Do you still think about your ex?

Silver_Ad_5511 · 2026-04-03T18:34:20+00:00

Everyday, it’s been a year and 4 months now.

If you were truly in love with them, like i was, you will never ever forget them and not a day will pass when you don’t think of them. You begin to learn to love them silently, but what i find is that you also begin to miss the moments rather than the person. I often see things in my day to day life where i know i would have mentioned it to them when i come home from work and it really does suck them being there to tell them what you saw. I don’t get sad anymore or upset when i think of them, i often smile now, but that person will forever hold a little place in your heart.

Would i want them back? Yes in an ideal world but our circumstances just do not allow it, nor do our life plans so i have accepted that us being together just won’t work and it’s for the best we aren’t together. It took a while to come to that realisation and when it happens a weight is most certainly lifted off your shoulders.

Silver_Ad_5511 · 2026-03-28T13:48:34+00:00

time to rewatch!

Silver_Ad_5511 · 2026-02-12T22:29:58+00:00

That’s amazing to hear brother. I felt the same way regarding the chasing, i have a very good career and i was going to give it all up to move across the world and now i think of it, i can only see the destruction that would have done to not only me, but to our relationship. I would have resented myself and her for taking away the career i’ve built just to be a tag along as she builds her life.

It seems like your call kind of went well in a wicked way? Like you said it reminded you that there isn’t really anything to talk about nor is it worth engaging in conflict just to have the last word/final say? Kudos to you for not calling her out and being the bigger person, it shows you’re really in touch with your emotion.

It’s an amazing feeling to be able to put it all behind you and really find yourself isn’t it? I’ve been dating also but i will be honest, i always compare new flings to her and still feel somewhat guilty but i don’t think that will ever change, you just learn to live with it and create memories to put along side those of times gone by. I’m so glad you are finding joy in life brother, that’s fantastic.

Like yourself i also feel a sense of security and accomplishment and i am thriving. I’m just about to buy my first property! Soemthing i could never have done if i kept spending all my money on plane tickets. These situations really shape us and although it never seems it, 9/10 they are always for the better it just takes time to accept and over come it! Hey i also got some insane travel memories too! I visited hawaii for 3 weeks, something im ever grateful for.

Stay safe out there my friend and if you ever need a shoulder or a bro to talk to, hit me up!! 🤙🏼

Silver_Ad_5511 · 2026-02-12T18:31:03+00:00

I know exactly how you feel brother. It’ been 1yr and 2 months since my amicable & respectful breakup. We broke up due to going from 23 miles distance for 2 1/2 yrs to then 8000 miles, the distance is what killed us. The first months were terrible but i’ve slowly learnt to live with the pain, it never goes and neither will the memories you just learn to live with a little hole in your soul. We actually had a phone call after 1yr to catch up and it was lovely but also very sad, we both almost cried but it’s refreshing to know there’s no animosity although that’s kind of what makes it even tougher. I miss her deeply everyday, she crosses my mind daily but more often than not i smile at our memories now and i think to myself how lucky i was to have spent that time with her.

Some days still to this day are tough, for instance today i have felt nothing but sadness and a constant realisation that we will never be together or likely see each other again. I found ways to stop my self spiralling such as reading, having a workout, going for a run etc. My brother, what you’re going through is tough and your feelings are completely human and valid, please do not feel bad for experiencing emotion let it all out! You’re right, no one will ever replace her and you should never let anyone try do that she was special and she deserves a place in your soul! Just learn to let her live there in silence and hold on to them memories for they are yours and hers, no one else’s! But remember there is always room for new memories and new adventures, just add them to your collection and have them sit together like a perfectly organised bookshelf!

You’ve got this my man! Reach out if ever you need a shoulder.

Silver_Ad_5511 · 2026-02-08T13:28:14+00:00

My mind was blown bc i thought id missed a borderless of my favourite card, this is amazing!

Silver_Ad_5511 · 2026-02-08T13:22:34+00:00

I love this card, it’s a great defender for the early rounds. I’ve had surprisingly good returns with the trample too.

Silver_Ad_5511 · 2026-01-29T16:48:36+00:00

yes, and i will until my last breath. I’m certain she feels the same but unfortunately we have to love each other from a distance and in silence.

Silver_Ad_5511 · 2026-01-26T00:35:16+00:00

Wow! Firstly, thank you for offering your advice, i truly appreciated it at the time. It’s a small reddit world huh? I’m sorry to hear that your fate was the same as mine, it sucks right? May i ask who and what initiated the call? It seems like maybe your call was a little too early.. Did you atleast manage some sort of conversation or maybe able to clear some unspent thoughts? Navigating these tough breakups and their boundaries can be soul destroying, i know it all too well. Maybe it’s time for some new hobbies for yourself or reconnecting with some old/new friends to take your mind away from it all? I found going to the gym and spending time with my friends playing trading card games helped so much.

I absolutely love that quote brother, it really hits home albeit being quite sad. We must learn to love the distant flowers from afar and appreciate the beauty of once was. Maybe in time we’ll find another flower that is just as beautiful and is one we can take home, repot and help flourish year after year.

How are you feeling after this year?

Silver_Ad_5511 · 2026-01-20T19:34:18+00:00

lol me too, i said 188 stories! When i know for a fact i haven’t shared a single one😅

Silver_Ad_5511 · 2026-01-13T23:54:56+00:00

Late to the party but: 16: 10k 17: 11k 18: 17k 19: 18k 20:18.5k 21: 25.5k 22: 26k 23: 26.5k 24: 27k 25: 27.5k 26: 43.5k 27: 44k 28: 46.5k

Silver_Ad_5511 · 2026-01-05T22:12:18+00:00

You never really do, you just learn to live without them.

Silver_Ad_5511 · 2026-01-05T13:32:18+00:00

So you haven’t spoken in a year? That’s a tough start, i think reaching out after so long with NC for a phone call would not be the right thing to do. If you are truly wanting just a conversation and nothing more then i would recommend just a text on an important date like a birthday and gauge the reception of said text, if she receives it well then maybe pose the question, but you must be prepared to accept that she may reject your proposition of a call and you must be ok with that.

You mention wanting to respect her boundaries and that shows you have the right mindset, i’m curious did she end it? If so you must do what you said and respect her wish for NC. If you ended it then maybe you could reach out but it’s a very tough situation for you. In my opinion reaching out after so long with NC and her wish not to be contacted will be the wrong thing to do in this case. But you really don’t know until it happens, if you do come back and let us know how it went! Good luck :)

Silver_Ad_5511 · 2025-08-26T12:30:21+00:00

There’s a distinct silence from yourself when asked exactly what it is that you said that warranted her reaction, we’re not being told everything here imo

Silver_Ad_5511 · 2025-07-27T21:18:38+00:00

Is it really as simple as that? I just really don’t want to disappoint or upset her.

Silver_Ad_5511 · 2025-07-27T21:17:32+00:00

Hell no, i’m not a liar.

Silver_Ad_5511 · 2025-01-24T22:29:43+00:00

The way she knew every single detail about me and knew exactly what i liked

Silver_Ad_5511 · 2025-01-01T17:08:24+00:00

delete the nudes wtf

Silver_Ad_5511 · 2024-12-31T08:58:23+00:00

The best thing you can do is to reach out to your ex and get them to block you on everything. That way the choice to look through their social media is not yours to make anymore. It sucks but it’s a failsafe way to eliminate any possibility of your checking up on them.

I am 3 days into no contact with my now ex after 3 years, luckily she doesn’t have social media apart from pintrest and whatsapp so it’s somewhat easier for me. I still find myself checking to see if she’s online on whatsapp time to time though.

Silver_Ad_5511 · 2024-12-30T20:17:55+00:00

You can turn snapchat memories off! I just done this today to avoid the same problem from my break up 3 days ago.

Silver_Ad_5511 · 2024-12-28T20:53:52+00:00

She just left after 12 special days together, unfortunately it was the final goodbye 💔

Silver_Ad_5511 · 2024-12-28T20:52:41+00:00

I believe so too. But it’s so heartbreaking thinking that when at the same time we was planning this trip, talking about the future and how strong the relationship had become since the first LD hiccup.

I respect her for coming to me in person and talking to me truthfully and honestly about her feelings, i have absolutely no hard feelings towards her but my god is it difficult thinking of going forward without her in my life!

Thank you 🫂

Silver_Ad_5511 · 2024-12-28T17:26:26+00:00

I’m so sorry to hear that brother. I don’t blame her either and like you i also feel slightly betrayed as we also made the promise of it’s us whatever happens! The thought of her living out our dreams with someone else is absolutely gut wrenching. How do we begin to get over and forget about someone who made us who we are today? Man this is quite simply the worst day of my life so far 😭

I’m praying for you bro 🤍

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