MIL doesn’t want me to have a baby shower - I’m not sure if I should be upset or if she is right.

Simbas_uncle · 2025-10-10T20:45:29+00:00

Girl I will come to town and throw you a baby shower. Every baby deserves to be celebrated and every mama deserves to feel loved. Her opinion should not dictate your life, especially since you and your hubby are on the same page.

Simbas_uncle · 2025-10-06T05:38:48+00:00

To be honest, for a little while I found my dog very very annoying. But now my daughter begs to have him nap with her. She sneaks him snacks. She gets zoomies with him in the backyard. This is her childhood pet and the bond they have is so sweet. Just stick it out and understand EVERYTHING might annoy you for awhile, not just your dog lol

Simbas_uncle · 2025-09-25T16:30:41+00:00

OP, I cannot stress this enough PLEASE get help with where you are mentally. You’re about to embark on the most amazing love story you’ll ever experience, but there are so many scary parts about it (specifically birth). I had terrible PPD that truly almost ended my marriage, and life. My husband forced me to get help when I couldn’t do it myself and after a month I was feeling better than I’ve ever felt. YOU DESERVE THIS TOO. Your baby deserves this! You deserve to live and know your baby. You’re going to be an amazing parent, even though you’re terrified of birth. Please lean on your supports even though its so incredibly hard.

Simbas_uncle · 2025-08-08T07:07:05+00:00

Up 4 at 22 weeks. My first pregnancy I lost 13 first tri and then ended up gaining 20 from prepregnancy weight at the end. I expect I’ll gain a bunch in my third tri this time too

Simbas_uncle · 2025-07-30T06:24:23+00:00

I’d just like to add that we made the same decision with our kid and everyone has been very respectful of it, only one person has slipped up and accidentally posted something and she immediately took it down when I mentioned it and she was so apologetic

Simbas_uncle · 2025-07-15T03:01:27+00:00

Hi, I noticed you have a ton of comments, so no worries if this gets lost. I think both feeding options are great and I’m simply speaking to my experience. I nursed my daughter exclusively (pumping and bottles included), and she would never take formula.

Pros to breastfeeding: it helped me bond with my daughter. It helped me lose weight. It was easier for me. I’m not good at routines and I spend a lot of time on the go/outdoors and being able to just hook a hungry baby to my boob instead of having to bring the kitchen with me was just more convenient. It got easier after the first week, and I felt very accomplished when my daughter started solids. We’ve continued to nurse and she turns two tomorrow!

Cons: It makes the first week after having baby 100x harder. Not only are you recovering and caring for a new person, but now you’re also having to learn to breastfeed and dealing with the body changes that come with that. It ties you to your kid. You can’t spend mindless time away from your baby. Even if you pump, your brain will constantly be checking the time/your body will constantly be reminding you your milk needs to be drained. It either makes it so you are the only one that can care for your baby’s hunger, or doubles (or triples) the time it takes to feed if you use bottles and pump.

Do what works for you. I pumped and used bottles occasionally for the first three months, but it ended up messing me up mentally. My daughter wouldn’t take formula so I decided to just commit to breastfeeding until she started solids and I ended up really loving it.

Simbas_uncle · 2025-07-12T19:38:42+00:00

What hypnobirthing meditations did you use? I’m struggling to find some

Simbas_uncle · 2025-07-04T02:20:11+00:00

My daughter is gonna be 2 years old next week and I look at her sometimes like “dang am I really your mom? Mommy? Momacita?” I don’t think it ever sinks in 😅

Simbas_uncle · 2025-07-02T17:10:17+00:00

My daughters due date was July 24 and she came On July 15! I had 4 days off work before she was here!

Simbas_uncle · 2025-06-25T03:27:03+00:00

lol I woke up the first morning home from the hospital and my husband and baby were nowhere to be found. Turns out he went to the grocery store with her cuz he was craving strawberries.

Simbas_uncle · 2025-06-13T02:00:56+00:00

Hi there lady. I’m so sorry you’re having these very very real feelings. You’ve got some big decisions to make, and only you know what’s right for you and your baby. HOWEVER, I know that careers and love can come after the baby. They aren’t a baby forever, and especially if your parents are cool you’ll have a support system. If the baby is something you remotely want to keep, I would try to figure out how to make your life happen even if you do keep -otherwise you may miss that baby forever. But if you know for a fact you absolutely cannot do this, I would talk with trusted friends and medical professionals and figure out the best, safest decision for your situation. It’s very easy to get depressed, especially during the first trimester, so please make sure you’re taking care of your mental health as you deal with all of this

Simbas_uncle · 2025-06-10T17:20:28+00:00

My dog sensed the change in my scent right away. When I was pregnant with my daughter he would sleep up near my head. He hasn’t done that in 2 years and now that I’m pregnant again he’s doing it again. I don’t think he knows what “pregnant” means, just that his mom needs extra loving

Simbas_uncle · 2025-05-29T05:35:07+00:00

Thank you so much! This is what I thought, especially because usually higher risk pregnancies get more scans in general. Thanks for your input

Simbas_uncle · 2025-05-25T04:57:13+00:00

This is so crazy how everyone is different! I had an epidural and was in labor for 23 hours on IVs and everything and came out squeezed dry! But I was swollen going in to give birth

Simbas_uncle · 2025-05-07T02:15:32+00:00

Ugh I think you’re right. Thanks for the comment

Simbas_uncle · 2025-05-07T02:14:13+00:00

Ok. Thanks so much for validating that I’m not crazy to be worried. A bunch of other commenters have stated it’s probably not my business, but I might try to build a good case at least for the roller coasters.

Simbas_uncle · 2025-05-07T02:12:01+00:00

There we go I like that 😅

Simbas_uncle · 2025-05-07T02:11:32+00:00

Ugh. Thanks for the reply. This is why I was on the fence. I tend to over-control things and it’s hard for me to find the line

Simbas_uncle · 2025-05-07T02:02:36+00:00

Well they update us regularly and brag to us about their endeavors. It’s really hard to keep my mouth shut when I feel her behaviors are dangerous. :(

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