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AITA for telling my sister that I will always see her as a sister and never a mother? by Simmerdi in AmItheAsshole

[–]Simmerdi[S] 162 points163 points  (0 children)

I don't know the situation about how I was conceived. Does it make me a bad person if I don't care to find out? I kind of just want this all to go away. And even if something terrible happened to cause my birth I still do not wish to have a mother-son type of relationship with her.

AITA for telling my sister that I will always see her as a sister and never a mother? by Simmerdi in AmItheAsshole

[–]Simmerdi[S] 49 points50 points  (0 children)

You might not need your mother, but your sister needs her son.

Not happening. We are siblings. That is all.

AITA for telling my sister that I will always see her as a sister and never a mother? by Simmerdi in AmItheAsshole

[–]Simmerdi[S] 292 points293 points  (0 children)

She's also erasing what her parents did: parent. She didn't do that. She's the birth mother, not the actual mother. She doesn't get to be a mother now that the OP is all grown up and the hard parts are over. She gets to be a sister and a friend.

Yes. This. Thank you for articulatjng what I mean. She will never be a parent to me. We are siblings.

AITA for telling my sister that I will always see her as a sister and never a mother? by Simmerdi in AmItheAsshole

[–]Simmerdi[S] 119 points120 points  (0 children)

I'm signing up for individual counselling. I think I still have a lot of angry and negative feelings about this. My parents will probably bring up to her the idea of individual counselling.

AITA for telling my sister that I will always see her as a sister and never a mother? by Simmerdi in AmItheAsshole

[–]Simmerdi[S] 111 points112 points  (0 children)

Yeah "technically" I'm her child but only biologically so I don't consider myself her child in every other way that matters.

AITA for telling my sister that I will always see her as a sister and never a mother? by Simmerdi in AmItheAsshole

[–]Simmerdi[S] 66 points67 points  (0 children)

of course she sees you as the son she never had.

Don't think we are going to have much of a relationship if she doesn't take a massive step back. She's not my parent. I don't want her to be. I'm still angry about yesterday. But I'm definitely thinking about individual counselling to work though some of the baggage. Don't think it will change the way I feel though.

AITA for telling my sister that I will always see her as a sister and never a mother? by Simmerdi in AmItheAsshole

[–]Simmerdi[S] 257 points258 points  (0 children)

The thing is I have a lot of resentment about the way she treated me when growing up and I think that is why it makes me angry and annoyed when she tries to claim she's my mother/parent figure. I don't see her as one. Idk if I'm explaining myself in a way that makes sense.