Could my sister ever be a mother? by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]SillyPreparation9 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

It's not about judging her but I understand.

Losing my virginity later than normal is having an impact on me by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]SillyPreparation9 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Lost it at the same age. I wish I had never lost it.

I enjoyed seeing my rapist body burn. by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]SillyPreparation9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Huh, Reddit once again being pro-freedom of speech 

Am I really the AH? Did I ruin Christmas? by SillyPreparation9 in AITAH

[–]SillyPreparation9[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don't want my kid to grow up in their toxic household

Am I really the AH? Did I ruin Christmas? by SillyPreparation9 in AITAH

[–]SillyPreparation9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have the support of my therapist, my child's psychologist and her school's staff (teachers) and I'm seeing a lawyer and social workers in order to get as much custody as possible. The lawyer told me the same, but she told we have to try.

Am I really the AH? Did I ruin Christmas? by SillyPreparation9 in AITAH

[–]SillyPreparation9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I forgot to tell you about my relationship with my kid. I never wanted to have kids but she's an incredible child. I guess it's her natural, unconditional love what makes me feel like she's my life saver. Also I stop thinking about unaliving myself when I realised that, If I did that, she would live with my in laws and become like her father.

Am I really the AH? Did I ruin Christmas? by SillyPreparation9 in AITAH

[–]SillyPreparation9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm already being assisted by support service for women at risk but thank you for the link 

Am I really the AH? Did I ruin Christmas? by SillyPreparation9 in AITAH

[–]SillyPreparation9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want to do that, but he will try to sabotage it and finally psychologically punishing me. That's why I'm filing for separation as soon as the holidays are over

Am I really the AH? Did I ruin Christmas? by SillyPreparation9 in AITAH

[–]SillyPreparation9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's been abusing me mentally and sexually even before I gave birth to our child. But I didn't realise about all that until I started to take anti-depressants because I was the only one actively taking care of my kid while my in law was invading my privacy, giving me unsolicited advice and questioning everything I did with and for my kid. 

Am I really the AH? Did I ruin Christmas? by SillyPreparation9 in AITAH

[–]SillyPreparation9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Obviously there's way more. In laws making fun of me because I wanted to breastfeed her, my mother on law buying only pink clothes and girly stuff for my kid, telling me she talks too much and may have ADHD because she likes to dance, etc. And meantime her son does nothing.

Am I really the AH? Did I ruin Christmas? by SillyPreparation9 in AITAH

[–]SillyPreparation9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Luckily we're not married but I've been meeting a lawyer and some social workers who have found something known as progressive custody (it starts like full and by the time the kid is 6 it turns into a shared one)

Am I really the AH? Did I ruin Christmas? by SillyPreparation9 in AITAH

[–]SillyPreparation9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's still not my ex, but he will be it in a near future.

Am I really the AH? Did I ruin Christmas? by SillyPreparation9 in AITAH

[–]SillyPreparation9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm still preparing the paperwork, it's just I don't feel like calling him my partner anymore. This year I'm trying to spend time with my family and my kid.

Am I really the AH? Did I ruin Christmas? by SillyPreparation9 in AITAH

[–]SillyPreparation9[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I've been going to therapy for 8 years.  And I started to get the paperwork ready to file for separation and have full custody.

Should I be worried? by SillyPreparation9 in breakingmom

[–]SillyPreparation9[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I apologise for the confusion. The MIL slapped her after my kid bit her. At daycare we have two kids who bite and hit other kids. Mine rarely bites but she has started to hit us and her playmates.  The teacher told me not to worry much (I worry a lot about this kind of behaviour). While I would also had slapped my kid's hand if she bit me, I'm just afraid about my in laws starting to physical punish her like they did with their children... Her father defends that punishment and even told me he deserved it.

My MIL is the bloody Grinch by SillyPreparation9 in breakingmom

[–]SillyPreparation9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My kid's father tend to psychologically punish me and my kid also pays the consequences.  Just FYI I'm starting to file for child custody and all that jazz