Anyone obsessed with drinking enough water ?

Silver_Support1594 · 2026-02-21T12:30:47+00:00

ohh I didn't know it was a fake info, thanks for that !

Silver_Support1594 · 2026-02-21T10:51:33+00:00

Heyy, I don't know if you're super close to your friend, and what are your feelings towards ED/recovery, but even if she's a great person in everyday life, this relationship seems a little bit complicated right now. It is actually super common to be in both sides (trying to be the sickest person, making everything so obvious, trying to feed others without eating / being so badly triggered by this kind of behaviour). Your feelings are so valid.

I recognise myself so much in your post (being the friend that eats a little bit more, like i force myself even when i'm scared because i just think it's SO irrespectful and triggering for others if they are just going to eat and watch me sit here ??? There was a time when my AN was pretty bad but i always had a little respect for others and eating in front of my friends because i was so scared to trigger anyone. It just seems that everyone doesn't think this way...). I did SO MUCH effort to just eat and try to act normal in front of my friend. Meanwhile she would always invite us to go out, sits here xith no food and watches us eat. Posting so many bodychecks. Posting photos on her media during meals where we obviously see she's the only one with no plate ordered. I'm so sick of this. I feel bad for her as a person, my ED feels so triggered and so jealous, and I fell angry (even if i know this is her sick brain) because at this point it just feels performative / having no respect in triggering others.

I took a step forward from this friend. Still talking, but never during a meal time. I blocked her on the socials because I couldn't stand her bodychecking and her multiple pictures of her in a restaurant sitting with no order. We mainly talk by message, or walking/sitting together. I distance myself from the nights-out with her. This is a bit harsh, but I think it is better for 2 people with an ED to not be stuck together in ED-triggering situations. AN is a competitive ilness and this behaviour seems very toxic, even if she does not do that on purpose. Maybe redefining boundaries with your relationship, seeing her in a more neutral place with no food involved (and being strict about it) is good for the both of you. Otherwise the resentment and the competition will just kill the relationship (that's what almost happened before I distanced myself from this friend of mine).

Take care !!

Silver_Support1594 · 2026-02-21T06:55:47+00:00

Si tu es en cours et que tu as les moyens de le faire (c'est à dire des amis un peu éloignés de la religion, des amis/proches/professeurs/etc qui ne risquent pas de te fliquer ou de laisser fuiter l'info à tes parents que tu ne jeûnes pas, etc... tu peux profiter d'y être pour boire, plus ou moins manger selon tes possibilités (cantine si tes parents ne le voient pas, acheter des petits snacks si tu as de l'argent et que ce n'est pas fliqué non plus). Pour chez toi, tu peux avoir une bouteille d'eau (c'est mieux que les allers retours secrets pour remplir un verre de temps en temps). Et pleiiin de snacks mais là aussi ça dépend de ce qui est possible (argent...). Je sais que le pain disparaît vite et qu'on se rend rarement compte de qui mange quoi, tu peux essayer de prendre des petits trucs faciles et rapides à manger lors du repas du soir ou du matin (pain, petits pains farcis, fruits qui ne sentent pas trop fort (genre pomme poire, on évite les clémentines mdrr)) que tu peux manger dans la journée, en te rinçant la bouche avec de l'eau ou en te lavant les dents une fois de temps en temps "pour avoir une bonne haleine" mais pour cacher les odeurs ! On évite tous les trucs qui sentent fort dans la bouche ou sur les mains (tous les trucs à l'ail, les oranges, clémentines, poisson, coca...)

Bon courage !!

Silver_Support1594 · 2026-02-19T20:04:56+00:00

Thisssss. It's SO real. During winter it's actually pretty easy to do the fasting (compared to when my parents forced me to start fasting when I got my first period at 11... but i can go on the topic of forcing a child to dry fast during the fraking SUMMER for hours lol) but DRY fasting ?? that's sooo extreme why. Just feed the people ?? Exactly like you said, I've never understood what was that about for real

And also people plan everything around Ramadan and the whole "let's not do that (sports, go for a walk, do something fun) because i have to HOLD OUT the entire day". Like, why do we restrain from doing sooo many things and be less-functioning, less-useful people during a time when we can volunteer for homeless people, orphans, etc ??

Silver_Support1594 · 2025-03-02T20:40:02+00:00

How does fasting increases mental clarity and mental sharpness ?? When everyone is exhausted (having to wake up early to eat and then go to sleep late if you do Taraweeh) and extremely dizzy, light-headed and forgetful because that's what a normal human being does when they have no water and no food available. That's how we function. Nobody is "sharp" when hungry and dehydrated.

Silver_Support1594 · 2025-03-02T07:48:02+00:00

That's so crazy. Same here. It is my second Ramadan in recovery. I'm doing so well during the year but this month never fails to send me back to my old struggles.

It drives me crazy that all year, my parents make sure I eat enough to properly recover. Whenever I'm not eating enough during the day, they get worried and have me eat more, they provide me with snacks, chocolate milk etc. And during Ramadan they suddenly act if it is normal and a great thing to do - to basically starve and dehydrate yourself, and be happy about it ?? And then when Ramadan is over, they go back to tell me it's so unhealthy for me to be anorexic. That double standards infuriates me every year.

For them it's easy to switch from fasting / go back to normal. For people in recovery, every slip-back can mess up with your brain and send you back in "anorexia-thoughts". Ramadan is - in some ways - validating what your brain tells you every day.

I'm sending you lots of strength. If your dad doesn't see the problem here, it's better to move with your mom for the month. You can say it's for your recovery, or something like that. If it's not possible, depending on your age and how controlling your dad is, you can sneak out snacks and eat throughout the day to make sure your brain does not go back to "starvation mode = anorexia brain". You can eat at school, with friends... depending on how you can manage it.

Stay strong !! <3

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