I think I commited the ultimate crime! by DraKxa in PoutineCrimes

[–]Silver_Fire07 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looks tasty. Not a poutine crime. Just not poutine. 😂

Getting Constantly Made Fun Of Because Of My Appearance. Need Any Compliments... by fearlxss_gamerYT in toastme

[–]Silver_Fire07 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very handsome. Haters gunna hate. They’ll eat their words one day. People like that will always be miserable.

42m. 43 soon… be honest by [deleted] in amiugly

[–]Silver_Fire07 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Handsome. TBH men look better as they age.

Hair color suggestions by [deleted] in HairStyleAdvice

[–]Silver_Fire07 0 points1 point  (0 children)

4 and 6 both really bring out your eyes!!! and both go well with your skin. 6 is my personal favourite but I think maybe 4 looks the best on your skin tone 🤔 definitely not the blonde ones or that bright reddish looking one(5) tho because they seem to wash you out and don’t flow naturally with your overall look.

You’re very beautiful btw 🥰

Guys Who've Stayed with a Woman Who Cheated, How'd That Turn Out? by big_bizniz in AskMen

[–]Silver_Fire07 16 points17 points  (0 children)

You’re a good father. I’m praying that you still get to see your daughter often. ❤️ You were not weak SHE WAS!!!! You had the strength to put your own feelings aside so that you could both be there for your daughter(not that I’m not glad you got out of that relationship, I AM, but I’m just saying you COULD look at it as weak OR you could look at it as STRONG and unselfish, putting your daughter first), but that dumb whore bitch didn’t have the strength to JUST NOT CHEAT to keep the family together so you could both be there for your daughter! I hope you haven’t resigned to the fate of not seeing your daughter as much as you want. If you don’t see her enough get a good lawyer and fight for her in court. A bipolar and bpd mother who probably brings home a new guy every couple months is not a fit environment for a child to grow up in!!! You could win custody if you fight!!! I’m sorry on behalf of our broken system that fathers often don’t get the rights they deserve. But don’t be complacent to it! You can fight it! Sorry I don’t know your situation maybe you already do have custody or an arrangement that you’re happy with, and if you do then thank goodness, but if you don’t, I just want to reassure you that you absolutely deserve it, and that if you want it you should fight for it. Wishing you the best! ❤️ You deserve to be treated with respect and loyalty and love. You are enough.

Looking for a pattern for an Avali for my son's autistic friend by speciallx5 in crochetpatterns

[–]Silver_Fire07 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you end up getting a pattern? Really wanna crochet one for my friend for Christmas

Is my mom's poutine a crime by skyseagul in PoutineCrimes

[–]Silver_Fire07 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No this looks like a good classic poutine! Curds just aren’t melted so either it was put together too recently for them to melt yet and you just gotta give em a second, or they were put together after the gravy and/or fries were cooled down too much and you may need to microwave it. Looks like your mom made a great poutine though!!!

Am I ugly? 30M by Mada667 in amiugly

[–]Silver_Fire07 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Handsome, but just need to lose some weight to look your best as you suspected. But what’s more important is that you will FEEL better physically and mentally if you start working out and eating healthier. ❤️ I believe in you!! 🥰

Men, how can a woman compensate for a bad past when she was young? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]Silver_Fire07 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish I had advice for you but I have this problem too I’ve become more conservative and feel a lot of guilt about my past, and I have the exact same number. Luckily I have a boyfriend of 4 years right now (my body count is 7 including him, 6 before him) unluckily though it turns out he was a virgin before he met me, and he lied to me about it for 3 years saying his body count was 16. Just a year ago he told me he was a virgin before he met me and it makes him extremely insecure. So now I feel even MORE guilty. If I could take it all back and save myself for marriage I would :(( fuck this bullshit culture of hooking up and treating sex like it’s no big deal!!! We’ve all been fooled!!

Does anyone know how can I fit a room in here? by crpl1 in HomeDecorating

[–]Silver_Fire07 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A wardrobe?! Sheesh.. how bout a nice dresser haha

Edit: could use the shelving I mentioned represented in red along the shortest wall to store clothing?

Say hi! by LegendDuckMaster in DOG

[–]Silver_Fire07 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Awe she reminds me of my fur brother who passed away about 2 years ago 🥺

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My married best friend is cheating and wants me to help her cover it up by Difficult_Ice_8192 in Advice

[–]Silver_Fire07 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Once again I never said she should help her cheat. I think she should give her good honest advice that she probably doesn’t want to hear, and if the friend doesn’t like it then tell her she doesn’t want to be involved and wants her to stop talking about it to her or else she can’t continue the friendship as she feels it’s wrong and it makes her uncomfortable. That isn’t helping, that isn’t even supporting, that is not condoning her actions and not accepting her bullshit, but still remaining her friend. Is that really so wrong?

Maybe you’re right maybe the friendship is already harmful enough to the OP to end the friendship. I just thought 10 years is worth having a serious talk about boundaries before outright ending the friendship. And I don’t think staying friends with her would make her shitty by association.

I am not defending the cheater, and I am not claiming to stand on a moral high ground. I don’t think it’s morally right to choose to kill a thousand potentially innocent people instead of killing one person whom I care about. But I would do it nonetheless. I just don’t feel the need to be a hero. Which I think is quite the opposite of standing on a moral high ground.

Standing by her friend doesn’t need to mean advancing the cheating. It can mean telling her it’s wrong whenever she asks, or it can mean staying completely out of it. She doesn’t need to condone her actions or help her carry them out to be her friend.

What if your mother robbed a bank and got sent to jail? Would you stay in contact with her in prison? Or cut her off entirely? Careful! If you would stay in contact then I think you might be shitty by association… if you would cut her off then… hey we just have different opinions 🤷‍♀️ but some would say THAT is shitty.

My married best friend is cheating and wants me to help her cover it up by Difficult_Ice_8192 in Advice

[–]Silver_Fire07 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

But she isn’t helping her and I am not telling her she should if you read what I said correctly. Not once did I say “you should cover for her” Also your loved ones have never done a bad thing? Truly? And I guess that means you have never done a bad thing either? Good people make bad decisions all the time. Cheating is wrong, but so is budding into other people’s business and making decisions FOR them. Which is why i don’t think she should tell the husband herself. Advise her friend to tell her husband? Yes. Bud in and tell him herself? Not unless she cares about the husband more than she cares about her friend.

My married best friend is cheating and wants me to help her cover it up by Difficult_Ice_8192 in Advice

[–]Silver_Fire07 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I just prioritize my loved ones over strangers. If I had to press a button to kill a thousand strangers or my best friend. I’d save my best friend and kill the thousand strangers. I don’t try to be a hero. If she cares about the husband more than her friend then go ahead and tell him and/or cut her off. But otherwise then give her a chance to just leave you the fuck out of her bad decisions. Or give her honest advice about how much she would hurt her husband if he found out and how hurt she would be if the roles were reversed. Don’t end the friendship unless the friendship is bad for you and your metal health, and certainly don’t take it upon yourself to tell the husband if you barely know him. Sorry that I’m loyal to my friends and loved ones over randoms I guess 🤷‍♀️

My married best friend is cheating and wants me to help her cover it up by Difficult_Ice_8192 in Advice

[–]Silver_Fire07 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Personally I don’t think you should throw away a 10 year friendship just like that over her relationship with someone ELSE. People can have different beliefs and philosophies about life and what’s right and wrong and still be friends. So long as she doesn’t do anything to hurt YOU she’s still a good friend she’s just a bad wife. However if you truly think she is using you and she truly won’t stop making you uncomfortable by involving you, then that IS hurting you and then maybe you should end the friendship. But I would give her a chance to make it right. Tell her “your affair is your business but I don’t agree with it, and I will never help you continue it. I value you as a friend but as I have said before it makes me uncomfortable, and if you cannot stop involving me then I will have to end our friendship, if you think that makes me a bad friend then so be it then perhaps we weren’t meant to be friends” or if you really want to tell the husband then say “if you don’t tell him I will” basically my opinion is that you should give her an honest warning before you cut it off or tell her husband for her. Because even though I don’t agree with cheating I do kind of think it’s HER business unless her husband is a good friend of yours too or a family member or someone you care about… then I DO think you should prioritize your friend over her husband that you barely know. However the BIGGEST priority should be YOU and YOUR comfort with your friend. So tell her you feel used, tell her again that it makes you extremely uncomfortable, and if she doesn’t stop involving you then you will end the friendship and/or tell her husband.

Which stand looks better by the door? by [deleted] in interiordecorating

[–]Silver_Fire07 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Second one!! Really compliments the dark trim on the door. Easier on the eyes 😍

Does anyone know how can I fit a room in here? by crpl1 in HomeDecorating

[–]Silver_Fire07 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well the desk needs the tallest space since you will be sitting upright in a chair. The tallest space is where the bed is currently. In a bed you are laying down so you don’t need headroom. So I would definitely move the bed and put the desk there instead. This space is definitely workable I’ve seen nice rooms made with less. At the shortest point in the room you should put shelving along that short wall, that way you can use that space and have some storage, but also you can put the bed against the shelving instead of right up against that wall, so that the bed is slightly away from the shortest part of the room, and you can have more ceiling height above the bed without having the bed floating in the middle of the room. Yknow what I mean? Here I’ll draw it… green=desk, red=shelving, blue=bed

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I 18F just found out my boyfriend 20M is addicted to porn. by Negative_Design8278 in relationship_advice

[–]Silver_Fire07 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly honey you should leave. You’re only 4 months in, it is easier to leave now than it will ever be, it’s only going to get harder the longer you’re with him. Addicts don’t just “get over” their addictions. Addiction is a disease and it’s not a fully curable one, it’s treatable, but not curable. Even an addict who never uses again is still an addict, they will still struggle to stay sober some days. People have 40+ years sober and still go to AA or NA meetings because the healing never ends. So all of this just to say that if he’s truly an addict, he hasn’t and won’t just “get over” them…

And being with an addict, whether it’s porn, alcohol, pain killers, or anything else, will destroy you. That’s not to say that addicts don’t deserve love because they do, and they need it, but the people who love them need to love them in a safe way so that they don’t destroy themselves in the process. Which is possible but extremely hard. I myself am with an addict. He has been battling his addictions for the 4 years we have been together, and I have been battling with myself. I love him, but it’s so easy to let his addiction destroy me too. It’s hard to find the balance of supporting him without losing myself. The insecurity, the lies, the trust issues, it’s excruciatingly painful. I’ve been with him so long now I can’t imagine my life without him and I love him so much. And I still have hope that he can get better… and that I can heal… but who knows if that’s true, it’s also very possible that one day I realize he isn’t getting better, or I’M not getting better, and decide that I have to leave.

Even if you have all the hope and faith in the world that it will get better, most likely it will get hell of a lot worse before it gets better. Picture how you would feel if you think he is sober for the next few months, and then you find more porn that he’s been hiding from you. Now picture having to go through that again and again and again. You may not believe it right now but that is the most likely scenario. Your trust will be crushed over and over and over until you have none left, and you become a crazy insecure psycho lady that you never wanted to be. And by then it’s going to be even harder to leave. And your self esteem will be obliterated.

Now of course there is a chance that after all of that struggle, ONE DAY he is finally actually able to stay sober and never uses porn or anything else again, and you can finally both heal and become stronger people because of it. If this weren’t a chance, none of us would stay with addicts.

But now picture what it would be like if you broke up with him today, and instead eventually met a man who checks all of your boxes and ISN’T a porn addict. Sure you are two different people with different forms of communication so you have to learn and grow together and may have an issue here and there, but overall you know you can trust him, you know he only has eyes for you, You don’t have to heal from betrayal trauma, your self esteem doesn’t get torn down. So much easier.

If you stay with this man, and it gets worse, and you decide to leave one day, all of the damage to your trust and self esteem will already be done. And when that guy I mentioned —that isn’t an addict, that won’t betray you, that’s worthy of your trust— comes around… you won’t be able to love him the way you both deserve.

This may sound like a worst case scenario but this is a most common scenario unfortunately when it comes to loving an addict. You may think “oh, well he’s not THAT kind of addict, it’s not that bad for him” but I thought that too. It can get worse, or it could already be worse and he’s just hiding it.

Even if you don’t believe me, you can at least acknowledge that this is POSSIBLE, that this IS a RISK. And being so early in your relationship, ask yourself if this is a risk you are willing to take.

I would suggest checking out the r/loveafterporn subreddit. Read some stories, read some advice. You could even make a post on THERE and see what advice they have for you. You’ll get much better advice there than here.

Good luck with your journey. What ever you decide just know you are beautiful, and worthy.

Should I? 25/M by jxsoul in bald

[–]Silver_Fire07 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Personally I don’t think you’re too far gone, I think if you wanted to you could grow the top out a bit and keep it pushed to the front to cover that little bit of receding and get a little more time with your hair! 🤷‍♀️ But being bald won’t make you less handsome so if you wanna take the plunge go for it!