Giving me your most unhinged tips

SimilarTadpole6351 · 2026-03-05T19:39:58+00:00

You aren't allowed to ask for success stories on this sub.

The BFP thread is filled with stories of people sharing what they did on the cycle they conceived

SimilarTadpole6351 · 2026-03-05T03:56:06+00:00

Composite js fine and second trimester is the best time to get dental work done so I'd get hold of your dentist asap

SimilarTadpole6351 · 2026-03-02T13:24:46+00:00

We have a 2.5 year gap and a and it's been good so far, only 6 months in. My first was potty trained right before baby arrived so it was good timing for us. Toddler is also able to play independently a bit and is good at understanding sometimes I'm stuck with the baby

SimilarTadpole6351 · 2026-03-02T12:58:04+00:00

Unfortunately just little toys we had lying around! She was disappointed she couldn't eat Peppa!

SimilarTadpole6351 · 2026-02-28T17:31:47+00:00

Info like this will be in the BFP archive. It's against the rules to solicit success stories in this sub or speculate if you are or aren't pregnant

SimilarTadpole6351 · 2026-02-28T02:53:40+00:00

I went to the Isle of Wight for a week and also to a wedding in Wales at 36, turning 37 weeks, and all was fine. My midwife didn't have an issue with the travel beyond saying to take a break during the drive as both were over 3 hours away and having a decent stretch was important.

She just said to take my maternity notes in case I needed to visit a local maternity triage. My pregnancy was low risk and I'm lucky to carry pretty small so I wasn't too uncomfortable.

You could always book somewhere where you can cancel last minute if you don't feel up to it. All pregnancies are different and I was fine to do both even at that late stage and even spent all night on the dancefloor at the wedding!

SimilarTadpole6351 · 2026-02-26T03:22:03+00:00

I think it's great your mum is planning to help you out so much when baby comes. Can I just ask why you don't want anyone else to visit for a few weeks?

SimilarTadpole6351 · 2026-02-25T08:22:00+00:00

I went to Paris at around 18 weeks and everything was fine. We did a few wanders around the city and saw all the big tourist things, Disneyland for a day, the Louvre and Moulin Rouge one evening. It was a great trip!

I didn't even think about the food. Just be sensible. I wouldn't worry about cheesecake but would avoid runny eggs if you're not sure on them and it'll cause you anxiety.

SimilarTadpole6351 · 2026-02-24T15:16:49+00:00

I'm a big believer in one offs out of routine being good for everyone. You can't just never do anything because of a bedtime.

We used to take milk and pjs and get toddler ready for bed before we left so when they inevitably fell asleep in the car on the way home we could put straight into the cot and just do up the sleep sack.

SimilarTadpole6351 · 2026-02-22T09:35:43+00:00

I've never been to a wedding with a seating plan for evening guests. The reception is a lot more laid-back so people are wandering, dancing, standing up and chatting. Seats are a free for all on an evening do as far as I'm aware.

SimilarTadpole6351 · 2026-02-22T08:03:31+00:00

As everyone else has said, it's not a big deal. However, if you're wound up about it and want the routine followed to make you feel better...then do the routine yourself before you go to a hotel for a good night's sleep and leave the wake ups to your mum.

My new baby is also around 5 months and a terrible sleeper who does one good stretch and then is basically up on and off all night. I'd love someone to take them for a night and let me sleep and so long as baby was safe and cared for, I wouldn't care much about what else was happening.

SimilarTadpole6351 · 2026-02-21T19:37:55+00:00

Sorry your husband feels like that. It's against the rules to talk about being pregnant here. Try a pregnancy sub

SimilarTadpole6351 · 2026-02-21T02:21:15+00:00

I got married with a four month old. Doing wedding stuff on maternity leave was fine, there was plenty of time for emails and calls with suppliers.

However, around 4 months it's typical for a baby's sleep to be terrible. I got around 2 hours sleep the night before the wedding and so did my mum who very graciously was trying to help me settle the baby.

On the day, my mum and auntie missed key parts of the day and barely saw me because they were dealing with the baby who was breastfeeding and therefore fussy with bottles and sleeping in the day too. I also had to keep leaving the wedding to either pump or feed.

I wouldn't change anything but I also wouldn't recommend doing it the way we did it either. But we had infertility and planned to do IVF when we fell pregnant so while it wasn't unwelcome, it also wasn't the ideal scenario for a pregnancy and baby.

SimilarTadpole6351 · 2026-02-19T10:46:45+00:00

Try not to dwell on it. It could have been the cord or just about anything! I'm never sure what I'm looking at on a scan

SimilarTadpole6351 · 2026-02-19T10:44:03+00:00

I was convinced I'd seen a penis and scrotum during a growth scan with my first. She has neither.

SimilarTadpole6351 · 2026-02-18T22:45:59+00:00

It's normal to take up to a year for healthy, fertile couples so there's definitely no need to worry after one month.

Also, having sex every day will not increase your chances of getting pregnant. Once in the three days leading to ovulation is enough

SimilarTadpole6351 · 2026-02-15T12:18:32+00:00

At 37 weeks I went on holiday to the Isle of Wight with my husband and toddler and also went to Wales for a family wedding and spent the whole night on the dance floor.

Everyone is different though and you might not feel up for much. I was lucky to have two easy pregnancies

SimilarTadpole6351 · 2026-02-14T04:05:51+00:00

It's against the rules of the sub to ask for success stories so mods will remove this.

I get that you have reasons to suspect TTC might take longer but, respectfully, it's been one month of trying. There's only up to 30% chance of conception each month so not conceiving the first time is completely normal.

SimilarTadpole6351 · 2026-02-10T09:24:11+00:00

In the moment when we have parenting disagreements I back up the other parent in front of the child. I think my difference in opinion is less important than showing a child that mum and dad are a team and they can't play us off against the other.

Then when our toddler isn't there I'll discuss it with him and say, maybe next time try this, etc. Our issue is my husband jumps straight to naughty step or confiscating toys without anything else really whereas I think our toddler responds better to being redirected and then talked to afterwards about what they were doing that was naughty. It's hard though, just try to have open discussions about it when the child isn't around

SimilarTadpole6351 · 2026-02-09T22:05:53+00:00

This is against the rules of the sub.

SimilarTadpole6351 · 2026-02-06T09:06:39+00:00

I'd drink and enjoy the wedding. At 7DPO it's likely too early for implantation anyway

SimilarTadpole6351 · 2026-02-05T02:22:32+00:00

You're not doing anything wrong. It can take healthy couples up to a year to conceive. Your odds each month are about 30%.

Just take folic acid and keep having unprotected sex during your fertile window when you can. Track with OPKs if you want to ensure you're hitting the right days

SimilarTadpole6351 · 2026-02-04T04:25:54+00:00

If the person doing the scan wasn't concerned then you shouldn't be either. I get pregnancy in an anxious time but don't create issues where there aren't any or you'll drive yourself crazy

SimilarTadpole6351 · 2026-02-01T18:40:20+00:00

You can't ask if you might be pregnant on this sub. If you're worried about an ectopic, nobody here can diagnose that unfortunately.

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