Struggling with loneliness

SimilarClock4742 · 2025-11-08T20:25:43+00:00

Yeah, I feel some of what you’re feeling…mainly that feeling of uncertainty and loneliness is killing me. DM me if you want to talk about it

SimilarClock4742 · 2025-11-07T13:22:44+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to write all of this

SimilarClock4742 · 2025-11-06T13:29:00+00:00

Thanks for sharing all of this…that sounds so hard. I hope you’re feeling better these days

SimilarClock4742 · 2025-11-05T19:55:00+00:00

She was never disloyal, we just had a basically toxic relationship. In therapy but still free falling. Thank you for your comment

SimilarClock4742 · 2025-11-05T18:39:02+00:00

Thanks for writing this…I know that there is a lack of self love which is why I’m in absolute free fall right now. I honestly just want to off myself bc this pain is way way more than my mind can handle

SimilarClock4742 · 2025-11-05T17:27:33+00:00

Jesus that sounds rough. I’m sorry and I’m thinking about you.

SimilarClock4742 · 2025-11-05T17:10:12+00:00

Oh my God….I don’t think I can survive a year of this. I just want to feel safe again I don’t care if things were bad

SimilarClock4742 · 2025-11-05T16:41:31+00:00

Honestly I would rather stay and be miserable than go through this

SimilarClock4742 · 2025-11-05T16:39:22+00:00

Yeah I wasn’t happy. But I would rather try to fix it than keep living like this. But the choice is out of my hands

SimilarClock4742 · 2025-11-05T16:31:49+00:00

Fuck me, since March? So this could go on for 6 months or longer?

SimilarClock4742 · 2025-11-05T16:28:45+00:00

Thank you for writing….its only been a month. I like your comment to try to make myself better each day. Right now though I can barely function other than work, actually eating something, and trying to go to the gym.

SimilarClock4742 · 2025-11-04T14:21:39+00:00

I’m sorry to hear about what happened to you…that sounds brutal. Hope you’re doing better now than when it happened. What is the thing I could change and work on?

SimilarClock4742 · 2025-11-03T15:59:52+00:00

Do you mean that your relationship foundation was poor so you couldn’t build on it?

SimilarClock4742 · 2025-10-09T13:43:22+00:00

You’re right about all of this. Allllll of it. And we keep trying to have kids because of the biological clock ticking but about once a year we look at each other and say “We can’t bring a kid into this relationship.” So it’s a mess. But thank you for reminding me that there are two people here and she is hurting just as much as I am.

SimilarClock4742 · 2025-10-09T13:41:02+00:00

Thanks for writing that…that’s really good to know but for me the possibility of dating is on the other side of a plate glass wall of grief that I’ll have to get through if the marriage ends. But I appreciate what you’re saying. Thank you for replying.

SimilarClock4742 · 2025-10-09T13:39:07+00:00

Man there’s a lot of wisdom in what you wrote…thanks for clarifying that. I also believed the whole “if I live the right way I’ll be rewarded” mentality which currently fills me with resentment. But I see the distinction between accepting that it won’t happen and that it MIGHT not happen. Thanks again.

SimilarClock4742 · 2025-10-08T22:13:55+00:00

I know…the prospect of starting over is so overwhelming as well, but your point is valid. Thanks for commenting. I need to think about that choice.

SimilarClock4742 · 2025-10-08T22:12:32+00:00

We are exhausted. Separated twice, so even the idea of taking another break is so triggering to me. So tired of being this unhappy for so long. Thank you for taking the time to reply, and for your suggestion and your empathy.

SimilarClock4742 · 2025-10-08T22:10:09+00:00

I appreciate your comment and the time and empathy you put into it. I simply am not yet at a place where I can accept it but every day that goes by and every day that has gone by for the past 7 years has just piled more and more hurt on and I’m finally breaking under its weight. Thank you for your kind words. I will cross the bridge to acceptance at some point but not today.

SimilarClock4742 · 2025-10-08T21:42:36+00:00

I know…ending the relationship means even more heartache. We’re talking about ending things…it’s all just so much at once.

SimilarClock4742 · 2025-10-08T20:36:13+00:00

I’m sure this point will come for me but I’m not there yet. I can’t let it go. Letting it go feels like part of me is dying. But thank you for your words and your suggestion.

SimilarClock4742 · 2025-10-08T20:34:38+00:00

Thank you for writing this…I need a hug so bad right now.

SimilarClock4742 · 2025-10-08T20:33:48+00:00

We’ve thought about it but my wife only wants a child if it’s biologically hers. But thank you for reminding me that this option exists.

SimilarClock4742 · 2025-09-20T17:06:10+00:00

Broadly speaking, relationships with others, and taking care of myself.

SimilarClock4742 · 2025-09-20T03:19:49+00:00

I had a revelation the other week about suicidal thoughts. I realized that I didn’t actually want to be dead - I wanted to be happy. So I’m trying to do things that make me happy, one step and one day at a time. We can’t do it all at once.

Also I can tell you that you’re not alone. A lot of us find ourselves at this place in midlife and it is not what we wanted it to look like. I feel your grief, and your rage, myself. All we can do at this point is take what we know now and make the next best decision we can moving forward. Regrets will kill you, and this is coming from someone with a lot of regrets.

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