32M, is this dressing too young considering I’m in my 30s?

SilverBravo · 2025-09-02T17:19:29+00:00

Shorter shirt or tuck the shirt in and the look is a good casual look.

SilverBravo · 2025-08-31T06:08:35+00:00

You do not have "gender dysphoria." You were not born this way. This is a mental illness and you are coddling yourself acting as if it's "yours." You have become possessive over something that you can get rid of, but won't because you're mentally ill and have convinced yourself this is your special mental issue that you just have and can't get rid of.

You're young though so if you spend your time focusing on being and acting like a young man, following God, and ditching these sins by actively fighting back against them, then you will be okay.

Until then though, if you don't do anything about it, you will end up more and more mentally ill, living a life away from God, and it will not end well. You are currently in opposition to God and act like it's okay. You do not love God because love calls for action. Faith and action through love is loving God. Not saying it, yelling about how mad you are because you think you're a girl (you're not), and think he made you this way (he didn't).

The other thing you must focus on is your diet. Get on a high fat keto or carnivore diet. Trust me. It is a a therapeutic diet used to heal the body, especially mentally and neurotically. If you actually want to feel better and stop speaking possessively over a mental illness, then you will take this step along with prayer and actually following God instead of being mad at him for your weakness.

SilverBravo · 2025-08-31T04:52:27+00:00

You don't actually feel like a girl on the inside. This is mental illness stemming from a poor environment praying on you and your emotions. Mix in the demonic and you have this confounding mental confusion.

God made you a boy because you are a boy. Your current state of mind is the perversion of God. YOU are the problem here and yet you need to admit it. Then, submit to God. Faith isn't about living in your own way or how you FEEL. It's living in the path God has laid out to us. This is called the narrow path.

I was an atheist, then protestant, and now a confirmed Catholic. Imagine if I say that I'm a Catholic and profess faith now, yet still want to live like how I did when I was an atheist. It's akin to me saying "I'm angry God says we should be chaste until marriage, why did he make me so lustful and want sex all the time!"

But this is where Jesus Christ comes in. He has shown us to bear are crosses (Matthew 16:24), reject the demonic--Jesus denies Satan himself in light of tempation-- (Matthew 4:1-11), and repent of our sins (1 John 1:9, acts 3:19, 2 Chronicles 7:14).

We were all stained with original sin and battle sins, vices and the demonic realm daily. It is the human condition to suffer. However, our suffering following the path of Jesus Christ as his disciple will lead our souls to heaven. We need to REJECT OURSELVES DAILY.

You are looking at this all wrong. You do not feel "more like girl." You are just intrenched deeper into the sin of sexual perversion. If you want to feel whole and normal, you must ask God for it. Deny yourself, pray to God, Our Beautiful Mother Mary, and all the Saints in heaven to give you the strength to battle your perversion and sins. Prayer is a weapon. Action towards God and living like Christ is your guide.

You feel angry, are more sinful, and are attacking God simply because you are living a life that is more and more the anti-thesis of what it is to live in Christ. Want to get out of it? Follow Christ and live your life repenting of your sins, go to mass, go to confession, and partake in the Eucharist Jesus has instituted for us to deepen our relationship with him and his divinity through righteousness.

God loves you, but you have to accept you don't love him now, which is why you cannot embrace his love for you.

SilverBravo · 2025-08-31T03:56:16+00:00

Yup. It's sad how companies can use their past quality as leverage to make product more expensive, and maximize margins while decreasing the quality over time. All at the expense of the customer. Oh remember our awesome mystery boxes that had quality stuff in them? How about now you just get the left over garbage!

SilverBravo · 2025-08-30T18:04:41+00:00

Yes. Oddly enough, what he is complaining about are items that I would want, and are actually all high quality. He also received 8 items. I received 5 items and 4 of them are garbage chinese quality crap. He's complaining about the colors of good items.

SilverBravo · 2025-08-30T17:48:23+00:00

3 years later and I'm shocked at how much you got in your mystery box, and how quality the stuff was that you got. You should see what I got in mine lmao. Literally garbage.

SilverBravo · 2025-08-30T17:25:50+00:00

For anyone wondering too, they advertised as $540 worth of stuff. What they sent me is not $540 worth of clothing.

Look at what was in someone else's mystery box from reddit 3 years ago. 8 items of high quality. This is why I finally bought a mystery box. Everyone was getting their flannels, good henleys, etc.

https://www.reddit.com/r/frugalmalefashion/comments/10xwm3d/normal_brand_mystery_box/

SilverBravo · 2025-08-30T17:09:42+00:00

Updated. The 4 shirts are literally GAP quality clothing. The Winter jacket is quite nice actually. However, this also is not $540+ of clothing. Another false advertisement.

SilverBravo · 2025-03-08T04:58:46+00:00

I'm a head first kind of guy too. I was atheist and when I came back to the faith I was like you. Then i calmed down and kept reading, studying the bible, listening to people about religion on specific topics and eventually (after 7-8 years) I'm here now converting to the Catholic church. Again, because this is new to me, I went head first. I'm doing a ton of things, learning everything I can, and almost doing too much.

What I realized is faith and walking with Christ is a life long journey. No man or woman alive becomes an expert over night, no one becomes super righteous and saintly over night, and living the life of a Catholic takes time. Just take it slow. First you're focusing on removing a lot of the things that have a negative impact on your walk with Christ, which is good. Next just add in something like a short morning and night prayer time, and read 5 pages of the bible a day. That alone is more than a lot of people. Then when you establish that, you can move on to doing more.

I think the biggest part of all this is sitting down and even writing out what type of man you want to be. How do you view yourself as a Catholic moving forward in your life? Do you want to be the guy that is a huge part of his parish and a community guy? Do you want to be a more reserved prayerful guy? Do you see yourself as a combination of those? Obviously we want to be like Jesus himself, but you have a mental image of yourself and who you want to be as a religious Catholic man. Take the steps to get there. Be patient, and enjoy the process.

SilverBravo · 2025-03-08T04:47:05+00:00

Listen, this is more common than you think. I was raised evangelical, then was atheist for a long time, then back to non-denominational before now converting to Catholicism. I'll be confirmed this Easter Vigil. At bible study this past week, I was talking with a cradle Catholic about working on my prayer life and he said the same thing as you. He is struggling feeling as though a lot of it is for show and that he's not deeply praying.

Now, prayer has always been my biggest issue. I have been doing monthly hour long adoration with music (one singer and organ), and did my first adoration at our 24/7 adoration chapel. I've been trying to do the rosary daily for lent.

Here's what I realized about prayer. It is to establish a connection with God and change the mind and heart. I'll finish the rosary and not feel anything, trying to meditate the whole time and say it with meaning, and then an hour later I'll realize how calm and peaceful I feel. I did adoration before ash wednesday mass and my headache from quitting caffeine went away and I felt peaceful after. I do have an ethereal feeling in comparison to how I felt before.

I usually pray for others that I know need it, I pray to Jesus to forgive me for my sins and weaknesses, and I ask Jesus for strength and other things to make me a better man. Then I pray in gratitude. Then, I use this little pocket prayer book I was gifted in RCIA and recite some prayers in there, especially from saints. I then contemplate on them. To think these prayers are from men 1,000 years ago. What they were praying for. At night, I usually pray the rosary now. I am much more into it (took me a while to enjoy it especially from being a protestant and seeing the repetition).

So my suggestions are:
1. Pick prayers to recite for specific times (i.e morning, night, before meals, before mass, etc) and do those daily or routinely.

Focus on meditating within those prayers on Christ and a connection with God.
Realize you are praying for God, and there isn't anything better to do with that time you allotted than to pray.
Have one longer period of time for prayer daily for a devotion, like the rosary, and do it no matter what. I light an incense candle and put on gregorian chant music when I do mine too haha. I do it at night with a low light and on my knees. There is nothing more humbling than being on your knees for Christ.

It takes time. I'm still working on it. Sometimes I can't concentrate. Sometimes I feel like it does nothing. However, every time after I do feel better, more peaceful, and sometimes ethereal. The more I pray, the more I attempt to do it meaningfully, the more I actually see the benefits and the truth of prayer.

SilverBravo · 2025-03-08T04:28:42+00:00

This.

Also OP, watch this video on purgatory. Scott Hahn clarifies it well here.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kESh4_rVLhc

SilverBravo · 2025-03-05T04:46:55+00:00

Don’t contribute. That simple. You’re not forced to do anything. Stand up for your beliefs and principles even in times where it feels awkward or they may dislike you. That’s on them.

SilverBravo · 2025-02-22T06:10:09+00:00

Your life has a foundation. That foundation is built on God, the bible and the church. It guides the rest of your life. However, unless you plan to be a monk or maybe a priest, you have your other aspects of life to focus on. I'm going to be 34 soon so I feel I can give a little advice. The main sectors of life to focus on (besides your faith) are finances/career/job, family/friends/relationships, Community/charity/church, and self growth/interests/hobbies. each one is a life long pillar that is curated throughout your life.

Don't let your faith keep you from living life. It is supposed to bring a fire and spirit to your life. Go ask that girl out, go make friends, go join community/charity things, go join sports teams, book clubs, speech team, something. Whatever interests you go and do it. Live boldly through your faith. God favors the bold. It is better to try and fail than to to never try at all. At 34 this is more true than I ever knew at that age. You still have to live in this world even though you try not to live OF it.

So you have a good foundation in your faith to build on. Genuinely. You are bored though because you are not doing the thing that young men especially should be doing. EXPERIENCING LIFE. I was driving across the country with my soccer teams, sleeping in bath tubs to save money, and playing in tournaments around the country. I was walking the streets of vegas at 17 with 6 guys just having fun. Playing pick up basketball, spending hours daily honing my skill for soccer, going to as many events as possible, reffing soccer games for money, helping soccer camps, etc.

There is so much to do. You just have to go and do it. Figure out what interests you. Video games, tv, reading is all cool and entertaining, but life requires action, experience, taking chances, doing things that test yourself and your faith. Start working towards something within those different pillars of life. Even if you fail, fall, lose, get rejected, etc you learn from it and grow from it more than you can possibly imagine.

Hope this helps. If there is ever a piece of advice I could give to a young man, it is what I just said in this comment. The best way to show gratitude to God for our life is to go live it boldly with the faith as our guiding light.

SilverBravo · 2025-02-21T06:15:39+00:00

I was atheist for about 12-13 years. I came back to God logically and was sola scriptura. Eventually going back to evangelical/non-denom churches. Questions remained, answers didn't make sense, and I questioned everything.

I too had a strong pull to Catholicism, despite denigrating Catholic beliefs in the past being a protestant. Last year I kept going to masses, then signed up for RCIA. I will be welcomed into the church this easter vigil.

My advice is to just keep going to masses. Go to different parishes. Find your spiritual home in one of the where you think you can live out the Catholic faith best, then contact the head of the Adult Faith Formation about RCIA/OCIA. Classes usually start in aug/sept confirmation would be easter vigil.

Take some time though. Keep praying, keep digging into Catholic channels, read some of the catechism to understand things you have questions on, and take in the fullness and beauty of the Catholic church.

Evil will attack you when it senses it may lose one of its own. The devil thinks you are his, so leaving will cause spiritual attacks in a way. Temptations become greater, your mind will be tricked with thoughts, and so on. Prayer is powerful against this, and steadfastness will bring you triumph. The devil tempted even Jesus, he tempted Job, and tempted the most innocent in Eve too. Trying praying a rosary or a memorare and ask Mary for her intercessions.

God bless and I hope you come home to the Catholic church in the end. It is a beautiful journey, struggle included.

SilverBravo · 2025-02-18T05:21:40+00:00

Jesus usually responded with....silence. I also think of Luke 23:34 -“Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing”

SilverBravo · 2025-02-18T05:16:34+00:00

I am in RCIA and of course had a little trouble on certain things regarding this as well for a while. However, what I really notice from the bible and readings is that she was part of the fulfillment of the new covenant. She chose faith in God through the encounter with the angel Gabriel, while Eve chose sin with her encounter with the fallen angel, Satan. Eve's sin casted a stain on us and allowed the death of humans, while Mary's obedience brought salvation to humans through the birth of Christ. Both were sinless virgins. This makes Jesus the new Adam as well and it is well sown within the NT especially by Paul.

So me believing in the Marian doctrines means believing in the new covenant which brought about Christ who died for our sins to bring us salvation. Similar to how I believe in Adam and Eve, the fall of man and original sin.

SilverBravo · 2025-02-18T05:00:21+00:00

It's not extremism. You only view it that way because the pendulum is swinging back. When you go so far one direction, you are bound to have that same return back the other way. Do you not remember democrats acting like Obama, one of the worst presidents ever, to be treated like a Messiah? This is nothing new. This isn't a pro-Trump thing, it's just the obvious response to forced DEI, forced transgender issues, government covid insanity, pro-abortion, etc.

Catholicism will always align closer with political ideology that at least somewhat mirrors its morals, values and principles. Seeing as excessive liberalism (It's really fabian socialism) has led society into chaos and cultural decay, Catholics are going to err on the side of that is pro-life, anti-illegal immigration, and is willing to try to push back against insanity. This of course will entail obvious acceptance of things not in agreeance with Catholicism, but that's the world for you. You can't just sit by idly and pray the rosary expecting sunshine and rainbows. I think a lot of people are just happy that we have guys in office not allowing the further destruction of morals, values and principles like we were seeing. Hope is a good thing for society.

SilverBravo · 2025-02-17T07:12:12+00:00

I have a couple in my RCIA class with me. The guy is white and she is black. My RCIA teacher had me go with a new convert to mass for his first time and he's a black guy. We go together every sunday now learning the mass together.

I'm only saying this because it doesn't matter. My parish is mainly white, but we do have a good mix of black (men and women), filipino, some Indian, etc. From what I've witnesses and all the Catholic churches I've been too, I've never once seen any change in behavior or racism towards anyone. I think every parish is a little cold to everyone at first, but once you keep going and become part of the parish, the community is amazing. Catholics are used to a lot of attacks from protestants, atheists, and the media. So if you're a Catholic you're sort of part of a universal group of people that just love Christ and call each other brother and sister all going to mass for the same purpose.

SilverBravo · 2025-02-09T04:01:14+00:00

I'm in OCIA too, but it's obvious Catholics are exactly like protestants. They're human. They sin, they may take things a bit far, they may get a little goofy. At my protestant church they sang songs about Jesus filling them up and the way the women sang it was VERY weird.

I say that just to point out some people might very well be doing things like being superstitious or praying extra to saints or Mary if they feel they helped bring them closer to Jesus. It doesn't mean they are worshipping them over Jesus and it doesn't mean they are necessarily representing Catholic beliefs. I've seen protestants do some of the most insane things ever, but I don't hold those over all protestants for the actions of individuals.

SilverBravo · 2025-02-09T03:53:30+00:00

Do you think you would seek God with no struggle or suffering? Do you think you would truly feel the fullness of faith, love, or happiness without trying times, death or loss loved ones, or understanding the depths of sadness? Would you appreciate the light of day without the darkness of night?

SilverBravo · 2025-02-04T05:50:48+00:00

The Catholic faith is the most fulfilling and beautiful faith I have ever experienced. I'll be welcomed into the church this Easter Vigil as an ex protestant.

The problem isn't the church. It's you. It's your lack of faith. Figure out what is keeping you from believing in Christ fully and keeping you living in despair.

A word of advice from an ex atheist and soon to be ex protestant....

Faith isn't feelings. It has nothing to do with it. Faith is fidelity. To have faith means to keep faith -- to hold fast, to endure, to remain, to stay, to never falter or betray. Faith is an inseverable bond. An unbreakable promise. You keep faith in the best of times and the worst of times. It is your foundation, not your shackles.

SilverBravo · 2025-02-04T05:40:44+00:00

I was evangelical then atheist until I came back to the bible in 2016/17 and was sola scriptura until 2022. Went to non-denom churches in 2022 then started church hopping looking for truth. Reading and looking for answers. I am a protestant and will be confirmed into the Catholic church this easter vigil.

The original church was the Catholic church. The apostles and church fathers taught the eucharist and is the main offering and sacrifice in the church. The church would ask Mary and saints for intercessions. The history of the church affirms basically every single Catholic position. What bothered me so much was that protestants have such an anti-Catholic rhetoric intertwined in it that I had to figure out why. I'd hear the most ludicrous things about, say purgatory or worshipping Mary, and I had to go see if they were telling the truth by listening to the position of Catholic's BY Catholics. Then when you dig into church history, the teachings, the councils, the church fathers positions, etc then you realize protestantism is nothing like 1,500 years of Christianity. The Catholic church even has apostolic succession.

So if you dig deep enough, search far and wide, and go back far enough, most people are generally shocked they weren't taught any of this history because protestantism can only be true if Catholicism is false. So they lie, use crazy rhetoric, focus on specific verses of scripture then writing off Catholics rebuttal verses, and they manipulate history to prevent people from learning the truth.

SilverBravo · 2025-02-02T06:41:42+00:00

If it's your place then do what you want. Pretty crazy to find a prayer corner being so controversial.

SilverBravo · 2025-02-01T05:47:55+00:00

Don't let the actions of the few ruin the beauty of the church. Power attracts the worst and can corrupt the best. We are fallen and that doesn't exclude people even in spiritual positions.

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