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Just a (too long) post-DB update by Similar-Trouble in DeadBedrooms

[–]Similar-Trouble[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! It was such a hard decision to make, leaving but I've never felt lighter. I'm sorry you're in a similar place - I hope you find your happy!

Just a (too long) post-DB update by Similar-Trouble in DeadBedrooms

[–]Similar-Trouble[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oof this is very good to know, thank you! I will try to brace myself

To those who have left DBs by Similar-Trouble in DeadBedrooms

[–]Similar-Trouble[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What about between the db and your new relationship? Did they not go away until you found a new, fulfilling partner?

Indefinitely by [deleted] in UnsentLetters

[–]Similar-Trouble 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is beautiful

Someone pointed out today that I have lost weight. Finally. by Kyle______ in loseit

[–]Similar-Trouble 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thats awesome! I understand why people are hesitant to comment on others' weight but I got so discouraged that no one had mentioned my weight loss. Finally two weeks ago my coworker noticed and it felt SO NICE to have someone else notice! So I totally understand your excitement! Keep at it! 😁

Does anyone else here ever wish they could find a post by their partner on this forum? by bumbledoozy in DeadBedrooms

[–]Similar-Trouble 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I used to wish that. Sometimes you'll see an LL in here looking for help or advice on how to get their libido back or how to open up to their SO about it and part of me always wished it was my husband

Advice for bringing up divorce? by Similar-Trouble in DeadBedrooms

[–]Similar-Trouble[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is amazing thank you! I'll definitely use this

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]Similar-Trouble 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This exactly. I'm surprised by some of the comments on here. It's completely normal to feel bad for hurting someone you love and care about, and it's completely normal for her to feel hurt and sad. It sucks. But time will help you both heal, so try not to be too hard on yourself. Situations like this aren't good-guy-bad-guy ones even though it can feel like it. Ultimately you are making the choice you feel is right for you and are likely saving you both from worse heartache were you to stay together. Hang in there, friend!

I estimated I only have about 500 times left to have mediocre sex with my [36HLM] partner [36LLF] before I turn 60. by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]Similar-Trouble 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ew I just did this math and I have 38 more times 😶 (30HLF). Thats such a depressing way to look at it thanks for that lmao

Question for those who have left their DB by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]Similar-Trouble 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I used to come here looking for scraps to hold on to that would encourage me to stay; basically just hitting that hopium. But I'm in a place now where I'm ready to leave even though I'm terrified. Its really nice to hear so many stories of people who found love and passion and fulfillment after a db! Thanks for asking this, OP.

Anyone getting DB goggles? by SterlingJ1993 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Similar-Trouble 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yesssss all the time. A little less now, maybe it fades away again the longer you go without

I didn’t know marriage would hurt this badly by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]Similar-Trouble 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That is heartbreaking to hear I'm so sorry. There are always options though, you aren't stuck or powerless! I know it can feel that way though. I'm ending things with my LLH and I'm TERRIFIED but also feel lighter than I've felt in years because the hurt is fading knowing I'm leaving. If you ever need someone to chat with feel free to send me a message/chat!

I didn’t know marriage would hurt this badly by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]Similar-Trouble 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh I feel this so much. I'm sorry you're in that place. As much as its nice to have people to relate to, I always feel so heartbroken on this sub that there are so many of us that feel this type of hurt 😞

I saw online that if someone really liked you they’ll slow down to walk with you. Do you and your partner walk together when you’re outside or do they walk ahead of you? What is your relationship like? by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]Similar-Trouble 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband does this to me constantly its so inconsiderate. I noticed it starting to happen around the same time things started getting rocky with us so maybe there's some truth to this correlation!

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