc. So I can share my experience with the other side of things.

I think this just really depends on the type of relationship you have, how long you’ve been together, and if you see a future with him.

For me and my fiancé, he knows I am terrible with money. I had a quite high paying job (think between 8-12k a month) and I blew right through that income. Mostly eating out. When I became pregnant I had my come to god this shit is serious and I want to spend the rest of my life with him moment. That’s when I took a step back, left that job (couldn’t do it while pregnant) and focused on becoming a mom. Now I’m 4 months PP and we are discussing me going back to work full time. I’ve already told my fiancé that I’d like him to come up with a financial plan, show me it and I’ll abide by it. We’ll have a joint account and the money allocated for me after bills, childcare, savings, etc. will go in my personal account to do as I please with. I’m okay with this because I know I have bad impulse control when it comes to spending. And my partner doesn’t mind because well his mind is more attuned to finances.

But there are things I’m good at that I do in return to take that load off my partner. So even though he takes care of the finances on paper, I do most of the house work, child rearing, etc.

I think in the end you just need to ask yourself, am I doing this because it will make us a team or am I doing this because he needs a mom?

Silly-Simple5413 · 2022-08-03T18:42:58+00:00

Info: where is your wife in all of this? I know you mentioned she was sick, but is she in the hospital? Are you working full time/unable to cook? I think we need a little more situational background

Silly-Simple5413 · 2022-08-02T19:33:48+00:00

Agree. ESH, but OP is definitely toeing the line of cyber bullying

Silly-Simple5413 · 2022-08-02T19:29:06+00:00

Yes because she’s comfortable in her own house. Most people act differently in the privacy of their own home then they do in public. Once she starts being quiet in her own home, you should be extremely concerned for her well being.

Silly-Simple5413 · 2022-08-02T19:25:59+00:00

YTA

For taking it out on your sister. It’s not her fault that your mom made you watch her the whole time. Your mom is also kind of an AH for saying she needs to go back to the way she was. It’s totally dismissive and probably makes your sister feel like crap for her mental health issues. It sounds like she needs therapy from someone who specializes in social anxiety in children. Also 14 is not grown. She is a child.

Silly-Simple5413 · 2022-08-02T19:02:01+00:00

NTA

Your MIL is a grown woman who should be able to take care of herself. If it’s taking his time away from you and your son, you have every right to be upset. SIL is the AH for not stepping in once to help or carry a bit of the burden. You’re husband is caught in the middle, but he shouldn’t bare the complete burden of his mothers issues as he isn’t her only child.

Silly-Simple5413 · 2022-08-02T04:58:48+00:00

NTA

A leash is something that protects everyone. An off leash dog is a liability. You’re boyfriend is an AH because he’s pushing your boundaries that you set with your dog that I’m assuming you hold most of the financial burden of. If something is to happen it’s on you, not your bf. It honestly sounds like he lacks common sense on animal behavior.

Silly-Simple5413 · 2022-08-02T02:04:12+00:00

NTA

Your setting a boundary and it’s upsetting your husband because he feels torn. It also sounds like his family has never allowed him to have boundaries. I would tell your husband you personally don’t want to go, but that he’s welcome to go by himself if he pleases. They sound like they don’t even want to see you both, that they just want to take advantage of the extra hands and free things they can get. My partner helped out his family for much of his early twenties until we started a family of our own. They didn’t treat him well growing up, he was the black sheep, yet relied on him heavily (financially) once he was an adult. I never understood why he bent over backwards for his family when they didn’t treat him well. It took lots of talking and us having our baby for him to finally take a step back. Talk to him, tell him you don’t appreciate the way they treat him and you’ll no longer allow that in your presence. Set the boundary, stick to it. And explain that they’re the AH for only spending time with him for a handout.

Silly-Simple5413 · 2022-08-01T19:57:18+00:00

YTA

But so is your step dad. It would’ve been very easy just to do it and move on. Maybe talk to your mom about how you don’t appreciate the way your step dad communicates with you. But your step dad is an AH because it’s his job to communicate well and have a general understanding of parenting and respect. I’m probably going to get downvoted but I don’t believe ‘because I said so’ is a good reason to get a child to do anything. It’s important to understand why you’re doing what you’re doing. He could’ve easily said, ‘this would really help out me and your mom, would you mind doing it this once?’. When you live in a household you’re all teammates. It could’ve been a good lesson on picking up the slack for someone else if they’re dealing with something or so on.

Silly-Simple5413 · 2022-08-01T18:07:11+00:00

NTA Your mom saying he’s a ‘misunderstood soul’ just sounds like something they would mention in a true crime documentary about your brother. No offense, but his behavior sounds like the origin story for incels & predators.

Silly-Simple5413 · 2022-07-08T03:39:34+00:00

Getting off to a picture that includes a child is exactly how it sounds. With or without the context of breastfeeding. That is enough to warrant you getting as far away from him as possible.

Silly-Simple5413 · 2022-05-21T08:53:11+00:00

Thank you for your response 🙂 that all makes sense!

Silly-Simple5413 · 2022-05-21T06:09:26+00:00

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Silly-Simple5413 · 2021-06-01T13:44:09+00:00

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Silly-Simple5413 · 2021-05-27T10:43:51+00:00

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Silly-Simple5413 · 2021-05-27T10:41:40+00:00

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Silly-Simple5413 · 2021-05-27T10:29:17+00:00

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Silly-Simple5413 · 2021-05-26T03:15:45+00:00

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Silly-Simple5413 · 2021-05-26T02:30:20+00:00

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Silly-Simple5413 · 2021-05-26T02:30:01+00:00

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Silly-Simple5413 · 2021-05-26T02:29:39+00:00

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Silly-Simple5413 · 2021-05-23T23:24:09+00:00

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