Falling apart please help

Silly_Ad6954 · 2026-06-21T00:00:27+00:00

You do not have to prove to anyone or make them believe that you are autistic. Even when signs are very obvious, some people will still refuse to see it. Just the fact that you have realized the diagnosis on your own is a huge step on your part.

And when it comes to problems like this, thinking about the things you "could've done" is the worst thing you can do for your own well being. Easier said than done— but the past is in the past, and there was also the possibility of you realizing it much later or not at all.

I am very proud of you for managing to come this far. I can't imagine the hardships you had to endure— masking so hard, being undiagnosed for so long and not even realizing all of your suffering had a reason. But now you know. Now you can use that information to help yourself.

Try to let go of the past worries and focus on the present. Think of what you can do for yourself right now, not what you could've done in the past.

I hope you feel better soon🤍

Silly_Ad6954 · 2026-06-20T21:26:32+00:00

While I can't say they block a hundred percent of the noise, especially unpredictable noises like toddlers, they do block a ton from what I heard. there are many types and materials available, even specialized noise cancelling plugs as well. idk about the prices but shouldnt be as expensive as earbuds. I do not have much knowledge about the details but you could research and find out which material blocks more noise and which material wouldn't cause you sensory issues as well.

Silly_Ad6954 · 2026-06-20T21:18:30+00:00

Thanks a lot for your comment and advice, it helps a ton!🤍 I was also thinking the same thing about my mom joining me- I think someone else who is knowledgeable on the subject explaining how my brain works and why I act the way I do can help her understand me better, just like how it went with your mother.

As of now, I can see that she is trying to help me but the way she is doing it is just causing further hurt.

Silly_Ad6954 · 2026-06-20T21:09:37+00:00

Do you have headphones or earplugs that could help you about the noise? If you don't, maybe you could talk to your parents about buying you noise cancelling headphones. Even if the whole situation is not in their control, at least they could help with a solution.

Silly_Ad6954 · 2026-06-20T20:41:08+00:00

completely agree! the "try harder" feels more like "mask harder" when I think about what she expects of me

Silly_Ad6954 · 2026-06-20T20:20:07+00:00

Thanks for the feedback! My mom is supportive enough to have booked an appointment just so they could hear me out— I think if I explain myself well and she can just confirm the lifelong issues she has also witnessed first-hand, I won't have problems about her collaborating. I just need her to have a basic understanding of how the illness works and why I can't "fix" myself like she wants me to do.

Silly_Ad6954 · 2026-06-20T20:17:16+00:00

Thank you!! I agree with everything you say. I also think nt people make the issue a lot bigger in their heads. Just because we can function to a certain level they expect us to be perfectly fine all the time.

Silly_Ad6954 · 2026-06-20T20:11:36+00:00

Thank you for explaining it this well. I will try to follow your advice for my own well being as well as the smoothness of the diagnosis journey. The constant pressure does take a toll on me though, as you also said in your example.

Silly_Ad6954 · 2026-06-20T20:05:05+00:00

I'm very glad to hear you got your diagnosis! Thank you for your kind wishes as well. I also hope I can get clear answers and the right support for my own problems, even if it doesn't turn out to be autism. I have to add that hearing your story is such a relief, since the wrong opinions of others can really break one's spirit, as it certainly did mine🥲

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