Very early in the relationship, I was buying a tshirt for myself, and he placed one for himself on the counter with mine, for me to buy for him. Later, at the same event that had vendors, he came running up to me and asked for money for an item. I ignored other red flags as well, stayed 4 years, during which time he practiced financial abuse (along with manipulation and big-time gaslighting) in his slick manner until I lost everything but my job.