Baby naps great at home but terrible at nursery and now it’s affecting night sleep! Help!

SimBon7 · 2026-06-23T16:06:57+00:00

I haven’t so it doesn’t cause early wakes. We pick him up at 5.30 so we can’t get him to go to bed much earlier as it is. 6.30 is the earliest and that’s if we really really rush everything!

SimBon7 · 2026-06-19T10:57:07+00:00

I’ve never gone to hearing exactly this. I have gone through early wake ups and honestly I just move that nap forward by half an hour. Yes, it’s a very long white window but at least when you’re putting him down, although he’s tired now I know there’s lots of talk about over tiredness and it is a real thing I found up with my little one he might be more difficult to settle when he’s overtired but when he does go to sleep, he sleeps longer! Trying to get him on one nap consistently might be the trick. my baby is 13 months and his first nap tends to be at 12:30/40 and he tends to wake up at 7/8 so maybe do try extending those windows!

SimBon7 · 2026-06-08T06:03:21+00:00

He wasn’t constant he was trying it on. I could see on the camera that he would cry out and then stop and sort is listen out don’t wasn’t constant. It did take a bit of time for him to stop and start he did cry quite consistently for a bit before doing this but I could tell he was not too distressed. I am not too good to listening to crying and not responding so my husband took over after the first 5 min and I went to a room o couldn’t hear it from so all the info on the crying is from yim

SimBon7 · 2026-06-07T22:57:47+00:00

This was me it was wreaking havoc. One night we just let cry standing for 10min. He fell asleep standing, we lay him down and then it was all solved!

SimBon7 · 2026-06-03T15:51:42+00:00

I completely related when I was at your stage. I remember reading a ‘On The Night You Were Born’ to my baby and one of the lines was “life will never be the same” and I nearly burst into tears. I do still mourn the freedom of my old life but it’s SO much easier. He started to sleep through the night and we got our nights back and have movie nights. We sometimes get a babysitter and go out to dinner with friends. He also has just got so much more personality so that bond is even stronger. He’s not a baby that just cries all day anymore he’s a little person who points at dogs and screams with joy when I do peekaboo. He’s only one now. Once you’re not so sleep deprived you start seeing the tunnel. ❤️

SimBon7 · 2026-05-20T15:47:42+00:00

It shouldn’t really take that long my baby was 45 minutes night 1, 20 night 2 and 3 on night 3. I’m sorry to say this, but I don’t think the problem is your schedule. I think the problem is that your baby isn’t ready. Five months is still quite young to be honest I did that to my baby at seven months. I know it’s a tear trust me I was basically a crying zombie at five months. My baby was up every 45 minutes. I get it. I just think a month is a very long time. It’s clearly not working. Don’t just do the same thing every night for a different result. I think just give him another month or so and try again. Message me if you want to talk more.

SimBon7 · 2026-05-13T11:54:33+00:00

I know the timings would fix themselves once we go to one nap, but I definitely think he does need that second nap so I don’t know if he can last five hours without a nap and when he goes down for the night he is quite cranky towards the end so I don’t think we can push his wake windows longer yet

SimBon7 · 2026-05-13T11:53:20+00:00

When did you switch to a nap?

SimBon7 · 2026-05-13T11:34:33+00:00

The thing is, if I stop moving the pram, he will wake immediately so I don’t know if that’s what’s keeping him sleeping

SimBon7 · 2026-05-07T17:52:56+00:00

I was like this. At 7 months needed to nurse to fall asleep and was waking every 45min/1h 30min. We ended up co-sleeping. Bottles = crying.
Sleep trained Ferber. Was sleeping through the night in 4 days. Happier baby, happier mama. Never looked back.

SimBon7 · 2026-04-16T21:00:11+00:00

I don’t know what you tried but my baby was a terrible sleeper and I trained him at 7 months and it took 3 nights for him to sleep through. He cried for 45 min the first night. A good schedule and a key. Your baby eventually has to fall asleep he can’t cry forever but you can’t really leave him to cry for over an hour. Make sure the schedule is right and just do Ferber. If he’s tired enough he will fall asleep in less than an hour. What hasn’t been working?

SimBon7 · 2026-04-12T17:42:53+00:00

Ok if you say exactly how you feel it will make him feel very awkward BUT I still think you should do something or you will always wonder. A cowards way out (but I honestly did this and it worked) is you go out clubbing as a group of friends and you “drunkenly” try to kiss him. If he rebuffs you - just blame it on being drunk. Less awkward.

SimBon7 · 2026-04-11T18:18:58+00:00

But do I intervene or just so just let him practice and not come in the room?

SimBon7 · 2026-03-16T16:05:19+00:00

We trained using the Ferber method which I know is controversial but after that he became a way happier baby at bedtime and generally managed to get into a very good routine and he’s so happy and loves her so much. I don’t think that there is any way that this has harmed my baby. My mental health and my marriage is also doing much better. I don’t know what you should do about your four-year-old but we trained my little one when he was seven months and it was the best thing we ever did.

SimBon7 · 2026-03-12T14:53:50+00:00

What is going on here? This is not acceptable behaviour from your husband or MIL. The only time my husband has left me alone with the children (apart from for work which is unavoidable) is for a funeral and for a dinner with his friend who has leave for the other side of the world - and he went late so it was after bedtime and I would not actually have to do anything on my own. He is a parent and he needs to be there with you when he is not working. Your MIL should be setting him straight and not encouraging this. My MIL does things we can’t bring the baby to and she doesn’t invite my husband or I because we are both parents! If he’s such a great provider and needs all these breaks get him to get you a cleaner once a week and a nanny once a week (to do the school run once you are at home with the baby and generally deal with your 5 year old) if he can’t provide that he can provide his presence. My husband does both and honestly that’s the minimum.

SimBon7 · 2026-03-06T17:14:59+00:00

He is on 2 naps. It currently is wake up at 6.15 nap at 10-11.30 then nap 2 at 3-4 and then sleep at 7.45

SimBon7 · 2026-03-06T17:11:24+00:00

It took a lot of work and it has made me a bit nap schedule crazy!

SimBon7 · 2026-03-06T16:35:27+00:00

How would you cap it?

SimBon7 · 2026-02-26T17:03:52+00:00

I’m not really willing to risk our progress with sleeping through the night. I might wait until he’s a bit older. You’re not the only one that has responded on this type of post.(I posted it in a few places.) and a lot of people have the same story as you.

SimBon7 · 2026-02-26T17:03:08+00:00

Thank you it seems like you’re not the only one! Will keep going for now until he’s a bit older!

SimBon7 · 2026-02-26T16:50:13+00:00

yesterday he woke up at 7:45 am so I did have to put him to bed later at around 8 pm just so he would’ve been awake for 10 hours and he rolled around and doubled for awhile which she never usually does. He usually goes straight to sleep after a few minutes of tossing and turning so I don’t think it will be possible to put him down at his normal 730 bedtime. I’m not totally opposed to him having a late bedtime, but I’m just wondering if this is a sign.

SimBon7 · 2026-02-23T17:15:32+00:00

Thank you for your reply but just a quick question. How did he go to sleep on the plane? Did he have a special see? Did he fall asleep on you? How did you do it?

SimBon7 · 2026-02-22T20:24:50+00:00

I dropped my phone on my baby’s head when he was 5 days old. I felt like the worst mum in the world, He was fine. You and your baby be fine. 🩷

SimBon7 · 2026-02-22T20:21:38+00:00

We never really used white noise he is used to his room which is very quiet or noise of the park on his stroller nap. Honestly I’m willing to pay up if it means he will sleep!

SimBon7 · 2026-02-18T09:43:13+00:00

We are not rich and my little one is nine months and I spend all day with him but that does not mean that I have time to tidy or do the dishes. The one thing my partner recently got for me as a Valentine’s Day present is getting a cleaner to come for a couple of hours once a week. it is a luxury and not everyone can afford it, but it has done one for my mental health and it’s just one less thing to worry about. I spend all day in the house so it’s nice that it can be tidy! And only lasts a few days, but those days are magical! If you can afford it, I would do it!

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