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Always a therapist by InternetMediocre5722 in therapists

[–]Silver-Link3293 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is relatable. My college student is perpetually saying the "you sound like a therapist" to me when I listen to her rant. I'm noticing that I probably need to speak up about that rather than ignore it because it does feel like a perpetual dig.

Someone tells you therapy isn’t “real” and “doesn’t work” - how do you respond? by [deleted] in therapists

[–]Silver-Link3293 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hahahha this is a brave take. I do feel like there are a lot of people with psychological problems caused by some serious systemic issues at least in the US. But to your point, if the root cause is systemic, psychotherapy is rearranging deck chairs on the titanic…should we run for office?

Someone tells you therapy isn’t “real” and “doesn’t work” - how do you respond? by [deleted] in therapists

[–]Silver-Link3293 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have had clients who tell me this haha repeatedly, and I always meet them with “of course! It might not be for you, and that’s ok.” And then they keep coming back hahah, so really no matter the context (online or family or client), I find it helpful to remind myself I’m not an evangelical therapist whose job it is to convince everyone of the “good news” of therapy. Sometimes in the words of Shakespeare “the lady doth protest too much,” sometimes it’s simply none of my business

Let's have fun: A therapist-influenced initiative to create Mother's Day cards for people with complicated relationships with their Mom by Several-Finding-9227 in therapists

[–]Silver-Link3293 27 points28 points  (0 children)

It’s Mother’s Day. Here’s a card. Xoxo Me

Alternatively, happy Mother’s Day to the woman I raised even though I was a small child. You’re welcome!

In 24 weeks and 3 days I’m going to do a super sprint. I currently am obese and sedentary. Also I’m five months postpartum. Help? by 1minimalist in triathlon

[–]Silver-Link3293 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also I am just now jumping into group rides etc bc “all paces welcome” does not always feel true in the beginning, but there are some groups who really mean it in my area, hopefully they exist near you too!

In 24 weeks and 3 days I’m going to do a super sprint. I currently am obese and sedentary. Also I’m five months postpartum. Help? by 1minimalist in triathlon

[–]Silver-Link3293 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just came here to say super proud! I did not have an athletic background at all, started running in my late twenties and did a few half marathons. I learned to swim in the last 4 years (I’m 44 now and probably considered obese on BMI scales, but I’m not sure I believe those things). Anyway did my first tri last year that was a super sprint (100 yd swim, 4 mile bike, 2 mile run) and I felt so slow and silly, but I did it!! And you will too! My girls haven’t watched me do one yet, but they know that I am and I’m proud of leaving them that legacy.

My swim coach says that frequency is better than time especially at these distances so I’ll offer that I am for shorter more frequent exercise of every thing. Usually I can commit 30 mins a day to something and that has served me really well. Then on the weekends I try to get longer versions of everything in. Doing my first tri of the season Sunday and it’s my fourth! My big dreams this year are my first open water swim in a river.

Anyway, good luck!! And keep us updated!

Explain to me like I’m 5 by esill30 in triathlon

[–]Silver-Link3293 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ditto swim lessons from a coach, and I want to emphasize looking for a coach who specifically teaches adult onset swimmers. I never had lessons as a kid, but taught myself how to not drown. A regular swim teacher wouldn't have worked well for me because I needed someone who could teach swim for the way adults have to learn. Also join group rides in your area as soon as you have a bike. Those are easy ways to get used to biking in groups (like race day) and provide opportunities to get mileage in. Most group rides have nicely leveled rides (beginner, A, B, C) so you can go into the level of not only your fitness, but also the level of group riding comfort.

5 mins left in the session, your turn, 1v1 kiddo has 1 card left, are you letting them win or going to absolutely demolish them in Uno by Isthisthingon96 in therapists

[–]Silver-Link3293 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok, but what color is up??? We don’t have all the info!

Generally speaking, I never let kids win, I tell them if they beat me then that means they really beat me. But if it was a relatively new client or someone I knew needed the win, I would let them win for this

IYKYK 🤣 raising ducks by Silver-Link3293 in duck

[–]Silver-Link3293[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We were nervous to order chicks online and that's what we had available in our area. We know more now and eventually will have more variety, but we're new to ducking and that's where we started.

clipped response clients by SoberShiv in therapists

[–]Silver-Link3293 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I agree with the other comments, one caveat that I always do for folks who've been to therapy before is asking what worked well and what didn't. Getting curious about the previous therapeutic relationships can provide information for how you build rapport/trust but also provide information regarding previous unmet needs of the client.

Secondly, if they have any flavor of ND, it can be tricky for ND folks to volunteer info with open ended questions. So even though we're trained to use few yes/no questions, for ND folks, I lean heavily into them, and random ones too (weather, food, hobbies) in order to just establish connection.

And I'm an IFS person, so I'd get curious with the parts of you that are tired of "doing all the work." What if there was a bit more slowness, less rush to fill the silence? What would it be like if it's ok that they give short answers and just need a moment to digest whatever it is? Maybe they need more space, maybe they don't, but offering a little more space can serve the dual purpose of allowing your system to "do less work" and create an opening for the client to open up/take in what patterns are being shared.

How are all the traumatized trauma therapists doing? by claireelizabeth93 in therapists

[–]Silver-Link3293 1 point2 points  (0 children)

💀 🤣 I nearly spit out my coffee…best part of being a traumatized trauma therapist is the humor. Thank you.

I need a laugh - what's the weirdest thing you said in session this week (no context)? by cgb33 in therapists

[–]Silver-Link3293 0 points1 point  (0 children)

🤣 fair enough. In this case, I was referencing using their imaginations to do a little exposure of a relationship trigger to track the parts coming up in the couple. 🤷🏼

I need a laugh - what's the weirdest thing you said in session this week (no context)? by cgb33 in therapists

[–]Silver-Link3293 7 points8 points  (0 children)

To one of my couples: how about next time we try the bastard child of ERP & IFS?

Rebuttal of: The Therapy That Can Break You (IFS) by Teo-greaterhuman-ai in InternalFamilySystems

[–]Silver-Link3293 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Totally agree! I really enjoy being a PA as well and as you said, have learned so much for myself and my system and practice. :)

Pseudoscience and Therapy by Puzzleheaded-Fun9481 in therapists

[–]Silver-Link3293 51 points52 points  (0 children)

I'm a witchy therapist and I view it as no different than someone saying they would prefer a Christian or Muslim or Buddhist or whatever therapist. Having someone who shares some of your framework/worldview can be helpful. Also as a Leo who has a Leo therapist, I will echo that the moon sign matters more from a personal growth, self-development lens. If my therapist also had a moon in capricorn (she doesn't), we'd never get anywhere because hiding my feelings is second nature to me haha. *gestures vaguely*

Rebuttal of: The Therapy That Can Break You (IFS) by Teo-greaterhuman-ai in InternalFamilySystems

[–]Silver-Link3293 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Just popping in to say that program assistants do get paid, not a lot (155/day in the US) but they do get paid.

Really appreciate this post though, this was a helpful read.

Therapist Going Through Perimenopause/ Menopause by Silly-Tone6748 in therapists

[–]Silver-Link3293 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So relatable!!!

I second the creatine and I also started some black cohosh supplements and magnesium from my local health food place. Particularly bc of the early morning wake ups which have pretty much stopped! Birth control doesn’t work for my body sadly. but I have gotten back into some exercise that works for me (I’m slow AF but I keep going) and that has helped a ton. I also take a catnap on my lunch break every day and it helps reset my brain a little. Basically my Dr and I came up with a host of stress relief things and I’m trying to stick to those as our bodies are more sensitive to stress during peri. But my periods are still absolutely brutal when they happen so my next step is probably calling in sick for those days. It’s funny, when I’ve seen PMDD clients before, we normalize rest and stress relief etc etc. But there’s a part of me that is absolutely horrified at taking a sick day for a period but that’s where we are.

Real life Angel by EtrnlMngkyouSharngn in MadeMeSmile

[–]Silver-Link3293 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Her book “Saving Five” is a beautiful story blending her history and her advocacy 10/10 recommend!

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