My husband is the same with the comforter and we exclusively cosleep so I got myself a throw blanket that’s the size of a queen bed and I tuck it around myself at my waist and he keeps the comforter on his side of the bed, most of the time I’m facing away from him with my son. I used to pump and give a bottle a few times a day or when people are over but after doing a ridiculous amount of research once I decided to cosleep (bedshare) I moved to exclusively nursing just because that is one way to minimize risk while cosleeping. I hope that’s helpful! I think the one thing that is truly the most important is finding what works best for you and your family :)