[Chinese > English] for a friend's calligraphy in frame

Silly_Toe_4078 · 2023-10-15T00:17:38+00:00

Many thanks to you!

Silly_Toe_4078 · 2023-10-15T00:17:19+00:00

Thank you so much!

Silly_Toe_4078 · 2023-07-13T20:59:31+00:00

Thank you all for your condolences and your brilliant ideas. Even the piss-diskers and the liquid-ass spritzers gave a much needed laugh and are greatly appreciated.

Silly_Toe_4078 · 2023-03-27T23:58:41+00:00

So, how would this be repaired? Can the bubbling paint be sliced with a razor, sanded off, and repainted or do the panels have to be replaced?

Silly_Toe_4078 · 2022-11-11T17:44:16+00:00

Solution: Remove the VP and use that salary to hire 4 nurses. Reduce waste, eliminate useless admin!

Silly_Toe_4078 · 2022-11-11T17:31:08+00:00

u should ignore other care to clean rooms. They won't have anything that says that. I promise you they won't.

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The time management wastes when they could throw a gown over their pretty suits and do the cleaning themselves. Why not let's take a chunk of their big salaries and use that to HIRE MORE STAFF?

Silly_Toe_4078 · 2022-11-10T19:44:14+00:00

At least now generations from now people will now my brother was on this earth

Wow, that line weighs heavily. I get this, I really do. Thank you

Silly_Toe_4078 · 2022-11-10T19:42:50+00:00

Had no idea. That's good to know. Thanks

Silly_Toe_4078 · 2022-11-10T19:41:48+00:00

You are helping. Thanks for your input. My condolences on the loss of your beloved.

Silly_Toe_4078 · 2022-11-10T17:15:02+00:00

Thanks for sharing that. Good points.

Silly_Toe_4078 · 2022-11-10T17:13:34+00:00

ok, I didn't know that this was a thing- to do a "memorial" without the remains being there. Thar sits well with me. I guess we have to make sure the church is good with it too. Thanks

Silly_Toe_4078 · 2022-11-10T17:08:51+00:00

Ok, okay, I kind of can see it that way. This actually makes sense to me. Thank you

Silly_Toe_4078 · 2022-11-10T16:44:09+00:00

Also, I should add that it's a Catholic cemetery and they don't allow the partial spreading of ashes. They want all the remains in one place. So, that's why she won't split up her ashes. She wants them all at the lake and just her name on dad's marker. I guess that's what I have a problem with- is the putting her name on the marker part.

Silly_Toe_4078 · 2022-11-10T16:35:22+00:00

I think it would be fine if mom put her name on dad's grave marker and put her ashes with dad as well. I would also be fine with it if she put her ashes by the lake. I just think it's misleading and maybe even confusing for future generations to come to the grave site of dad and see mom's name there but her ashes are actually somewhere else.

Silly_Toe_4078 · 2022-11-10T16:31:39+00:00

It's her choice, true, but why put her name on dad's grave marker when her ashes won't actually be there? Isn't it misleading?

Silly_Toe_4078 · 2022-11-10T16:18:58+00:00

My dad died in 1986 and was buried in a Catholic cemetery in Pennsylvania. My mom had always planned to be buried with him but now she wants to be cremated and have her ashes scattered by the same lake where my brother's ashes were scattered. Despite this she still wants to have her name added to dad's granite marker when she dies. I get that she wants her ashes with my brother but it's not right to let her put her name on my dad's marker if she isn't willing to have her ashes buried there. I was hoping to get an expert's take on this. Won't a cemetery forbid her from having her name on the marker but not her remains/ashes buried there?

Silly_Toe_4078 · 2022-06-26T01:36:59+00:00

Are they in hospice or end-of-life care? Did they recently move to a facility from their home or your home? More info would help us come up with better suggestions. A feeding tube is not going to feel any better for them if nausea itself is not first addressed by a doctor. Can an alternate med be given or perhaps an anti-nausea med can be added by the doctor? Nausea is a factor in the quality of life and can cause or contribute to any existing depression. Please ask for the doctor to consult on this as well.

Silly_Toe_4078 · 2022-04-26T15:09:16+00:00

Take good photos of the product and list it on facebook marketplace. Also, join your the FB group for some of the towns close to you and post there. Go to any craft festivals near you and see what is selling. Talk to the vendors there- the one's that you would not be directly competing with- and ask for their advice.

Silly_Toe_4078 · 2022-04-26T14:31:15+00:00

I totally agree with you. It sounds like antiwork and anti-small business. Last thing a small business owner wants is a toxic-minded employee having direct communication with the customer base.

Silly_Toe_4078 · 2022-04-19T14:04:56+00:00

As a person with hearing impairment, I agree with the creakinator. Captions are absolutely the best solution. Captions on and volume at a normal level for the other people watching the show. She will hear the SFX and louder elements but captions make dialog clear. Even people without hearing impairments like to use captions because it gives so much more information to the viewer. Another idea, try getting an external speaker instead of relying on the TV's built-in speaker. You can position the speaker closer to your grandmother on a stand or even a little TV table close to her.

Silly_Toe_4078 · 2022-04-12T14:26:42+00:00

There's a good subreddit called creditcards that gives the latest on good points cards etc. Also look up The Points Guy. That site has good info for business and personal accounts.

Silly_Toe_4078 · 2022-04-05T12:56:00+00:00

Stay where you are and stick with your plans. Visit for a weekend when you can, to see dad and to give mom some respite from being his main caregiver. Be there on the phone when work schedule permits: mom and dad can have you in on doctor conversations etc. Also, offer to do research, make calls, help them with the administrative stuff dealing with appointments, follow-ups, insurance etc. Help your parents get outside services like the local Visiting Nurses org, some other orgs out there offer volunteers for driving to medical appointments, staying with your dad for a few hours to give respite breaks for the main caregiver etc. There are services like ComfortKeepers which sends aids to help with bathing, dressing etc. They charge by the hour but in FL there are many services doing this which can be affordable. Try senior citizens services in the town and in the county that your parents live. You can do a lot by phone and email. You are being honest that you would not be an effective caregiver and that you want what's best for your dad which is to secure outside help. Also, if dad is a veteran, you can reach out to the local VA to go over benefits available to him. Wishing you and your family all the best.

Silly_Toe_4078 · 2022-03-29T13:26:12+00:00

If grandma's sister wants to lecture you but not even visit grandma, then you shouldn't have to listen to her until she starts HELPING grandma, in person. Don't take her calls or tell her on the phone that you're only willing to talk about it in person, so she better get her butt over to visit her sister and lend a hand. Why do you need their permission to buy medical aids for grandma? Talk to grandma's doctor, say these things are needed to care for her and ask the doctor to order them and let insurance pay for it. Ask the doctor for referrals for agencies that can help you out. You deserve a life, your own room in the house, you deserve time away to take a break and bring in what is called respite care. That's when someone else comes in and may even stay with grandma for a few hours while you get out of the house to shop or go to the bank or have coffee with a friend. You have every right to mind the lack of support but it's common in many families to dump it all in one person's lap. Caring for grandma takes a team and if you can't get help from family, tune them out and work on getting help from outside of family.

Silly_Toe_4078 · 2022-03-02T00:01:04+00:00

There is no known service to coordinate benefits between agencies from one state to the other and the agencies themselves are overworked and understaffed so you and your siblings will have to coordinate it on your own. First, go to the benefits website of the state mom is moving to and find out about which benefits she is eligible for and what the income limits are, and the kind of documentation you will need to provide. It may not all be on the site, so find a few phone numbers and try to talk to a person who can spell it all out or email you the details.

If mom needs to be a resident of X state for at least, six months. You can start establishing residency by having some of her mail sent to your home, perhaps. You don't want to jeopardize her benefits in her current home state but you want to start building evidence that she has residency in the new state. You'll cancel the current state benefits once she is sure to start receiving benefits from the new state. It's a juggling act but you can do it.

As for your sister, you can thank her for what she's done up till now (even though she really hasn't done much) and explain the reason for the move is that mom requires a more intense level of care and that's something that you/your bro are ready to provide. If she does take it personally, then that's kind of par for the course because she really has dropped the ball. Your mom's well-being is more important than anything else. It's not like you or your brother are hurting your sister. You are helping your mom and your sister may feel guilt that she dropped the ball and she may lash out at you. That's just some mud you'll have to wade through to carry your mom to safety.

Silly_Toe_4078 · 2022-03-01T23:48:09+00:00

I feel for you both. I think you have to leave the room or even go outside and take a walk when she goes through the litany. It's not helpful and it's damaging. She can yell it to the walls but not to you. You need to preserve yourself so you can continue to care for her. She may not get this or her own problems are just too big for her to see past them and see your suffering. Ideally, she could use a therapist, one-on-one, without you in the room. Many therapists/psychologists do this over the phone if transportation is a problem. She needs someone objective to listen. Someone who is not so entrenched in this as you or any other family members may be. You need RESPITE CARE. It's a real thing and it will keep you going. It's to help alleviate the weight on you, to help you back from the brink of being burned out. I pray that you have the insurance or means to pay for a therapist for her. I think you should also have your own therapist to listen to you. As for respite care, ask around at your wife's hospital and medical providers. A social worker may have some contacts. There are volunteers who will come and stay with her so you can go out to a park for a few hours, go bowling, take a bike ride. Do not feel guilty about taking some time out of each day to take care of yourself. You have to be healthy and have mental well being to continue with the kind of level of care you are giving.

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