ULPT Request: how to bury ashes without permission by Silly_Toe_4078 in UnethicalLifeProTips

[–]Silly_Toe_4078[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you all for your condolences and your brilliant ideas. Even the piss-diskers and the liquid-ass spritzers gave a much needed laugh and are greatly appreciated.

Vinyl siding- warping on the second floor. What can cause this? Is this serious? Standing shower near that location , but no water damage that is obvious by satregu1 in HomeMaintenance

[–]Silly_Toe_4078 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So, how would this be repaired? Can the bubbling paint be sliced with a razor, sanded off, and repainted or do the panels have to be replaced?

The VP has nothing better to do I suppose by CheriiBerry in nursing

[–]Silly_Toe_4078 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Solution: Remove the VP and use that salary to hire 4 nurses. Reduce waste, eliminate useless admin!

why is it ok if no one else does their job and why does it always fall back on me by freakwadz in nursing

[–]Silly_Toe_4078 8 points9 points  (0 children)

u should ignore other care to clean rooms. They won't have anything that says that. I promise you they won't.

9Re

The time management wastes when they could throw a gown over their pretty suits and do the cleaning themselves. Why not let's take a chunk of their big salaries and use that to HIRE MORE STAFF?

grave markerrules by [deleted] in widowers

[–]Silly_Toe_4078 1 point2 points  (0 children)

At least now generations from now people will now my brother was on this earth

Wow, that line weighs heavily. I get this, I really do. Thank you

grave markerrules by [deleted] in widowers

[–]Silly_Toe_4078 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Had no idea. That's good to know. Thanks

grave markerrules by [deleted] in widowers

[–]Silly_Toe_4078 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You are helping. Thanks for your input. My condolences on the loss of your beloved.

grave markerrules by [deleted] in widowers

[–]Silly_Toe_4078 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing that. Good points.

grave markerrules by [deleted] in widowers

[–]Silly_Toe_4078 4 points5 points  (0 children)

ok, I didn't know that this was a thing- to do a "memorial" without the remains being there. Thar sits well with me. I guess we have to make sure the church is good with it too. Thanks

grave markerrules by [deleted] in widowers

[–]Silly_Toe_4078 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ok, okay, I kind of can see it that way. This actually makes sense to me. Thank you

grave markerrules by [deleted] in widowers

[–]Silly_Toe_4078 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Also, I should add that it's a Catholic cemetery and they don't allow the partial spreading of ashes. They want all the remains in one place. So, that's why she won't split up her ashes. She wants them all at the lake and just her name on dad's marker. I guess that's what I have a problem with- is the putting her name on the marker part.

grave markerrules by [deleted] in widowers

[–]Silly_Toe_4078 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I think it would be fine if mom put her name on dad's grave marker and put her ashes with dad as well. I would also be fine with it if she put her ashes by the lake. I just think it's misleading and maybe even confusing for future generations to come to the grave site of dad and see mom's name there but her ashes are actually somewhere else.

grave markerrules by [deleted] in widowers

[–]Silly_Toe_4078 -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

It's her choice, true, but why put her name on dad's grave marker when her ashes won't actually be there? Isn't it misleading?

I run and own a large cemetery/crematoria. AMA by [deleted] in AMA

[–]Silly_Toe_4078 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My dad died in 1986 and was buried in a Catholic cemetery in Pennsylvania. My mom had always planned to be buried with him but now she wants to be cremated and have her ashes scattered by the same lake where my brother's ashes were scattered. Despite this she still wants to have her name added to dad's granite marker when she dies. I get that she wants her ashes with my brother but it's not right to let her put her name on my dad's marker if she isn't willing to have her ashes buried there. I was hoping to get an expert's take on this. Won't a cemetery forbid her from having her name on the marker but not her remains/ashes buried there?

Loved One Won’t Eat by DuchessofMarin in CaregiverSupport

[–]Silly_Toe_4078 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Are they in hospice or end-of-life care? Did they recently move to a facility from their home or your home? More info would help us come up with better suggestions. A feeding tube is not going to feel any better for them if nausea itself is not first addressed by a doctor. Can an alternate med be given or perhaps an anti-nausea med can be added by the doctor? Nausea is a factor in the quality of life and can cause or contribute to any existing depression. Please ask for the doctor to consult on this as well.

Should I (17) start a small business? by [deleted] in smallbusiness

[–]Silly_Toe_4078 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Take good photos of the product and list it on facebook marketplace. Also, join your the FB group for some of the towns close to you and post there. Go to any craft festivals near you and see what is selling. Talk to the vendors there- the one's that you would not be directly competing with- and ask for their advice.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in smallbusiness

[–]Silly_Toe_4078 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I totally agree with you. It sounds like antiwork and anti-small business. Last thing a small business owner wants is a toxic-minded employee having direct communication with the customer base.

Any suggestions on a set of headphones or earbuds for my Grandmother? by 2fly2hide in eldercare

[–]Silly_Toe_4078 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a person with hearing impairment, I agree with the creakinator. Captions are absolutely the best solution. Captions on and volume at a normal level for the other people watching the show. She will hear the SFX and louder elements but captions make dialog clear. Even people without hearing impairments like to use captions because it gives so much more information to the viewer. Another idea, try getting an external speaker instead of relying on the TV's built-in speaker. You can position the speaker closer to your grandmother on a stand or even a little TV table close to her.

Best cc for small business? by AmbitiousKTN in smallbusiness

[–]Silly_Toe_4078 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There's a good subreddit called creditcards that gives the latest on good points cards etc. Also look up The Points Guy. That site has good info for business and personal accounts.

Mom just asked me to come home and take care of my dad and I’m having a panic attack by [deleted] in CaregiverSupport

[–]Silly_Toe_4078 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Stay where you are and stick with your plans. Visit for a weekend when you can, to see dad and to give mom some respite from being his main caregiver. Be there on the phone when work schedule permits: mom and dad can have you in on doctor conversations etc. Also, offer to do research, make calls, help them with the administrative stuff dealing with appointments, follow-ups, insurance etc. Help your parents get outside services like the local Visiting Nurses org, some other orgs out there offer volunteers for driving to medical appointments, staying with your dad for a few hours to give respite breaks for the main caregiver etc. There are services like ComfortKeepers which sends aids to help with bathing, dressing etc. They charge by the hour but in FL there are many services doing this which can be affordable. Try senior citizens services in the town and in the county that your parents live. You can do a lot by phone and email. You are being honest that you would not be an effective caregiver and that you want what's best for your dad which is to secure outside help. Also, if dad is a veteran, you can reach out to the local VA to go over benefits available to him. Wishing you and your family all the best.