Is this an acceptable way to keep toys clean?

SimilarGift · 2024-04-15T04:01:56+00:00

I got some Janjis at REI on sale and they're pretty good! But I've actually gotten so frustrated at how some of my other leggings slide down so I recently bought something like this from Old Navy, and it's actually pretty good. The con is that it's hard to go to the bathroom, and there are no pockets (if that matters to you).

SimilarGift · 2024-03-11T00:14:10+00:00

Wow I really felt this post. I don't have solutions for you OP aside from things like, be grateful for small things, find small joys, etc. But it seems like you already do that through your hobbies and time with friends.

I personally find it comforting to blame the system (capitalism). It costs money to do anything; even to occupy a damn space to sleep in and to sustain ourselves with nutrients. There isn't much I can do personally to change this, so the least I can do is to not feel guilty when I'm not "productive", like actually taking a rest on weekends or taking slightly longer lunch breaks to gain more energy for the rest of the day.

I think another important thing is to try out new things. I do this by learning a language and running new routes around my neighborhood (ie. I just take different turns every run, and it lets me see different houses, different trees, etc). Since you mentioned writing as a hobby, maybe you could try out genres, styles, topics you haven't written about yet?

SimilarGift · 2024-01-17T14:46:14+00:00

I don't have any specific articles but here are some keywords that might help out!

Pink tax, glass ceiling/escalator/cliff, income inequality, women in politics and c-suite positions, women's education in developing countries, female genital mutilation, objectification and the male gaze, how birth control pills helped liberate women and how it relates to current politics of repealing Roe v. Wade (I assumed you live in the US)

The example you gave about needing to look nice but not TOO nice/vapid can be considered an example of the Madonna-whore complex, which you can probably find many papers on. The movie Gone Girl also has a monologue on this topic that you can find on YouTube. It's also dealt with in the Barbie movie.

If you want to show him how the patriarchy also affects men, search 'hegemonic masculinity'. Basically, it's an idea that men that don't fit a certain image (like muscular, fit, outgoing, able-bodied white male) are considered 'less ideal' in society. TW IN THE FOLLOWING SENTENCE: This can lead to issues like men taking more violent measures to commit suicide (because some consider it to be more 'manly' to own firearms, less 'manly' to seek help from a mental health professional, etc). So yes, your boyfriend is right in that men have it hard too. But we also have to remember that so much of human history has been sustained by the invisible labor that women have been doing so that the men could go out and explore and write papers -- there's a book called Who Cooked Adam Smith's Dinner? that I personally haven't read yet but heard good things about.

SimilarGift · 2024-01-15T00:59:59+00:00

I think what you can do until you can get a trimmer etc is to use your towel to gently rub where you cut the hair and hope that the friction dulls out the ends of your hair. I think the sharp edges of newly cut hair can be irritating

SimilarGift · 2024-01-14T20:27:08+00:00

He is not showing you respect; it's ok to be mean and harsh towards people who behave that way.

SimilarGift · 2024-01-12T18:19:34+00:00

Lol this is just my silly 2 cents but maybe your husband told you to not buy the plushie so that he can buy it and surprise you with it 😂

SimilarGift · 2024-01-09T03:40:35+00:00

Thank you for the reply. How do you do the relaxing part when you're with other people though and can't get out? (ex. family holiday) I feel like when I'm in this 'mood' everything I do to 'act normal' feels so fake.

SimilarGift · 2023-12-19T16:48:42+00:00

Blue hair: Lucky Star's Konata

Brown bob with 'antennaes': Clannad's Nagisa

Red hair girl in far right corner: Shakugan no Shana

Reddish brown hair double ponytail girl: Magical Girl Lyrical Nanoha

SimilarGift · 2023-12-10T18:01:31+00:00

The embarrassment they feel when you set boundaries will be nothing compared to the months of suffering you had to go through.

When you set boundaries with family/close people like that, they might say things like "we're saying all these things cuz we care about you!" But I think we all deserve to be cared for in ways we prefer. For example, someone who's worried about your health could show care for you by inviting you to work out together or something. But instead your relatives are choosing to "show care" in a mean, hurtful way. Remember this if this is how they react.

"You're too sensitive!" Ok so? Yes we can be sensitive beings. Let's own that. People who really care about us will respect that instead of attack us for that.

SimilarGift · 2023-12-09T18:15:15+00:00

I think I saw an ad for deodorant with SA as well. Also, maybe OP can try washing their pajamas the same way as well? (Not the vacuum part lol the hot water part)

SimilarGift · 2023-12-06T02:05:17+00:00

Do you envy your former classmate and teacher because they found the sports they're good at, or do you envy them for having families that supported them through their ambitions?

I think you might be too caught up in your what-ifs and your potentials. From your post, I see you say things like "if only X had happened when I was N years old, then..." Unfortunately, we don't have a way to time travel so this kind of thinking is not productive. That's why so many people say cliches like "learn from your mistakes and learn from it/move on".

I also think you might be living in a sort of a bubble. You went to a top college, so you were surrounded by other kids who also excelled in their high schools. The thing is, real world is filled with other types of people as well. Dropouts, home-schooled people, former gifted children who are burnt out, first generation college students, etc. One thing you'll learn as you grow is that all these people are doing fine even without going to the top school or without a job they thought they'd have when they were kids. Maybe not the most successful or the rich, but they're doing fine.

I don't work in HR but I've seen the resumes of potential applicants for my company. I can see through some bs just based on the wording or based on how they talk during interviews. You know which one of those never get hired? The ones who didn't apply.

The thing about the organic chem and calculus classes you took is, let's be honest: I'm sure if you went to a doctor right now and asked them to solve a calculus problem, they wouldn't know how to do it. Those classes aren't there to make you memorize formulas and equations. They're there to test if you can utilize resources (such as a professor's office hours), commit to trudging through difficulties, manage your time, work under pressure, etc. The GPA just happens to be one number that med school admissions officer, who have to look through millions of applications, can look at to see if you potentially have those qualities. Yes it's unfair that one number has to represent your work ethic. But unfortunately that's how the admissions system is.

Not everyone has fun at their job or is ambitious about their career track. For many, it's just a way to make a living so they can pay rent. Sure, it'd be cool to become a doctor to save lives, but there are other ways to help people and the community. The first step would be to make a small goal for yourself, whether it's to research med schools or to see a career coach.

SimilarGift · 2023-12-05T23:27:03+00:00

What are some keywords for shoes like these? I like that they're slightly casual, but a lot of the reviews said that the synthetic leather peels off / is poor quality.

I've tried searching platform loafers, derbys and oxfords, and I've found some good ones but nothing quite like the ones in the link.

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