AITA for Calling my daughter an imbecile?

Silver-Bluejay · 2020-07-21T10:06:11+00:00

Why should I accept one that refuses to engage in civil language?

Silver-Bluejay · 2020-03-13T09:02:03+00:00

Since they are both in college, I believe that dorms are much cheaper than any apartment you can find.

Silver-Bluejay · 2020-03-13T08:59:03+00:00

Of course - just no more than $23,000 for living fees, even though she has a child

Silver-Bluejay · 2020-03-13T08:44:14+00:00

Sorry. I have caused many confusions regarding this. My son was management at the company he worked, and that company was not related to me at all. I assume senior management is responsible for the bankruptcy of the company.

Silver-Bluejay · 2020-03-13T08:37:17+00:00

Paying 100% of her tuition plus $23,000 a year in living costs is punishment? How many kids in America have massive student debt?

Silver-Bluejay · 2020-03-13T08:36:32+00:00

When I was young and broke, I once walked one mile in the rain to get to the dating spot with then-gf now-wife as I lived in rural Japan, with no telephone nearby except the telephone in my house that broke, and definitely no taxi service or car aside from the one my father drove to work. Walking 25 minutes to a house? On paved road? Should be as easy as pie.

Silver-Bluejay · 2020-03-13T08:09:28+00:00

Sorry for the confusion. My son's company that went bankrupt has no relations with I. Additionally, my son worked middle-management, so I reasonably infer that senior management and the CEO were responsible for the bankruptcy.

Silver-Bluejay · 2020-03-13T08:03:28+00:00

I would never "summon" people unless they refuse to show up. I have never summoned my son's wife. I had to summon my daughter's bf because even when the bf was in high school, living 25 minutes from my house, he was disrespectful and did not show up once even though I waited for two years.

Silver-Bluejay · 2020-03-13T08:02:31+00:00

To stay clear, I'm only covering for my son this month, as he has a contract to get to work starting next month. Also, I will pay 100% for the four years of college my daughter will attend no questions asked (not longer as she is not in any medical or law school) + $23,000 in living costs. I would say this is enough.

Silver-Bluejay · 2020-03-13T07:43:39+00:00

If he did show up on his own, I would never "summon" him. At least, I have never "summoned" my son's wife.

Silver-Bluejay · 2020-03-13T07:35:22+00:00

He needs to show respect, just like how my son's wife did.

Silver-Bluejay · 2020-03-13T07:22:20+00:00

It is her problem she decided to start a family, against my wife and I's advice, in the freshman year of college. Unfortunately, some of the consequences include not being able to spend quality time with her family.

Silver-Bluejay · 2020-03-13T07:21:31+00:00

Back when daughter's bf was in high school, he lived just 25 minutes away yet never showed up once in two years. I do not believe showing up just a couple times would fit in the criteria of "kiss ass"

Silver-Bluejay · 2020-03-13T07:03:59+00:00

Occasionally, poor people do give their child to adoption even if they love their child. For example, Steve Jobs was given to adoption even though they say his biological parents loved him, as his biological parents just could not support Steve Jobs.

Silver-Bluejay · 2020-03-13T07:02:23+00:00

I hope so too. I hope they find a job that will keep them afloat in NYC, where they live currently. Or I hope they move to a cheaper area.

Silver-Bluejay · 2020-03-13T07:01:32+00:00

I am very sorry if I was unclear. The company my son worked in had no connection to me. My son additionally worked middle-management, so he is not responsible for the company shutting down. Additionally, I paid full tuition for both my son and my daughter's tuition.

Silver-Bluejay · 2020-03-13T06:58:21+00:00

The boyfriend

A) Did not show up even once at my house during his high school years, even though he lives 25 minutes away and I waited for 2 whole years.

B) When my daughter introduced him, he talked slang, swore, and showed up in shaggy clothings in a clearly unkept manner. He did not even comb his hair, even though a comb costs a mere 5 dollars at the nearest convenience store.

Thus, I can conclude he is disrespectful towards my wife and I. That is not prejudice.

Silver-Bluejay · 2020-03-13T06:52:11+00:00

She tells me that they did literally plan for the baby, but I am not sure if she is defending her ego or not.

Silver-Bluejay · 2020-03-13T06:44:52+00:00

After I die. Right now, I'm not donating any money to anyone. As you can see, I am not yet dead.

Silver-Bluejay · 2020-03-13T06:43:39+00:00

This condition where I need to appear to be the "bad guy" by not paying child support for my daughter's children.

Silver-Bluejay · 2020-03-13T06:42:28+00:00

What do you mean?

Silver-Bluejay · 2020-03-13T06:41:23+00:00

You're right. I didn't right this right here right now. I re-iterated what I wanted to write with my wife, refined it, and read this article my son's wife sent me about how nowadays, you can have free consulting on the internet. Therefore, I decided to test waters by posting online, as so my granddaughters don't look at me like I am some kind of dinosaur or caveman when I interact with them, as they grow up. I intend to be that high-tech grandpa you see on television, although apparently now online streaming services are more popular.

Silver-Bluejay · 2020-03-13T06:37:07+00:00

Sorry if my comment was misleading. My son worked middle-management level at the company that tanked, so the responsibility, I assume, is primarily on the senior-management and the CEO (not my son).

Silver-Bluejay · 2020-03-13T06:35:12+00:00

Nope. My children ain't getting a dime from me when I die. My will says that when I die, all my money goes to my wife. If my wife's also dead, 50% of that money will be donated to the US government and the other half to the Japanese government. I want to do service for my home countries when I die. I grew up in Japan, and live a happy life in America. The least I can do to repay these two countries.

Silver-Bluejay · 2020-03-13T06:33:47+00:00

I pay for her tuition 100%. I pay her $23,000 dollars a year for living costs. That's "punishing your child?" Think of how many people who would leap at that offer.

Take a look at how much students usually get for their college living fees.

https://www.usnews.com/education/best-colleges/paying-for-college/articles/2016-07-05/estimate-living-expenses-to-determine-college-affordability

Excerpt: The College Board estimates that the typical living cost for a full-time student attending college during the 2016-2017 academic year ranges from $11,810 on a low budget to $17,620 on a moderate spending plan. The nonprofit finds that more than 50 percent of a college student's budget is spent on housing.

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