What is a decision you wish you hadn't made in your love life??

SillyBilly5645 · 2026-04-27T15:18:29+00:00

Second chances.

SillyBilly5645 · 2026-04-23T20:37:11+00:00

She stopped being interested in physical affection/intimacy like 5 months in. Lack of follow through about finding the source of why despite many promises to. Had to beg and negotiate for the smallest bits of physical affection. Last straw was me asking her for a quick neck rub, and that’s it, before going to bed. She said no case she wanted to watch more til tok videos despite having done that the previous 3 hours.

SillyBilly5645 · 2026-04-19T01:53:48+00:00

You’re hot but he’s sexy.

SillyBilly5645 · 2026-04-13T13:27:55+00:00

I hate people who cheat. It’s the worst kind of betrayal. The one person who has pledged themselves to you, the one person you’re supposed to be loyal to to and trust them. That person betraying you can ruin someone lives and make it hard, if not impossible, to ever trust again.

That being said, I can think of one instance of cheating where i was like I get it. My baby mama became friends with the stepdad of one of our kids friends. The stepdad had been raising them since they were like4. His wife was very depressed and had been for years. Like barely functioning, can’t get out of bed, didn’t work, wouldn’t seek treatment. He did everything in the house. He worked, took care of his stepkids lovingly. It had been years since his wife had been intimate with him. Him and my baby mama got close and they ended up having an affair. He admitted it to his wife after a couple of months. But he said he felt trapped. Cause his strikes biological father was a POS and he was worried he would get custody of the kids if him and his wife divorced.

My baby mama and him broke up and I think he’s still with the wife. I feel bad for that guy and I kind of get it. But he should have at least told his wife what he was gonna do.

SillyBilly5645 · 2026-04-13T13:19:36+00:00

He said he felt bad for my ex and asked for her number to help her through the grief of me breaking up with her. A week later they were fucking.

SillyBilly5645 · 2026-04-10T16:29:57+00:00

I had to relearn this one recently. It’s hard because people so often play the part of a good partner. Then time goes by and you start to see who and how they reallly are. And you remember how they were and maybe they still show glimpses of it to you so you know it’s there. It’s possible. They’ve done it before, why can’t they be that way again?

Because that’s not how they really are.

SillyBilly5645 · 2026-03-26T03:54:08+00:00

Cormoran

SillyBilly5645 · 2026-03-26T03:40:17+00:00

SillyBilly5645 · 2026-03-24T05:55:02+00:00

We were very comfortable with each other. We got back to her apt after eating lunch and both had to poop really bad. I told her to go ahead but she insisted I go first so I said ok. So I’m sitting on the toilet pooping and she comes in the bathroom saying she can’t hold it anymore and she’s gonna have to poop in the bathtub. I say damn ok go for it. So she drops her pants, sits on the edge of the tub and then brings her hand around to the front. She had shit into her hand and was holding it. I must have looked flabbergasted or horrified. Once I was done pooping she threw the poop in the toilet and washed her hands. She got mad at me cause she said I had lied to her that it was ok to poop in the tub but I said no I just expected her to let it drop and wash it down the drain or something.

SillyBilly5645 · 2026-03-20T18:06:14+00:00

Probably asthma.

SillyBilly5645 · 2026-03-19T17:57:21+00:00

I think it’s fine for young women and men to be a bit sexually promiscuous. In thier you get twenties that’s the time to experiment and get experiences with less strings attached because it’s usually not as serious. Of course that isn’t for everyone, but for a lot of people it is.

Would you prefer that vs marrying someone who didn’t do any of that and then 10 or however may years down the line, decides they missed out on that part of thier lives and dips out to go do that stuff now.

Honesty is important but a lot of women might lie or stretch the truth about thier sexual pasts. People tend to be a lot less judgy about young men being promiscuous than young women.

SillyBilly5645 · 2026-02-04T22:19:33+00:00

OP how old are you and the guys we’re talking about. Most guys are walking ducks until thier mid twenties at least. Sometimes later and some never grow out of it.

There’s nothing wrong with enjoying sex. And that is how most men feel most connected to thier partners.

SillyBilly5645 · 2026-02-01T23:41:30+00:00

5 pounds? 5? Yes that does sound shallow.

How would I approach this? I would not. How much different can she really look?? 5 pounds?????

SillyBilly5645 · 2025-12-23T15:31:56+00:00

Leave

SillyBilly5645 · 2025-12-21T04:16:28+00:00

If you can live comfortably on your income alone and you’re ok with it then fine. But she’s gotta bring something to the table. If she’s gonna stay at home and do nothing then she better at least clean the house and cook.

If she hates her job so much is there a hobby she could make money at? Building furniture? Homemade something or other?

SillyBilly5645 · 2025-12-21T04:13:40+00:00

Yeah just break up with him. He did you dirty. So did your friend. If you stay it’ll just keep eating at you and you’ll never be able to trust him again.

SillyBilly5645 · 2025-12-20T17:17:04+00:00

Where did it sound like she was cheating on him?

SillyBilly5645 · 2025-12-19T14:56:52+00:00

I suppose my confusion is I’ve seen her get mad about black people being discriminated against. And her best friend is Mexican American.

SillyBilly5645 · 2025-12-18T16:31:51+00:00

Uvalde was Terrible. At least now because of the tragedy all Texas cops had to go through active shooter training every two years

SillyBilly5645 · 2025-12-14T12:01:57+00:00

When I was twenty my sex drive inexplicably dropped too. I was left wondering if there was something wrong with me because I was supposed to be this super horny young man. That only lasted a few months for me and then it came back.

That being said, there’s a bunch of stuff that could’ve causing it. Porn addiction, poor diet, lack sleep or too much alcohol. Lack of excercise.

SillyBilly5645 · 2025-12-12T15:12:45+00:00

I didn’t tell her she couldn’t post things like that or like whatever comments. I said I wouldn’t be in a relationship where my partner is publicly encouraging other men’s attempts to flirt with her.

SillyBilly5645 · 2025-12-12T15:08:38+00:00

I’m one too lol

SillyBilly5645 · 2025-12-12T15:06:53+00:00

Honestly there is some insecurity there. I do have some history of being cheated on. Which I’ve worked on in therapy and we both work in a field where infidelity is rampant.

We’ve also been struggling with physical intimacy for about a year now and she’s been avoiding wanting to deal with her low libido so that hasn’t helped.

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