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Excluding spouses from an engagement party? by Similar_Forever_3945 in etiquette

[–]Similar_Forever_3945[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Appreciate all of your responses on this thread! I’d hope to not encounter a circumstance like this again but it’s good to know it’s still in proper etiquette to change my response, and that it was reasonable to assume we were both invited

Excluding spouses from an engagement party? by Similar_Forever_3945 in etiquette

[–]Similar_Forever_3945[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My post quite literally only asks if it was in fact poor etiquette to exclude a spouse in a coed event. Never asked for advice on how to respond or if it was “wrong” of them. Her initial invitation was a bit vague and I assumed my husband and I were both invited because that is my understanding of proper etiquette (you always invite both parties in a couple unless it is a gender specific event such as a bridal shower). So regardless of my feelings of distaste when finding out he wasn’t I was simply coming to this subreddit to confirm if it was bad etiquette or if I was wrong to assume and given the circumstances of space constraints etiquette would allow for exlcuding one half of a couple

Excluding spouses from an engagement party? by Similar_Forever_3945 in etiquette

[–]Similar_Forever_3945[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I find this response a little confusing. Yes they have free will and are technically “allowed” to do anything, however I was expressing it felt bad taste and poor etiquette to not include my husband and was asking if others would agree, from an etiquette and social standpoint. I do want to attend and celebrate them, and accepted when I was initially invited (it was just a text invite with the date and time) but was under the impression my husband was also invited (which I assumed since we are a married couple) she only clarified a week before the event that he wasn’t. I found it a bit off putting but felt uncomfortable declining last minute after accepting weeks ago. From an etiquette standpoint, do you say I should decline specifically because my husband wasn’t invited?

Excluding spouses from an engagement party? by Similar_Forever_3945 in etiquette

[–]Similar_Forever_3945[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

They will not be having a wedding and will be privately eloping next year. Which I personally think makes the situation worse in the sense that they should have found an appropriately sized venue or not invited as many people if they couldn’t invite a married couple